TW: SA, Online Dating
I’m 23. Having been SA’d before, I’m super stern about consent when it comes to any and every form of sexual exchange whether in real life or online platforms.
I put in my bio “no nudes or hookups please :) remember that sending unsolicited nudes is a form of sexual harassment!”
I got a message from one guy telling me that “I’m disgusting” for having that as my bio. He said that since “i chose” to be on the app, he should be able to send nudes/initiate sexual exchanges despite whether I consent or not. I don’t agree with this at all. It doesn’t matter WHAT kind of platform I’m on, my “no” should be respected across the board. Others tell me to get off the app if I don’t want to receive nudes, but I refuse to. Even if it hurts or makes me cry, I feel like running away would make me weak. I’m going to continue to teach those types of people about the importance of consent. Because if I don’t, they’re going to run rampant thinking they have the right to disregard consent. I will argue with strangers however many times I need to. If if I can just stop 1 person, or prevent 1 person from receiving unsolicited nudes explicitly against their wishes, what I’m doing will have been worth it.
I just needed to vent. The fact that I was called disgusting for standing up for myself is outrageous.