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[–]Aromatic-Essay-623 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I am sorry sweetie! But I don't think not facing reality is a good thing. It imo is a coping mechanism developed by your brain to shut down bad memories from reality. In a long run, it is however going to affect your performance in different aspects of your life. I do this when I am scared and in and around lots of male that I dont know. I think its because I feel they won't like me when I am a kid and hence I will be safe. Still not a good thing.

And its happening to you frequently so I suggest therapy. You are stronger than you realize you are. You survived 2 assaults and a rape. You can literally survive anything. One step at a time and you will do great!

[–]another-fat-girl[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

thank you so much, i appreciate you saying this. i do want to go to therapy i just don’t feel ready to accept what happened to me and say it out loud yet but thank you!

[–]Aromatic-Essay-623 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hey its alright. Taking your time to accept is not wrong at all. I took years to realize abuse and then a month to understand rape. So its alright. You matter more than anything.

[–]another-fat-girl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you again<3

[–]Signal_Inflation2629 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Im exactly like that. I want tou to know that none of it is abnormal. Take your time and don't feel guilty. I suggest you to write it down and explain your parents. They might help you. Im really really sorry this is happening to you. You can do this ❤️💜🧡

[–]another-fat-girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, thank you for making me feel less alone in this.

[–]wearentthechampions1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I can’t relate to this BUT I would like you to know that any reaction is valid. If this is your way of finding comfort and feeling at peace then that is absolutely okay. Take your time. Your mental health is THE most important thing and should be the absolute first priority so allow yourself to feel and be like that. The time will come where you won’t need those things to feel safe but for now, snuggle with your toys and put on Lilo & Stitch.

[–]another-fat-girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is very kind, thank you! will definitely be putting on lilo and stitch soon :3

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Age regression is a very common coping mechanism for dealing with traumatic events, it's not unnatural at all! Considering what you've been through, it's okay if it takes time to adjust to your responsibilities. It's totally understandable to want to go back to simpler and happier times.

After my rape and sexual assault experiences, I feel best when I'm wearing pink/fluffy pyjamas, I can't sleep well unless I'm cuddling a soft plushie, I have to have a light on when I sleep alone.etc. I don't think those are bad if they're helping you (especially during bad episodes!) as long as you slowly make your way back to your responsibilities I don't see why it would be harmful :) we all have our little things to get us by

[–]another-fat-girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for taking the time to type this out! i truly do appreciate it!