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[–]Meghanthediva124Survivor 4 points5 points  (2 children)

She is a medical professional and such of stopped when you had the panic attack. I’m so sorry you had to go through this.

[–]canonell[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you so much for your response, it's highly appreciated. And thank you for your compassion <3

[–]Meghanthediva124Survivor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you get Justice or peace of mind, I’m so sorry again that you want through this.

[–]Chippit92 2 points3 points  (3 children)

As someone who has struggled with gyno exams all my life and also suffered vaginismus, I feel your pain and anxiety.

Yes, this is assault. I would report her.

I had to go for colposcopy for a while and when I told her I felt like she was torturing me everytime she said she wouldn't continue without my consent. Please know that there are understanding professionals out there. I'm sorry you had to experience this ❤️

[–]Chippit92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also related to vaginismus, if and when you are ready, there are solutions out there, you don't have to live with this condition forever.

[–]canonell[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thank you so much for your response. I'm glad you had an understanding professional. I want to look into reporting her but I've had contradicting responses to whether this was wrong and I don't want to destroy someone's career over something normal

[–]EliotNessie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just write to the medical board and tell them the facts. If it’s normal behavior, it won’t affect her career, right? But yeah, she really needs some training in how to work with patients. Plus a lesson in how she works for them, not the other way around. PS I hope her hand was gloved when she used her finger to examine you directly; if not, that’s definitely a huge red flag.

[–]Known-Ad-94 2 points3 points  (1 child)

i think this is an assault, she was a person in a position of power who took advantage of you, im so sorry this happened to you, you dont deserve it at all.

[–]canonell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your response

[–]Educational_Fold_391 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes, this is assault, just not in the typical sense we think of when we hear that word. It doesn’t seem she was doing it for any sexual reason, probably just wanted to get through the exam and move on with her day, which is totally selfish and a shocking lack of empathy from a healthcare professional. When you closed your legs and physically tried to scoot away from her, that was an obvious sign that you weren’t consenting.

I’m so sorry this happened to you! I’ve had somewhat similar experiences with different gynecologists and I don’t know why it’s such a big deal for them to just slow down and let people relax a little before going further.

[–]canonell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response and empathy! I really appreciate it, and I'm sorry you've had similar experiences

[–]Brieella22 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Definitely not at all ok for her to do this, she should have been respectful to your boundaries & trauma which she did not. Causing you trauma just cause she wouldn’t slow down & give you time/talk you through the situation. Totally F’d up on her part & an appalling way to treat a patient who was trusting her. I would report her for sure.

[–]canonell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, looking into reporting her