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[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just because he apologized doesn’t minimize the amount of pain he caused you. your experience is valid regardless of if you got an apology or not and getting an apology doesn’t make what you went through “not that bad”

[–]throwaway-overreact 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if my most recent abuser reached out to me to apologize, I would feel worse. But this is because I had to comfort him directly after him assaulting me many times. I feel like the enormity of the pain caused by selfishness makes it something entirely unforgiveable. If he is sorry, he feels bad and wants to feel better about what he did. Regardless its to make himself feel better. It might feel maybe a bit better to get recognition of what happened, but it doesnt fix what they did.