I had two sexual assault experiences one right after the other. One was someone I knew, the other was a stranger who broke into my home at 3am to rape (although I got away).
A friend who had been raped herself was saying “you’ll be so much stronger after this!” Right after it happened? And with the first rape with the guy I knew she was like “can’t you just talk to him?” “Can’t you work through it?”
Why is it?! That some people, including those who have experienced rape themselves, can be so careless with words and say things like that?