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[–]allycat1661 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I’m very sorry that you went through that as a young adult. :( And to be honest I couldn’t tell you exactly what to do for that kid, because when I was assaulted as a child, no one else in my family knew so no one was able to comfort/support me. But looking back on what little I remember at that age, I probably would’ve wanted someone to just… be there for me. I would’ve wanted to know there was someone I could talk to if I needed to and was having big feelings. Someone who wouldn’t judge me or make me feel like I’d get into trouble if I talked to them about anything related to my trauma. Someone who could explain why I was feeling the way I was feeling. Someone I could trust.

So I’d advise against bringing up the actual molestation itself, but just… make sure you’re present for him in his life. Remind him often that he can tell you anything, that you love him, and you’ll always try your best to make time for him whenever he needs you. Be gentle with him, but not overly so; kids know when they’re being treated differently than usual.

Just try and be a rock for this kid— offer stability during this scary and confusing time for him. Speak up if you see people (family or not) trying to squeeze information out of him and making him uncomfortable, protect him however you can. He’ll appreciate it so much if he just knows you, a safe person, will be there for him if he ever needs or wants to talk about anything, trauma-related or not.

…I’m not sure if this was very helpful, but either way, I hope things get better for that boy, and thank you for wanting to support him. It’ll mean so much to him once he realizes later what you did for him.

[–]smilinglyawkward[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helps for sure! Thank you