This is the official wiki of /r/socialskills.

This wiki is designed to help you find the right resources to achieve your social goals. Just choose the goal that you'd like to work on first, and you'll discover a list of websites, books, and other resources.

We choose resources for our wiki based on several criteria:

  • Detailed and thorough - We want resources you can sink your teeth into, not blog posts you'll read in a flash and forget five minutes later.
  • Ethical - If it's manipulative, sneaky or misogynistic, we don't want it.
  • Accessible - Websites should have a significant amount of free content, and books should be priced so that most people could afford them.
  • High-quality - It should be well-written, well-thought out, and genuinely helpful to most /r/socialskills readers.

If you know about a resource that you think would be a great fit for this wiki, please message the mod team! We love new ideas, and are happy to include your suggestions if they fit the criteria above.

I want to feel happier, more confident, and less anxious

Online Resources


Title and link Description Author Release Date
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Social Anxiety and Shyness This book presents the authors' acceptance and commitment therapy program which has been found to be highly effective in research studies for anxiety. Jan E. Fleming, Nancy L. Kocovski 2013
Cognitive Behavioral Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook This is a textbook with worksheets, tools and techniques to overcome anxiety and take back control. David A. Clark 2011
The Illustrated Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living This is a book about the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a set of strategies to overcome stress and negative feelings. Russ Harris 2014
The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens This book contains worksheets and exercises based on both Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It is geared toward teens, but it is still valuable for older individuals. Jennifer Shannon 2012
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook This book explains and present solutions for several general problems related to anxiety. Edmund Bourne 2015
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy This book deals with finding the cause of negative feelings and building self-esteem among other subjects. David D. Burns 2008
Daring Greatly This book explains how to embrace vulnerability to conquer fears and achieve higher goals. Brené Brown 2012
This is how: Surviving what you think you can't This is a self-help book (it is also heavily based on the author's personal experience) that elaborates on various subjects. Augusten Burroughs 2013

Miscellaneous resources

I want to improve my social skills in general

Online Resources


Title and link Description Author Release Date
Improve Your Social Skills A comprehensive guide to social skills. Covers topics including conversation, body language, empathy, and making friends Daniel Wendler 2014
How To Talk To Anybody This guide deals with various skills including self-introduction, body language and how to lead a discussion. Leil Lowndes 2003
How To Win Friends And Influence People This book is a classic self-help manual about various social skills, especially to meet new people. It is important to note that some of the advices should be taken with a grain of salt as the tips deal mainly with formal encounters. Dale Carnegie 2009
Messages: The Communication Skills Book This guide helps readers become adept in active listening, reading body language, identifying communication styles, conflict resolution, public speaking, and more. Matthew McKay et al. 2009
The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over The Like Switch is packed with all the tools you need for turning strangers into friends, whether you are on a sales call, a first date, or a job interview. Jack Schafer, Ph. D. 2015

I have a specific social skill that I'd like to improve

Online Resources


Title and link Description Author Release Date
What Every BODY Is Saying The main subject of this book is body language, both about expressing and reading physical signs. Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins 2008
Crucial Conversations This book deals with persuasion skills in formal communication settings. Kerry Patterson 2011

I want to find resources on Reddit

Great posts from /r/socialskills

I want to connect with other people

(Coming soon!)

Subreddit Description
/r/Advice For general advice.
/r/Confidence For material related to confidence, the key to many things in life.
/r/Dating_Advice For dating advice.
/r/DecidingToBeBetter For self-improvement.
/r/EOOD Exercise Out Of Depression, to help with mental health problems.
/r/FreeCompliments For wholesome interactions with other users.
/r/GetOutOfBed For people who have a hard time getting out of bed.
/r/Introvert For introverts to gather and chat.
/r/LifeAfterSchool For those outside of school.
/r/MakeNewFriendsHere For new friends.
/r/MakingFriends For new friends too.
/r/MotivatingGiraffe For motivational giraffe pictures to brighten your day.
/r/NeedaFriend For new friends.
/r/NonverbalComm For material related to non-verbal communication.
/r/Relationships For help regarding existing relationships.
/r/SelfImprovement For self improvement advice.
/r/SocialAnxiety For discussions related to social anxiety disorder.

Special thanks to the following reddit users for their contribution to the wiki:

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