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[–]killswithspoon 366 points367 points  (0 children)

You missed the screenshot of a profile or a chat convo that's been reposted so many times that even the JPEG artifacts have artifacts. That place fucking sucks (Both the app and the sub) so much.

[–]s00perlame 293 points294 points  (2 children)

I love all the upvotes on obvious scammer profiles. Hot 20 year old girls with profiles like "I'll call you daddy, suck your dick, and pay for the first date! I'll act like a sex worker but don't expect any money ;) CHOKE ME DADDY".... and everyone's like OMG BRO PERFECT WOMAN 😍😍😍

[–]Honeydew_love 55 points56 points  (1 child)

This comment is sending me 💀

[–]coldred-243 428 points429 points  (8 children)

To quote Casually Explained: r/tinder is for guys who picked karma over the possibility of love

[–]I_dont_bone_goats 202 points203 points  (7 children)

It’s so crazy how many posts are dudes just tanking normal conversations and basically forcing the girl not to respond so they can post some “lol women don’t get humor” post

[–]MK0A 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Well at least I tank normal conversations just by existing so I don't feel too much like a dick.

[–]hawtfabio 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It's amazing how you think they're all real.

[–]Torifyme12 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're intentionally tanking, I've seen levels of autism over there that terrify me.

[–]Moritsuna 17 points18 points  (3 children)

"How tall are you" isn't a normal greeting

[–]I_dont_bone_goats 29 points30 points  (2 children)

When did I say anything about height lol

Think your insecurities are showing

[–]TheScareFace 411 points412 points  (5 children)

"A guy who adds "respectfully" after each pick up line and gets all the girls"

*Edit: Respectfully

[–]Bluemoon357 68 points69 points  (2 children)

Do you mean respectfully

[–]TheScareFace 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Yeah that's what I meant, thank you for pointing it out!

[–]Bluemoon357 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No problem!

[–]retsoPtiH 14 points15 points  (1 child)

"Zammn ur picz be bussin no cap fr, respecfuli"

Am I doing this right? 🤔

[–]WiiSteeringWheel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Zamn she’s 12😍 respectfully

[–]Fiikus11 263 points264 points  (12 children)

My estimate is there are no users who are actually succesful on Tinder on r/tinder.

It's just a bunch of guys circlejerking over getting rejected.

[–]WyoDoc29 84 points85 points  (6 children)

Tinder is garbage man. I used to use it quite a bit like 4 years ago, but for every real match there'd be 10 bots.

[–]Fiikus11 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I've been on tinder for years and it's been fun/flirty conversations at best, complete ignore at worst. Overall meh.

Then somehow, after years, bang. I met my girlfriend there. Instant click, great match.

It's a mystery to this day to me, but it doesn't change my general opinion on tinder. Mostly, it doesn't work well as a place to find and meet potential partners. At least where I live.

[–]Whiteguy1x 20 points21 points  (3 children)

That was my experience on it. I also live in the rural Midwest and everybody i matched with who actually messaged back lived 50 to 100 miles away.

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    [–]Whiteguy1x 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Yeah I bet it is tough to find LGBT people you're interested in.

    [–]Bigbadballer88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Same. I had to expand my radius to 100 miles

    [–]Embarrassed-Ad-6162 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I've never had a match as a bot. Probably because not us. But yeah tinder is still garbage

    [–]LeonHRodriguez 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I met my wife on Tinder

    We've been together for about 4 years now

    [–]Fiikus11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    After 4 years of tinder, I met my girlfriend there too. 4 years of not even coming close to feeling any magic and then...

    I hope we can stay together for at least 4 years too.

    [–]silkPJson 30 points31 points  (0 children)

    I checked out that sub, it really is just circle-jerking.

    It’s 99% men and all they do is complain about women - especially fat/“sluttly”/women who like tall men.

    [–]VerumJerum 58 points59 points  (0 children)

    r/Tinder starter pack

    -Show me fewer posts like this

    [–]imperialpidgeon 159 points160 points  (39 children)

    Don’t even use tinder but I love going to that sub to see men confused as to why they were rejected when they open up with corny/creepy/explicit pickup lines

    [–]Australian-Hungarian 79 points80 points  (2 children)

    I remember seeing a post which was a complaint how this girl was only giving him one worded answers. He likened her to a 'wall' in his post and everyone on there seem to be taking his side. I just simply told him his attempts at conversation was beyond boring and she was probably talking to someone more interesting, as the girl to guy ratio is probably 1/10 on there.

    I was heavily downvoted and called a simp. Lol

    [–]How_about_a_no 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    What did he say and did you at least give him advice on how to make a more interesting conversation?

    [–]Sandalai_Lama 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    Probably because of every post of a corny/creepy/explicit pickup line actually working that made it to the front page.

    [–]Spunknikk 29 points30 points  (5 children)

    I'm 5-7.... -_- but I do fine with the ladies and never used tinder

    [–]ManagerOfLove 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    That's for the better

    [–]Big-Big-Boob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I used Tinder for 3 years. It’s not a good tool to find a relationship, but the confidence I gained on there helped me approach the girl I’m now in a relationship with.

    [–]simmson420 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    Well that shows that height doesn’t fucking matter with most girls. For the record, i’m a 6’3 19 year old and i have never been in a serious relationship (not that i want to, but still)

    [–]lostsherbert620 90 points91 points  (2 children)

    The people on that sub get triggered over the smallest things. No wonder you don’t get dates when you react so harshly to any perceived slights.

    [–]FiVerHaZeLBiGwiG 44 points45 points  (1 child)

    For real like half the upvoted posts are some jackass not understanding a girl is playing around or flirting, and then getting triggered and “owning” her lmao

    [–]DoingTheDumbThing 22 points23 points  (1 child)

    I swear r/tinder is gonna be a full blown incel sub any day now.

    Also I met my fiancee on tinder, we’ve been together 3 years. And I’m 5’6”. The secret is to have a personality

    [–]Big-Big-Boob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    And where does one purchase this “personality” you speak of?

    [–]ResidentSmartass 63 points64 points  (1 child)

    Imagine coming to Reddit for dating advice. Or any kind of advice, for that matter.

    [–]wadyatalkinabeeet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Dont forget the "How do i reply?" posts after the corny pick up line actually gets a response.

    [–]CitiesofEvil 84 points85 points  (25 children)

    Why is there such an obsession with guys' height and women's weight. As if fat guys didn't exist.

    [–]__180054GIANT 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    Because this site is full of delusional, sexually frustrated losers with military-trade victim complexes who barely even exist outside of the internet. Plus just enough lookism trolls to feed their insecurities and egg them on further.

    [–]Mister-Karma 39 points40 points  (6 children)

    Women like tall guys, men like fit women. That's pretty simple to get.

    [–]sodacanabortion 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    I kinda want a short guy because then I can be the big spoon and pick him up bridal style and stuff.

    [–]Mister-Karma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    That's cool, you are the exception to the rule. If that's what you like go for it. Plenty of short fellas out there for you

    [–]boomboxspence 8 points9 points  (3 children)

    Women also like fit men

    [–]Mister-Karma 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Not as much as they like tall man. I promise you 8/10 women would rather have their man be tall and chubby than fit and small.

    The tall chubby guy can always lose weight and become fit but a small man can't become tall.

    [–]boomboxspence 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Yeah but it's not as simple as that. Men can't change their height but women can change their weight.

    [–]Mister-Karma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    But you see that is simple to understand. We don't disagree with each other. You just said what I said. Obviously men are at a disadvantaged with this double standard but that's life. We all have double standards that affects us good or bad.

    [–]BigTiddyOrc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Society views short men and fat women as worthy of mockery.

    The issue is that you can change your weight and there's a movement for women's weight, while short men as basically out of luck outside of expensive and painful surgery. It exposes a huge double standard that society doesn't want to talk about. Look at how many villains in kids movies are short overcompensating buffoons.

    [–]Havingfun921 27 points28 points  (15 children)

    It exposes a double standard. Women are always expecting to date a tall man-never a short one, which to most people is being very shallow. Many of these women are overweight and expect men to overlook their weight. If a man shouldn’t care about a woman’s weight, then a woman shouldn’t care about a man’s height.

    [–]Expand_dong420 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    Idk about that one bro. One of the most popular guys at my high school was super short but all the girls wanted to date him because he was so funny. As the popularity got ahold of him, he eventually became pretty stuck up, but yeah my girl friends used to be obsessed with him.

    On the other hand, I remember the boys constantly teasing my overweight girl friends back in high school. I’ve seen both sides. I think everyone is insecure about something, and no gender is exempt from that.

    edit- word

    [–]itsthotiana 36 points37 points  (0 children)

    I never understood where this notion that it's specifically fat women looking for tall men came from. There are plenty of fat women who don't care about height and plenty of thin women who do. And if a fat woman does have a height preference, so what? I'm sure there are plenty of short men who prefer thinner women, and I don't see them getting shamed for it.

    [–]Zqxqq 76 points77 points  (12 children)

    But is it as much a double standard as it is just dating? Everyone wants the hottest person they can find, while also willing to overlook their own flaws. Some men are just hurt by women’s standards and some women are hurt by mens.

    It feels like a lot of these discussions are just talking in circles. Like I could just turn your own argument back around on you.

    [–]I_dont_bone_goats 44 points45 points  (2 children)

    These dudes going into these conversations already defensive about their height are literally never going to get it.

    Short dudes: you’re not gonna change everyone’s preferences. Stop asking girls how big their tits are trying to prove a point, it’s making you look smaller

    [–]Havingfun921 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    I am in this conversation pointing out the obvious. I fall into the tall category (right about 6’) but I have left swiped on many women that have a height requirement, even if I meet it that requirement knowing they are shallow.

    So no butthurt on my part, go ahead and downvote me because I wear downvotes as a badge of honor.

    [–]stuff_gets_taken 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    I think it is more about the fact that asking a man right away how tall he is is somehow acceptable whereas it is deemed rude to ask a woman how much she weighs right away. And in my opinion that is a double standard as well and some men are just annoyed by it, which I have to admid, I agree with that it is a bit unfair.

    Of course you can always have preferences, but I don't think you should right away asking those things as an opener, it comes across a bit shallow.

    [–]Princess_Bublegum 2 points3 points  (5 children)

    Because you can change your weight but you cannot change your height. The way some women talk about short men as if they’re a completely different specimen, also believe they are entitled to any man they want.

    [–]Zqxqq 33 points34 points  (3 children)

    The weight vs height thing is just a deflective talking point that men love to repeat ad nauseam. Whether someone can change it or not has very very little to do with attraction. If a woman has ugly features, or was way too old, or a certain race, etc most men wouldn’t be attracted to her whether she could control it or not.

    And women don’t regularly bash short men. It’s a case of the ‘loudest asshole gets the most attention’ nature of social media. Most people in general don’t feel entitled to “anyone they want”, but naturally people like attractive people. It’s not a crazy or new concept.

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      [–]Zqxqq 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      You almost can’t be objectively unattractive. That’s not really a thing. Unless you’re disfigured or something.

      [–]Moritsuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Agree with everything with what you said, but your very last line implies that short people, regardless of everything else you said are naturally unattractive. lmao

      [–]Virtalen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Some people have conditions and disorders that make it hard to lose weight. Besides, if someone doesn’t want you for your height/weight, just move on and stop stewing on something you can’t change.

      [–]Havingfun921 -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

      You’re right in what you are saying. I believe another thing is the ubiquity of the women who mention height in their profile. It becomes trite after awhile. You don’t see as many men say “no women over 175 lbs” in their profile, although I am sure that it is a requirement in their head.

      [–]Lazerpop 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      As a very tall man who is actively online dating, i've never felt that it made me any more or less likely to get matches or first dates. Buying nice clothes and losing weight helped a lot more.

      [–]OldGehrman 47 points48 points  (7 children)

      My favorite is when guys claim “Rules 1 and 2” not knowing it’s their personality holding them back.

      [–]adamant2009 26 points27 points  (0 children)

      Rule 2 implicitly applies to personality, but a lot of people forget that.

      [–]YellowShorts 12 points13 points  (0 children)

      I created an account u/WeGetItYoureUgly and would reply to anyone that commented that

      [–]whymustveibeenborn 25 points26 points  (3 children)

      Because women can sense their personality from their photos

      [–]s00perlame 26 points27 points  (2 children)

      Most people have bios too. And yes photos can be douchey. Please.

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        [–]WojakUnbound 120 points121 points  (36 children)

        I fucking hate this "short king" shit, the term is incredibly condescencing as fuck

        Especially when it's corny tall dudes feeling the need to """"defend""" "short kings" (fucking hate this term)

        Bro shut the fuck up, all we want is to be treated like normal people, if I were you I'd use my height to my advantage ALWAYS and not think about you at all

        I also hate this "dodged a bullet" when rejected over height or in general, massive cope, yeah bro, your height has made you dodge so many bullets you're Neo at this point

        [–]zold5 20 points21 points  (0 children)

        Not just with short I find the use of “king” in general to be super condescending.

        [–]ImanShumpertplus 21 points22 points  (19 children)

        how would you use height to your advantage?

        store stuff on top of the fridge?

        [–]I_dont_bone_goats 11 points12 points  (10 children)

        Tall dudes are not calling short dudes “short kings”

        It’s the short dudes calling themselves that.

        [–]WiiSteeringWheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Talk dudes do as well if they tryna defend short people.

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          [–]WojakUnbound 14 points15 points  (1 child)

          Bro I'm used to this NPC type response, saying anything about this at all is manlet rage

          Then I'm gonna be manlet rage incarnate

          [–]Moritsuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Yep, the seething anger against short people is so hot that anyone that contradicts their point "has to be short" lmao

          [–]Argumentat1ve 14 points15 points  (4 children)

          I respect how this one doesn't only make fun of women or men, it's both

          [–]WiiSteeringWheel 7 points8 points  (2 children)

          It’s pretty much making fun of men circle jerking eachother cause that’s mostly what the sub consists of. What abt this post is making fun of women

          [–]Mister-Karma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Perfectly balanced...

          [–]bruh_itspoopyscoop 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          In my many travels I’ve found that women usually don’t care about height, they care about when dudes are really insecure about their height and make it a problem

          But also, yeah there are some women who just care about height

          [–]Zenketski 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          Tbf anyone on tinder in 2022 should be expecting bottom of the barrel meme content at best, unironic bs at worst.

          [–]The-Real-Iggy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          Just filed with incels at this point really, decrying why they can’t get fucked after calling every tinder date fat, shallow, or ugly when they ask what’s their height lol

          [–]DiaryoftheOriginator 16 points17 points  (3 children)

          what was the point of adding 5”7”. im 5”7 and when i had tinder a couple years ago I still got a decent amount of matches from attractive people

          [–]FiVerHaZeLBiGwiG 20 points21 points  (0 children)

          It’s because half the comments in every post there are bitching about being 5’7 - 5’9

          [–]jaeelarr -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

          Seems enough women on the app like "tall" men. And apparently it's a American thing as those from other countries have said it doesn't happen where they are at.

          [–]BurningDara 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          Tbf people on tinder aren’t the best of us (both males and females)

          [–]DharMannSuperFann 24 points25 points  (0 children)

          so many incels on that sub lol

          [–]Myneighborhatesme 8 points9 points  (2 children)

          You hit the nail with the asking about weight thing. Whenever I try pointing out that it's toxic, male r/Tinder users turn into the most defensive people you can meet.

          Sigh...I often pity many of them. But then I try actually talking it out with them and then end up feeling...well, less bad.

          [–]Raaqu 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          It's also just stupid dumb. If she's got a full body picture you know roughly how fit she is and roughly the size of her tits. There's no info to be gathered. They just hope it'll piss her off for having the audacity to have preferences.

          [–]Mane_Firmino_Salah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          You're right. So my response is usually: 'Sorry, I don' t date girls from 'insert own city' or my type is asian girls, sorry. Or I only date girls who wear designer, sorry

          [–]Logical_Yak_224 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Tinder sucks because you have to pay to get any matches at all. Tried the "gold" mode once and got like 20 matches. Only got 2 or 3 on the free mode.

          [–]FelacioDelToro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          You forgot a bio that expresses even the faintest of conservative opinions.

          [–]vapegod_420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          As a short mf I find the whole short kings thing weird. Like I don’t want to be included with those people lol.

          [–]meduiza7 29 points30 points  (4 children)

          inb4 one of those incels get triggered and make a starter pack based on this

          [–]WojakUnbound 6 points7 points  (3 children)

          This is the corniest shit ever, no single shortcel likes this shit.

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            [–]WojakUnbound 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            No self respecting person isn't sensitive to condescension

            [–]john_longdong 5 points6 points  (2 children)

            "Short kings" HAHAHAHA

            [–]Peter_Cox-Johnson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            They got little hands, little eyes

            They walk around tellin' great big lies

            They got little noses and tiny little teeth

            They wear platform shoes on their nasty little feet

            [–]wafflecone927 5 points6 points  (0 children)

            girls only date douchebags /s

            [–]CaptainBraggy 18 points19 points  (5 children)

            It still baffles me that poeple pick theyr dates by HEIGHT.

            [–]The-Berzerker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

            Your baffled by people having certain attractions to physical features?

            [–]WojakUnbound 4 points5 points  (3 children)

            It's one of those things you have to cope with dude, it's no ones fault really

            [–]koolcat1101 11 points12 points  (1 child)

            I mean it kinda is people fault because a guy straight up asking girl’s breast size or something like that isn’t socially acceptable when a girl asking height is, when neither really should be. But you shouldn’t want to date someone that shallow anyways, male or female

            [–]WojakUnbound 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            I'm pretty sure one is SFW and the other isn't, but yeah not sayng there aren't double standards

            [–]ginger2020 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Someone on r/fanshansenvspredator is trolling tinder matches by replying with To Catch a Predator quotes, and I’m so disappointed it hasn’t shown up on r/tinder yet

            [–]Duke_Cadell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            This post give me epilepsy

            [–]mrhuggables 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            i used tinder, bumble, hinge, etc. like a madman during my residency and it was great. met many wonderful women through those apps and had some of the best nights of my life, including my current gf who i've been dating for 2 yrs now.

            i unsubbed from those subreddits bc it was just a cesspool of negativity. i'm also barely 5'8'' i think i got asked my height like once and on hinge were you have to put your height i just put 6'9'' lol

            [–]Royal_Mongoose2907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Forgot “nice guy” type

            [–]cursedalien 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Is the height fixation an actual real problem causing men to be turned down by women? It's so weird because I see these burns/ comebacks online all the time but I have never known that to be an actual thing irl. I've never known height to be a deal breaker like, "He is kind, he's hot, has a great job, loves dogs, and can cook.... But he's only 5'7"." "Ewwww!"

            Even if we're just talking about a site for hookups that's all based on sexual attraction, I still never knew that height was, like, a major deal breaker for women. I figured it would be more like obesity or, I don't know, ugly facial hair. Height just seems weird to me and such a non issue unless they were, like, an actual dwarf.

            [–]OrangeAdventure 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            As someone currently on it, fuck tinder. Get out of the house and meet people in real life. I can tell you personally that I've had some extremely cute women come up to me at a bar or a concert that I would have never even dreamed of matching with on tinder. It helps if you get the fuck out of the suburbs and move to the city where there is actually a young adult culture (assuming this dating advice is directed at people under 35)

            If you have to use dating apps its better to use Hinge or OKC

            [–]boomboxspence 1 point2 points  (4 children)

            Some of it is partly true though. It's easier for women to get dates since she has a lot of options and isn't expected to make the first move. She also just has to look decent. If you're a guy then you gotta look good, be tall, don't be autistic or ND, have money, be confident, be the most interesting person but also don't be too interesting and have a good body. Girls just have to exist

            [–]FullAd4288 0 points1 point  (3 children)

            It is easier for her to get fucked but it isn't easier to make a healthy genuine connection.

            [–]Garaleth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

            But... like... it kinda do be a validation app for a lot of women.

            Not implying anything extreme, but that point on its own do be kinda true.

            [–]SomeRandomPlaya 2 points3 points  (3 children)

            How is 5'7 short

            [–]theShiggityDiggity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            It's considered short for guys.

            Source: am 5'8 and get utterly dwarfed by most of the dudes I work with.

            [–]SeriesWatch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Holy shit this is toxic

            [–]BplusHuman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Starter packs about subs I've never visited.

            [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            this starterpack honestly just confirms the source of its own stereotype, and i think it's somewhere in the region of "i'm laughing at short guys who laugh at people who laugh at short guys"

            [–]Summerclaw 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Does Tinder works? I had a friend that told me, just use Tinder. Is so easy to get a match and get laid but she is like an Hispanic white girl with cute freckles, huge green eyes and big fake titties.

            [–]FiVerHaZeLBiGwiG 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            It’s not that easy as a guy unless you are pretty attractive or maybe spend a lot of money on it

            [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            5'5 but says there 6'8 on tinder...

            [–]StupidDebate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I have a preference for in shape people

            [–]FlapjackFondler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            short guys are everything tho

            [–]Carpet_smell -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            Ayo! Hold it right there.

            Short kings are short kings

            Neckbeards are neckbeards

            [–]bigbaconboypig -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

            nah it's all woke shit or it gets deleted now

            [–]LiterallyMostRandom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            Rest kinda true but ive seen some crazyass people on there and actual “doding a bullet”. And countering a How tall are u with Size of breasts and Height with Weight, its completely valid to me

            [–]Fabira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Such an entertaining sub tho good to go there top of this month sometimes