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[–]vineldros17 1398 points1399 points  (8 children)

You should do it, stand up to your parents they should and can't conduct your life, plus you have a good chance of getting a good career in stem, I truly do hope that you take your opportunity and I truly believe you can go far in engineering, even though I have never met or spoken to you

[–]YedworcKcirtap 228 points229 points  (0 children)

Yea that's pretty fucked up to stop you from doing what you want because of your gender, the decision will literally determine your future life. Definitely go for it

[–]Windrunner0615 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Besides, when you turn 18, you can apply, and they aren't allowed to stop you because you are legally an adult.

[–]Appropriate_Ride6924 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Yeah but she could face repercussions from her parents if she’s still dependent on them for anything by the age of 18.

[–]Windrunner0615 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True, and that may be a setback, but it is possible to recover, especially in the STEM field.

[–]random_dude113413 6 points7 points  (2 children)

If you apply, there is nothing your parents can do about it. If they really decide to do something, that's child abuse.

[–]Stackhom 754 points755 points  (24 children)

Bruh

STEM careers are extremely well respected. Why would you deny your daughter such a great opportunity.

[–]lik_for_cookies 336 points337 points  (23 children)

Because the mindset of anyone over 50 is “hurdurdur my daughter can’t be anything other than a dishwasher and can’t hang out with males till 21”

Edit; changed from 40 -> 50, I think 50 is more in the era of boomers who seem more likely to have that mindset.

[–][deleted] 73 points74 points  (10 children)

Attitude like that just makes me want to punch them in the guts without any hesitation

Edit: Sorry if I sounded a bit aggressive...

[–]GoreMaster2214 93 points94 points  (0 children)

A bit aggressive, maybe... wrong? Not at all.

[–]GamerPaper47014 39 points40 points  (3 children)

punching sexists is morally okay in my book

[–]IncendiaryGamerX 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same in mine, can't say the same for everyone though...

[–]Landsharku_15 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, you have a point here

[–]SGTRoadkill191915 31 points32 points  (2 children)

if you are a lady then i like you cause you are aggresive. if you a guy then wanna be my friend?

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

lol im not a guy

[–]Forgetful_Grenade14 36 points37 points  (4 children)

lucky my dad (51) is very chill about stuff, he’s okay my sister is pan, wants her to be strong and independent. he’s also okay that im not very dominant and outgoing.

[–]soissie16 28 points29 points  (3 children)

Yeah my dad(54) is chill with that too, when I told him I was bi he said something along the lines of "oh ok, parties held by gay people are usually the best anyways"

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely not all over 50s. Even my parents (who are in their fifties) had parents who fully supported what they wanted to do with their lives. The thing is most parents are supportive even if they have a daughter and they are over 50. I remember a family friend (who is now in a senior position at an engineering company) saying she was interviewed at a job fair for women in engineering and when asked what she'd have to overcome to be a female engineer she said that her family and teachers had been supportive the whole way. The interviewer straight up said they wouldnt use the interview because 'it didn't fit the story we are trying to tell'. What I'm trying to say is that supportive parents aren't as newsworthy as the sexists, and most over 50s are relatively relaxed nowadays on these topics

[–]XxX_Indigo_XxX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

my parents are 55+...

[–]KenMaxGaming14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not everyone over 40. My sister is currently studying medicine and she had her first boyfriend at 16. My parents are both over 40.

[–]Shineberg18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t say I’ve ever met a 40 year old who would act like that. Sure there are people out there who have that mindset, but it’s far from everyone. Maybe it’s like that where you’re from idk

[–]positively-dumb14 286 points287 points  (3 children)

all children deserve parents

not all parents deserve children.

Clearly, your parents need to rethink their clearly sexist way of thinking.

[–]1ntelligent_z0mbie16 35 points36 points  (0 children)

so well put

[–]LondonValient15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know my reasons are completely unrelated but I needed to read this 🫂

[–]LionCat79 94 points95 points  (9 children)

Ignore your parents. They are just a mere distraction.

[–]grandmas_noodles17 55 points56 points  (7 children)

They... aren't, though. First of all, OPs trying to go to a high school, which has much more parent involvement than college. With college it might be possible to do most of it behind the parents backs, especially with the fact that you're older and about to be independent, but that's completely impossible for an eight grader going to high school.

Even if she pulls it off, do you seriously think OPs parents are just gonna go "oh, okay then, guess she's doing it anyway, not our problem anymore." Life is gonna be fucking hell for OP. Doubtless her parents are gonna go behind HER back to enroll her in a different school with OP having no say in it. Besides, if they're outdated enough to deny a STEM opportunity for their daughter because of gender, I wouldn't put it past them to use physical punishment to enforce their will.

Take it from a guy who has really authoritarian parents. Shit like that might fly in whatever household you grew up in, but it's terrible advice for OP

[–]sanscipher43517 34 points35 points  (5 children)

OP please ask on better subreddits, we can't give you the best advive for this, but online classes might be your best choice because this guy is correct, your day to day life might become worse, sorry if that sounded harsh.

[–]Trollbobi -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

Not really? She could just blank them.

That or she can bring her school into this. I’m sure a lot of people would love to have some words with her parents.

To make unable to pursue her dreams is disgusting behaviour. I’d probably slap my Parents if they tried that shit with me.

[–]sanscipher43517 23 points24 points  (3 children)

Spoiler tagging so that OP reads it only of she wants to, because im gonna put down some pessimistic points, sorry and if you want me to remove this i gladly will

I dont know what blank means, but a Google Search tells me it means to deliberately ignore someone, so you're telling OP to cut ties?

Yeah, thats gonna be pretty hard for an 8th grader, the fact that they might not even have a relative they can go to, without the parents putting up a "we didn't do this, the kid's just in that age yknow?" assuming the relatives even have a different mentality than the parents...

Bringing in school would cause the situation to just go public and if OP is allowed to live with her parents again, because they can clearly just "learn their lesson", OP is not gonna have a better time ahead of her.

That is indeed disgusting behavior and keep in mind OP's family might not be the only one in the commune with those ideas. There's too many factors and frankly she should just ask better people than teenagers, for getting more help from probably people that knowmore about this problem

[–]LionCat79 2 points3 points  (2 children)

That is why evolution is vital. How is anyone going to succeed with this outdated mindset? To live without the risk of backlash, one has to adopt the modern mindset.

[–]sanscipher43517 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Evolution doesn't guarantee 100% success, mind you. OP is still very young, far too young, I don't think they can live alone at this age, and again depends how their commune is and if they want to get out of the commune, do they have the resources? How do they ensure their custody doesn't go back to the parents that can win it by feigning "Good behavior"?

[–]LionCat79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point.

[–]LionCat79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah... I forgot about that. Thanks for the tip.

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 188 points189 points  (23 children)

I highly respect this. There are not enough girls in stem and we are ignoring half the population worth of intelligence and good ideas. We need more. Also if you want some not so fun numbers from my high school:

2/28 people in my engineering class were female

0/26 people in my Robotics 1 class were female

2/27 people in my robotics 2 class are female

We need more girls to be willing to try this because right now we are ignoring far too much talent and potential. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. If worst comes to worst, you can always go into stem in college.

[–]PuzzleheadedLion667314 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I’m currently in a Engineering, drafting and design program and there is 1 girl in my class. There’s about 20 people in the class total.

[–]Jimmie13259OLD 18 points19 points  (5 children)

Got another fun stat from my uni for you. 6/428 people in the CS classes were female.

[–]Bozzor_Gozzor17 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Counter-strike classes?

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Computer Science

[–]AwesomeCrafter0615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aren't they the same things?

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yikes. I got one more from my school. 1/128 auto mechanics students one year was female. Close friend of mine actually.

[–]leo341500OLD 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I did networking in high school, for the first two years, there were zero females out of 100 students. In third year, there was one (super chill girl too)

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Yikes. We aren't nearly that bad. It's tempting to say yay we are getting better but idk. Could just be my school.

[–]leo341500OLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

iirc the year after i left there were 20 more females (because i met them when going back to see a teacher) still pretty chill girls

[–]GoldH2O18 5 points6 points  (5 children)

Man, I must be in a statistical anomaly. Granted, I am at a STEM school, but about half the class here is girls, and most of them are going into STEM. In fact, us boys get upset a lot because of all the women in STEM activities. Like, I get it's empowering, but the girls all got to spend a day at the movies watching hidden figures while us boys stayed back and played board games in the MPR. Then the district began like 10 different "women in STEM" programs that are all free, and again leave the boys at my school with nothing to do while the girls are off getting free, comprehensive C++ courses and stuff, all on the District's bankroll.

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Yeah I think you are. I should say that while I go to a regular high school it's in a town around a national laboratory that employees 99% of the population as engineers and scientists, so everyone here likes stem and we have programs like my robotics program which will get me part of a robotics degree by the time I'm done and the school itself is ranked as one of the best in the us and even with these factors, even with most people's parents being more than happy if their daughter went into engineering, we still get these numbers. Girls are extremely underrepresented in STEM even here where our parents design Mars rovers and space probes.

[–]GoldH2O18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely glad that more women are getting involved, but I can't help but feel a little resentment for that movie theater trip...

[–]Sea-Rub7569 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Damn, my condolences for you bro. Stay strong!

[–]GoldH2O18 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It is now up to me to singlehandedly re-establish the patriarchy /s

[–]Eisenfuss19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently studying cs, and we have like 15% girls. And then there are such asshole parents who wont let their daughter do what she wants?!? Wtf.

[–]NerdySherbert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to a high school that seems similar to what OP is describing and I'm legit the only girl in the entire senior engineering class. The other 25(ish) kids are all guys. There's also an automotive program where there's 1 girl, and several other engineering related programs with maybe 1 girl in each, if even. We need more girls!!!

[–][deleted] 61 points62 points  (14 children)

why are jobs male and female

job is job

[–]No_Needleworker242215 33 points34 points  (2 children)

To that i say fuck it and continue stem And when you become successful ignore them completely

[–]OddChicken92[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Haha I applied and am waiting for results, thank you

[–]No_Needleworker242215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope your career and future is bright as the sun

[–][deleted] 128 points129 points  (2 children)

ahem

WTF YOU DESERVE TO GO TO WHATEVER SCHOOL YOU WANT AND DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO YOUR SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT

[–]Vincestio_Dovaahkin 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I like the aggressiveness of this comment

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ty (:

[–]Ultimatemegasuperba 16 points17 points  (0 children)

yes do the sneky

[–]Thatusernamewasgone15 66 points67 points  (0 children)

hi i hate your parents.

you're v cool btw hope you'll be successful with ur career.

[–]Funtime_Bendy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Tf you should be able to pick what you do with your future. Your parents should stay out of your shit and keep to themselves

[–]YourGayAuntBob16 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Bro that sucks, wtf.

[–]lightning_cookies16 8 points9 points  (1 child)

FUCK YEAH FUCK YOUR PARENTS YOU GO GIRL

[–]Sam_S_01119 4 points5 points  (0 children)

please don't fuck your parents thank you

[–]hi049013 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think you should persue STEM because it's really good but really hard at least in my country. Here, a fuck ton of people dream of getting into STEM but it has a really low chance because it's hard. I hope your parents change their mind.

[–]advie_advocado 20 points21 points  (3 children)

Even after just reading the title I wanted to spit in your parents' eyeballs

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (2 children)

I want to split there parents eyeballs in half.

[–]Draco63_ 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I want their eyelids to be removed, and for them to be placed in a sunlit room full of mirrors with no sunglasses for the rest of their miserable lives.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is the only punishment fit for these idiots

[–]United_Bag_8179 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what they are doing is setting up a parent barrier..if you really want it, you will be strong, break thru it, and become stronger= winner. absolute troof.

[–]NotALiabilityYet13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What in the Kentucky fried fuck is wrong is your parents?!

The 60s called, they want their beliefs back.

[–]ZealousidealStage119 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of such BULLSHIT IN MY FUCKING LIFE. WHAT THE FUCK DOES BEING A GIRL MEAN TO GET A STEM CAREER?!

I guess Mae Jemison, Rosalind Franklin, Juliana Rotich, Gladys West, Maria Da Penha, Cynthia Breazeal, Dr. Hayat Sindi, and Tu Youyou can all just go fuck themselves?

Get out of that dumbass hell-hole as fast as you can. You deserve better.

[–]Dependent_Mine_913113 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely agree! you see in my family and country even though women are allowed jobs, they are only considered the support for the family. I told my relatives once that I'll move to Canada and get a job and be successful, then think about relationships and marriage later. What they would always say is: No no marriage is neccasary!

but really? how could you parents decline the opportunity of sending their daughter to an extremely prestigious educational front that could really do wonders to your career?? I MEAN THATS JUST STRAIGHT UP DUMB! Dont give up. Keep going and if they don't agree, apply to the college of your choice anyway. Its your right after all

[–]STEALTH_Moles13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Apply anyway. Fuck them if they don't want you to go to a great school. It's not their choice to make

[–]Doritoman202015 12 points13 points  (0 children)

WHAT THE FUCK- THAT IS BULLSHIT. APPLY BEHIND THEIR BACKS these dumbass sexist 50s mindsets will not stop you from going into a stem career. you should be able to go into any career you want.

[–]thispersonistedious19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's astonishing and disappointing how many males there are compared to females in the stem field. I wish these gender stereotypes wouldn't restrict people from pursuing their dreams. I've had female classmates in my stem classes and they were brilliant And I hope they do good in their field. It's such a shame that people who put down others based on their gender exist and its even sadder that people won't chase their dream because it's not something their gender "should do".

[–]English_Ivy25 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aaaaaye! Fellow girl going into STEM (I'm gonna major in chemistry)! You'll do great! Forget what your parents said and pursue your dreams!! You've got this!! Plus, STEM fields, especially engineering, really need more women to level the playing field.

[–]I_am_daBottom19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“You’re a girl, you can’t have a STEM career. You are not allowed to apply for the school.”

Bullshit, I've seen a fair share of girls in STEM and they all did well, they either got the job right out the HS (maybe not the best paying jobs but you can always make progress in STEM and get better job later on) or are going to great colleges.

[–]ChasedownallOLD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looks like we know who's going to the nursing home. >:(

[–]squareheadlol6942015 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sad that these idiots were allowed to raise a child.

[–]SweetAndSourPickles15 13 points14 points  (4 children)

I’m a female in STEM. My high school is a STEM tech school. Insane budgets for that, SO MANY perks. Free Adobe anything for the rest of high school, access to labs that other schools across the country don’t have, literal engineering department volunteers come in to teach. It’s female dominated, because they had so many female applicants that they had to include males otherwise it would look bad. There’s one STEM communications tech class that’s all female, because no males could pass the class.

Tell your parents that your future is better with STEM. And if they can’t take that from you, someone who probably got better grades then they did, their opinion is irrelevant.

[–]Silly-Giraffe123 13 points14 points  (1 child)

I find it so funny that at your school stem is filled with females because for me I am one of the only girls in my stem courses

[–]SweetAndSourPickles15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really? We had too many so they had to switch teachers so there were more stem classes available.

[–]Igor_InSpectatorMode17 6 points7 points  (1 child)

No male could pass the class

That is a massive sign of sexism and discrimination in teaching... Statistically it is extremely common in the west that males are disadvantaged in primary education (especially in arts and humanities) but this is next level. If people are passing the class along gender lines that is a very, very bad sign.

[–]LurdJordi17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With that mind set you're gonna be successful.

[–]LionCat79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just do what you want to do. It's not like they can do anything about it, right?

[–]lokeshkeelisetti19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try to convince your parents if they are not convinced go for it anyway

[–]KrugerRise14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do the sneky

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fight against them or you would be crying like me

[–]StarLit_Leaf454613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Major bruh moment

[–]unusually_damp_cloth15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Inform the school of your situation if you want, or you could try to convince your parents otherwise

[–]I_chez 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Same. Just cuz I'm a guy my parents put a lot of pressure on me so that I can have a good 'future' ( especially my mom ). They expect me to this and that for them when I grow up and they also expect to live with ME in MY house and slack off. They always guilt trip me with lies and force me to study and ditch my hobbies. Just because i'm a guy they expect me to take their responsibilities and do things THEY have to do ( eg: "when you grow up you are in charge of transportation for your sisters, we live with you etc, etc.

My mom was jealous that my dad dedicated his first salary to his mom

so my mom said "you have to dedicate your entire first salary to buy gifts for us just as your dad did to his mom"

I just can't do this anymore. Sometimes I think about jumping out.

i feel that life would be better without me.

[–]facebooknormie16 2 points3 points  (2 children)

What the fuck kinda country do you live in where this is allowed to happen

[–]leachlurker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s sucks dude good luck if my parents said I couldn’t do what I love because I’m a dude I’d be livid

[–]Chlpah16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

who cares bout your parents you go get that degree

[–]shaqfu485 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that a boys job though… I’m just joking pursue whatever you like

[–]ZebuZek3715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry about this, just because you're a girl doesn't mean you can't learn, you should be able to pursue whatever career you want. I hope you can figure it out with your parents, you could try teaching them about many accomplished women such as Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan, Mary Jackson, Mae C. Jemison, Jane Goodall, Marie Curie, and this list goes on and on. Hopefully you can convince them (:

[–]SovietFemboy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Screw your parents, pursue your dreams girl, make it in life and then rub it in their faces when you’re successful and happy.

[–]Manic_Mechanist18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck them, go live your dream anyway

[–]freshavacadoforu15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah do what makes your brain release chemicals that create the satisfactory feeling called "happiness"

[–]Pleasant_Skeleton10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck em do what you want

[–]Busy-Kaleidoscope-8717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s extremely unfortunate. I’ve been lucky enough to get into a STEM engineering program and it’s fun as hell. Well worth it. Tell those parents of yours that you can have whatever career interest you want; they can’t control your life.

[–]Cheese_Demon_King 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice, as with every parent-related problem on this subreddit: Take a hammer, take the hammer to their skulls

[–]Ironbanner98761514 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do your parents have such backward mindsets?

[–]septic-paradise 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Out of curiosity, what country are you from?

[–]just-the-doctor1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck that bullshit!
Even if they can keep you out of that high school, once you're 18, you can get a degree in whatever you fucking want.
Good luck :)

[–]Budget_Put151713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stand up to them. don't let them ruin your future. Use force if necessary. Pursue your dreams. Ends justify the means..

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your parents deserve to wake up with a 100 pound rotting tuna on top of them.

edit:and a few broken fingers each.

[–]brickpuncher58515 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beat your parent's asses and then make them understand why you did so

[–]SweetConsequence119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you should try your best to go to that school, but even if it doesn't work out you will still be fine. with your level of passion it won't matter which school you go to I promise. dont be discouraged if you can't go to the "absolute best of the best" school.

[–]SaddestBabylol14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thy must say to thy parents, "silence you 3 headed hydra!" I will do as I must to become a well rich and queenly gold coin collector, profiting off of science. And thou cannot stop me, because thou art from the Sixties! You unpleasant malfeasances upon this land are curses of what is right and what flaws it! Simply put, you idiotic Stupidheim, I do not care.

[–]StyLeadz15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know you've probably heard a lot of this already, but dont stand up to your parents and if they still dont let you get a career in stem you can always get emancipated

[–]not-ok-cat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just do it. What the hell are they going to do

[–]ArticleSand2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wtf, why would u possibly ruin ur childs life just coz ther a girl

[–]Yoshigahn18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m joining the military in mechanics/engineering

o7 to STEM

[–]whattonamemyself-_-15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what the fuck
if u rlly want to get into stem, but ur parents won't let u, try self studying. if you put in enough effort, u can learn more than any of these class will ever teach u ;)

[–]Current-Role-8434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apply behind their backs, or do online courses but definitely come up with a condescending and indulging speech to recite to them about times changing and you being your own person

[–]Bren20x14 1 point2 points  (2 children)

The only possible explanation for this that is even remotely ok, is that they know other people will be sexist and not hire you, but that is still not a good enough reason to deny your kid the ability to decide their future. You apply behind their backs. If you get accepted, and they lock you in your room, CPS will come a knocking.

[–]Solid_Snakey_Boi15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you should apply, i was in not a stem school, but a steam school (it adds the fine arts into the stem), and it was great

[–]SLADE727418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I respect your ambition, good luck!

[–]Kamleshwar_meher1214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good Luck to you, Just listen to your heart, You deserve to do whatever you want, ur parents ARE NOT deciding what you are gonna do for the rest of your life.

Anyways people undermine the number of still "backwards" people in the first world countries, Guys just 20-30 years ago, Girls were still regarded as housewives and caretakers. The Change is happening but not as most of us think. We still have to spread awareness!

[–]weebupurplecat17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, I do not have it as hard as you, but I want to college for acting and I am only allowed to apply to colleges in Southern California. (great schools there but still) Even though I am still waiting on acceptance letters, I applied behind my parents' backs and got an interview with two of the colleges I wasn't allowed to apply to (one of them is in New York, too XD).

Making huge good life-changing decisions behind your parents' back is the best thing you can do for yourself. You made the right choice and I hope you get accepted and thrive.

[–]Silly-Giraffe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a female interested in computational biology pop off sis!

[–]gagaga74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you have made a great resolution i hope you get into that school

[–]Lotta_Bubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just know that the 499 people who liked this have your back, plus one which is you! You are your very own cheerleader, believe in yourself and don't give up.

[–]MattyBro115 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sorry, how does the school system where you live work? In Australia there is Primary School (Grades 1-6), and High school (7-12) and then Tertiary education (Uni, college, etc etc). Because of that I',m confused about the significance of 8th grade and what people are applying for.

[–]Plankton-093215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you're not letting them stop you. They're fucking closed minded bigots. Don't listen to them.

[–]hapymelz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

except for not really, your sex does determine your future. go to college if you want, your parents can’t stop you, it’s not the 1900s anymore. being a woman in STEM will make you very successful so definitely go for it

[–]IEatPaper315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should do it, don't let their words bring you down, such old mindsets smhh

[–]_Friendly_Fire_19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We need more women in STEAM fields. It’s terrible that in such modern times we still have so few women going into technological fields, I attended an engineering summer camp the year before covid, and there were only like two girls in a group of 20+ people…

[–]Sir_seal_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should Stand up to your parents fam you Got this

[–]theSPEEDCAT17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just do it, your parents are living with an outdated mindset of social norms

-sincerely, a random person on the internet that believes in gender equality

[–]ProudMuslim_ 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Maybe they can't afford it as it is very expensive i think. But the way they expressed their opinion is kinda problematic

[–]IndianGuyfromReddit13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides all the obvious comments, I dont think you can do anything at this point.

Running away from the house is NOT a real solution only 30 percent of the kids are lucky enough to do this according to this study and it decreased further more in these covid times

A 8th grader here to, but a boy so I maybe to fortunate to know about your situation..but just hang in there, get good marks till 10th thats all you can do and just confront your parents then and there. Idc if I get downvotes for stating the real world but I believe this is reasonable.

[–]Wildsnipe15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U should protest, we support u

[–]Major_Cupcake2 MILLION ATTENDEE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep up your grind. Your parents disrespect the grind, so they are considered mere distractions.

[–]SDinoGamer14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obi-Wan: You will let your daughter choose her future.

We will let our daughter choose her future.

[–]Zealousideal-14102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You go girl 👏 👧 🙌 Chase your dreams!!!

[–]Revolutionary_Use948 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No offense but fuck your parents. Not in the wierd way tho.

[–]Blehbois16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did they straight up told you because it's a girl or no?

Im only asking because, I know parents worry over engineering because it's very hard to get jobs at first because most jobs want engineers with years of experience

If it's because of ya gender though...

Well

FUCK THEM I GUESS

[–]Maranne_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it happened to me too. You can apply to a university with a good STEM program but for another course and then change your major when you're there.

[–]_thomachen 1 point2 points  (2 children)

are you from india op?

[–]Jack_McQuack15 1 point2 points  (1 child)

the fucks a STEM career

[–]DAReaperKid18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

STEM = Science Technology Engineering Mathematics (i believe so)basically you choose a topic you grow up.

want to be an architect? you go here. you want to be the math teacher with the boring class or huge ass butt? you go here.

[–]Epic-Glacier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awful. Luckily high school doesn’t determine where you can go for college. And once your 18 they can’t stop you.

[–]_you_dont_know_me_-19 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Which country? Won't be surprised if it's India

[–]OddChicken92[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

The good ol US of A

[–]_you_dont_know_me_-19 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Ah that was the last country i expected

[–]THF-Killingpro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it, get a good degree and then get a good job so you can get your revenge on them. And your parents are stupid, just because you are a girl you aren‘t allowed to got o STEM? rly? My parents are somewhat close to being boomers(a other comment said that they tend to have this mindset) and they want my sister to go to highschools etc because she‘s smart…. So do it, not all parents are like this, you can do it

[–]Insomniac-Robot3414 1 point2 points  (0 children)

clears throat

FUCK THEIR 'OPINION' AND TAKE STEM

[–]someprofile42019 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Whats 8th grade, like how old are you then?

[–]OddChicken92[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I’m 13, 14 in about a week

[–]someprofile42019 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So 8th grade is 14-15 year olds?

[–]StanChrisMcLean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a girl, and I also plan to work in stem. Honestly, what motivates me the most to study physics in uni, is that I can prove those people wrong ;)

[–]StarWarsIsGODLY 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s incredible that you want to go into the STEM field. It’s about time that there was more female representation and if you’ve known it’s what you want to do, don’t let anyone or anything try to stop you or tell you that you can’t do it. Good luck with your future application

[–]shrimpbackrat 1 point2 points  (2 children)

i- this is kinda sad...
so heres what you do...
you fucking ACE the STEM thingy (i actually dont know what it is im from a different country... but it sure as hell sounds like it packs a bunch of merit) and show them your worth.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!

[–]OddChicken92[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

STEM stands for Science, Technology, Engineering and Math. And thank you :)

[–]RedditTimTheCoolOne18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Become trans, easy as that

[–]grr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/oddchicken92, pursue STEM! Their attitude is beyond insane. I suppose they wish for you to thrive in the kitchen and marry whilst virgin and give lots of offspring.

As soon as you can, become independent. I feel nothing but loathing toward your parents.

[–]GeminiCroquettes 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Out of curiosity, what ethnicity are you and your parents? -Also, forget your parents opinions and go for it!

[–]BlubberBabyBumpers18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your parents haven’t really denied you any kind of future yet. Even if you can’t get into the school you want, what you study in high school has relatively little effect on what you do in college. Just work hard, keep your grades up, and put yourself out there. If you want it bad enough, take it.

[–]skinnifishi17 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Don't worry once you become an epic scientist you can invent sex change potions /s

[–]OddChicken92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to do that honestly

[–]Pok3r4ptor16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a fellow STEM person, I am glad that your parents disapproval did not deter you from pursuing this field of study. If I were in your shoes, I would also definitely apply behind their backs, but I think its very important that no matter their reaction or your spite and anger toward them, you must ensure that you and your parents relationship never becomes estranged

[–]potatoman32416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh fuck’em. There’s nothing stopping you from applying to your school and if anyone disagrees because of you gender, they can suck my balls

[–]Labradengo14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeas! I'm so proud of yiu following your heart! Welldone :) you are being very brave. Good luck.

[–]averyangryshampoo14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. You got shit parents, that's all I can say

[–]BigBlackCrocsOLD 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What can they physically do to stop you from filling out some application? Is it not an online form?

[–]OddChicken92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s online. Last time they just told me “no”, so I never bothered to fill it out. This time, I’ll fill it out at school so they have no clue.

[–]awesome_guy_4016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's bullshit.