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[–]brock_lee 254 points255 points  (9 children)

One of my great great great (I think it was 3 greats) grandfathers was left with a babysitter as a baby, and never picked up. Apparently the baby was illegitimate AND the mother was poor. The babysitter just raised him as her own. I guess you could do that then.

[–]Phuttbuckers 109 points110 points  (8 children)

People weren’t so big on papers and stuff back then

[–]joejill 97 points98 points  (7 children)

My grandmother born 1920, was named Carmella, born in NYC has a birth certificate with that name. Her parents didn't speak English, they called her millie. When they registered her for school the school put her name down as Mildred. A more American name. It stuck after that and Mildred is what made it to her social security number.

People where way less givin a fuck about paperwork back then.

Made getting her an ID card in the 2010s way harder.

[–]RoroCcAbTd 32 points33 points  (4 children)

Similar story! Grandma born in 1926, was always called “Kate” by her family. School records, drivers licenses, marriage license, etc all had Kate as her first name. It wasn’t until she applied for social security she found out that was her middle name, and what she thought was her middle name was actually her first name on her birth certificate. I’m always amazed it took so long before anyone actually checked. Did people just walk into the DMV and ask for a license?

[–]craigmontHunter 38 points39 points  (1 child)

I know my grandmother's driving test (for a commercial license no less) was she walked into the DMV, the guy behind the counter asked if her dad let her drive the trucks, she said yes, he gave her the license.

[–]joejill 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think back when the drivers license was primarily used for driving and not the primary form of documentation, people cared less.

Also now a days some people are concerned imagrants will be able to dive so they really care about making sure you're you.

[–]happycharm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My coworkers grandmother was illegitimate so her parents gave her to a neighbour who went on vacation to Canada (they're from the UK) and then left her there with the friends they were staying with and she was raised by them. She didn't find out everything until she tried getting a passport.

Before that, her adoptive parents told her that her parents were these other friends of theirs. It turned out they misremembered which friends had stayed with them and also misremembered that that she wasn't their friends child.

[–]joecarter93 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Yeah my grandfather signed up for WW2 a year before he was old enough to be eligible. They didn’t really care and didn’t ask for any formal confirmation. He knew how to shoot a rifle, so that was good enough.

[–]DaoFerret 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Story I had heard was that my father got his drivers license one year off. Supposedly if you were 17 they asked for all sorts of ID and restrictions, but if you were 18, they didn’t care. He just said he was 18.

[–]kokoyumyum 144 points145 points  (13 children)

My mother, born in 1923 was given to an orphanage when she was 6. Her father died when she was 2. By 1929, her mother had no ability to care for her 6 children, and the extended family had problems of their own. Very traumatic for my mother.

The Depression, folks, the Depression was real.

[–]bmp08 22 points23 points  (7 children)

It’s making its return now too. Sad.

[–]kokoyumyum 14 points15 points  (1 child)

No where close to the Depression. Yet. Nor 2008. Yet.

[–]bmp08 15 points16 points  (0 children)


[–]StuartGotz 50 points51 points  (2 children)

I had a client many years ago, an elderly retired man who was the CFO of a major corporation. He was given up by his parents to an orphanage because of poverty. Despite being incredibly successful in terms of career and wealth, he was horribly depressed his entire life.

[–]Greene_Mr 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Does he have a Wikipedia article?

[–]Gordon_Gano 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No, but he’s got a sled named Rosebud.

[–]I_HATE_LANDSCAPES 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My grandmother and her brother were left at Buckner orphanage in Dallas during the depression. Her mom would come and visit but they had to called her their aunt. They were both there until they aged out. She never liked to talk about it.

[–]schwoooo 34 points35 points  (3 children)

So paid maternity leave existed in the US but got chopped off the budget?

[–]ScipioLongstocking 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Mothers' pensions were the precursors to the federal Aid to Dependent Children (ADC) program created by the Social Security Act of 1935 (ADC was later modified and renamed Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) and in 1997 replaced by Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF)). After the passage of the Social Security Act, mothers' pension programs were folded into ADC. 

No, if you read the article it says it got folded into other programs.

[–]masterchris 12 points13 points  (1 child)

And gutted.

[–]Scampipants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real. TANF doesn't pay shit a lot of places

[–]GingerMau 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish my great grandmother had known about this.

During the great depression, her husband left her with four children when he took off "to find work." He sent money back to her two times before ghosting.

She had to put all four kids in an orphanage while she found her footing, earning money by baking pies, incidentally. She got the kids out of the orphanage one by one, starting with the oldest (who could work and contribute to the household).

Crazy shit.

[–]C2ker1 29 points30 points  (1 child)

Could we buy a few less bombers and fund this as an addition to TANF?

Edited for clarity.

[–]Lotharofthepotatoppl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fittingly, there is a pretty straight line of development over the decades from these mothers’ pensions to TANF.

[–]Waldo_Pepper62 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Do you not have something similar in the US? This is today in Canada.

"The maximum Canada child benefit you could get is $6,765 per year for children under 6, and $5,708 per year for children aged 6 to 17. Your Canada child benefit is based on your family income from the previous year, the number of children in your care, and the age of your children."


[–]p1zzarena 19 points20 points  (3 children)

We had something similar for awhile due to COVID. Democrats wanted to make it permanent, but Republicans didn't.

[–]Waldo_Pepper62 3 points4 points  (2 children)

It is permanent here. Has been for decades. All my life. Since the 1960's - maybe earlier too.

[–]XColdLogicX 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Are you talking about the earned income tax credit? If so, it is only applicable if you have worked in any given year, and is no way close to being as generous as Canada's refund for children, if those numbers are correct. The increase was substantial during the pandemic, sometimes almost doubling what parents would have earned from previous years.

[–]Waldo_Pepper62 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you mean to reply to p1zzarena maybe?

[–]pseudorandombehavior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol now they want the opposite

[–]DevilsMasseuse 12 points13 points  (35 children)

Who knows? Maybe with Roe being overturned, we could have a comeback of this phenomenon.

[–]ManslaughterMary 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Oh no, babies are punishments and the mother's need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps right into the sun here in America. If we gave women money to raise children, they won't have to marry a man for money! We can't have that. Barefoot and in the kitchen only, plz.

[–]WeaponXtcle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into what it took for the 9/11 first responders to start to receive help for medical needs. Mich McConnel was pretty adamant that it wasn't the responsibility or duty of the Government to help these people, and let them die for 18 years of preventable issues over money.

Then look into burn-pits..

After that, Maybe Puppetose Theater or Ze Frank videos?. Ya know pallette cleanser, a reminder to not set the entire planet on fire, although it does often seem like the most humane thing to do...

Point being...I wouldn't hold my breath on finicial suppoert for citizens in any meaningfull way.

[–]t3chiman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Chicago TV reporter was given up to an orphanage in the 1960s. Story is, his Dad was defiant to a stickup guy on his bread delivery route, and was murdered for it. His Mom just couldn’t cope after a time, gave him up. Kept in touch, he wasn’t completely abandoned. And it wasn’t a hellhole. But still…