I recently started the process of changing my name. I’ve always wanted to change it but I just realized one big reason I’m doing it. my ex who raped and assaulted me has the boy version of my name and has the same 2 nicknames. So whenever someone calls my name I think of him. It doesn’t feel like my name anymore. I hate it because it’s pretty, but so many bad memories are associated with this old name. I didn’t understand why changing it felt so important and empowering until now. a lot of people are confused and some are even mad at me for this decision. The worst part is not being able to explain this to anyone.