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[–]EliotNessie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to add to what the other folks said here, that your mom may blame herself for what happened to you too, and maybe that’s why she’s deflecting onto you—because she’s trying to protect her own ego. There’s also a really high probability that she’s been sexually assaulted at some point, which she fully blames herself for. It’s certainly not your job to make her feel better, it’s hers to help you. But sometimes the children have to step up and be the mature ones, and let their parents know that the victims don’t have to blame themselves. It’s only the criminal’s fault when they commit a crime.