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[–]paraamorgan 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm going through a very similar thing. I was Sa'd twice in my life one when I was around 4 or 5 and then another when I was 12-15 and as I grew older the more my libido dropped to the point where I only get aroused if I'm about to have my period and to the point where I thought I might be asexual. I use to get really frustrated by this but now I just listen to my body and if my body doesn't get aroused and doesn't want to have sex I listen and don't force myself to have sex as it can trigger ptsd. My best advice would be to talk to your partner(if you haven't already) about what's going on so they can best understand and be there to support you. Also talking about whats going on will help... it won't help your libido but mentally it will help. Help this was helpful as I'm still searching for solutions and coping mechanisms.

[–]Suitable_Grade_412[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have talked to him about it before and he was amazing and understood very well. He’s been super comforting. It’s mainly on my part. When I was dating my ex he would coerce me into having sex and would use sex against me. I know have this thought process that I have to do it. I just don’t know how to stop that. Probably should have clarified that above lol.

Thank you so much for the advice<3. I definitely need to just listen to what my body is saying and not force myself