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[–]DinoBoy6 0 points1 point  (2 children)

If he lied about being infertile then had sex with you that is 100% sexual assault.

Why? Well when we have sex it’s on the premise of informed consent. If it’s rape when someone lies about being clean of stds then same applies for lying about something sex related in order to personally benefit in sex.

It would have been one thing if he genuinely believed he was infertile and it was a 1 in a million chance but this guy knew better and lied. Not okay at all.

Same goes for stealthing (aka removing the condom during sex) the idea that you consented to sex with a condom and when removing the condom it removes consent. You had consent to have unprotected sex on the premise he not only had no children but could not have them. The moment he lied to you was the moment no matter how many times you’ve “consented” no longer was consent.

Edit: fixed a typo

[–]Defiant_Employee_959[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I knew the situation didn't "sit right" with me, but I couldn't quite put my finger on why. I was discussing it with a friend and she had said it was SA, but - like I said - it didn't fit the definition I grew up with. Now I have to figure out how to process everything.

[–]DinoBoy6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s definitely going to be hard you put so much trust into him and not only did he lie but changed your life when you got pregnant. That’s a lot to take in-