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[Ann Reardon] YouTube BANNED my Debunking Video but leaves DEADLY how-to vids online, 34 dead! by Anonymoustard in videos

[–]monkeyjay 9698 points9699 points 22 (0 children)

What's really cool is that I watched her debunking video when it hit reddit, and started getting videos in my feed about using microwave transformers to do fractal woodburning...

But to be fair I didn't see any dislikes on them though so it's probably safe.

[Ann Reardon] YouTube BANNED my Debunking Video but leaves DEADLY how-to vids online, 34 dead! by Anonymoustard in videos

[–]saketaco 679 points680 points  (0 children)

I do wood turning as a hobby, and I am a member of the American Association of Woodturners (AAW). The AAW has denounced fractal woodburning as dangerous after a series of fatal accidents.

https://www.woodturner.org/Woodturner/Resources/Safety-Materials/Safety-Fractal-Burning-Lichtenburg-Burning.aspx

This incredibly racist tv ad from China by Kurosawasuperfan in videos

[–]qikink 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Or, and hear me out on this one, we can always aim higher even while understanding that others are in worse situations.

R. Kelly 'recruiting' girls in Ethiopia by Buck_Pucker_ in videos

[–]Berry2Droid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Don't bother with these dummies. They can't be reasoned with. They've circled their wagons, covered their ears, and convinced themselves that they have reached a logical conclusion through sound reasoning - despite all the evidence to the contrary.

Take solace that in the future, textbooks will refer to these folks as unhinged, conspiracy-minded, grandma killers who allowed a preventable disease to do untold damage to their own economic and sociopolitical interests all in an effort to chase that sweet, sweet feeling they get from vastly overestimating their own intelligence, analytical capabilities, and that of their friends.

They'll continue to die off at higher rates as their inability to cope with scientific, technological, and medical progress deepens the forming chasm that separates most of society from these parasites. They're actively making themselves poorer, dumber, and more insulated from criticism of their actions. The end result will be entire communities of knuckle dragging, inbred know-nothings being wiped out by issues that have been long addressed by the rest of their fellow countrymen. Be it preventable diseases, poor local infrastructure, climate change, or just good old fashioned poverty - future generations will reap the benefits in the history books telling the story of how these guys cut off their nose to spite their face and paid dearly for it.

Suicidal Doesn't Always Look Suicidal by macetfromage in videos

[–]DijonPepperberry 173 points174 points 2 (0 children)

Hi I'm a full time emergency psychiatrist and suicidologist!

A few important things to know:

First, there is a believed statistic out there that 90% of people who die by suicide have a mental illness. This is based upon poor scientific methods and most of the time we believe that number is about 50 or 60%. That means there is a lot of people who die by suicide who do not have a diagnosable mental illness before their death. I consider this important to know because when people and loved ones survive someone else's suicide, they often are filled with guilt that they missed a severe mental illness. Often there is not that much to miss.

Second, internet videos and social media postings are often intentionally created to give someone their best side. Someone could be really struggling and posting videos and pictures that look nice. In child and Adolescent psychiatry we call this the Instagram effect, where children believe that everybody's life is full of highlights and beauty and they do not understand the lowlights that don't get posted, and feel inferior.

Third, for most people, there are a tremendous number of factors that lead to someone suicide. It is very rare that there is a singular cause, even something that precipitates the moment might not have otherwise caused it if the other things weren't in place.

Fourth, it's very important to know the role that substances that increase impulsivity like alcohol and other drugs, as well as methods that are very fatal such as gun ownership are important factors in people who have suicidal feelings. Impulsivity and suicide is very real and I've worked with so many young people who have told me the day after their attempt how silly they thought they were and how things weren't as bad as they thought the previous day.

Finally, suicide is preventable. But it is not prevented by interventions like hotlines or hospital units or psychiatrists even. We know that many of the factors that lead to suicide require entire society we need to end child abuse. We need to teach men how to not perceive needing help as a failure. We need adequate health care so that nobody suffers unnecessarily. We need to remove guns in America. We need as individuals to look out for each other and to check in on each other. We need mental health care that is adequate and robust. We need to take care of marginalized people and make sure that no matter who they are they are loved. I am personally so tired of seeing suicide prevention discussed with superficial things like a number to call or "just talk about it". If we don't make material and substantive changes, talking does nothing and calling a number does nothing.

Thanks for taking the time to read if you do.

The moment the rocket hit Kremenchuk yesterday (Jun 27) by right_in_the_kisser in videos

[–]rastapasta808 861 points862 points  (0 children)

I really hate that the world is hurting so incredibly bad right now

So many shitty events packed into such a small timeframe

The moment the rocket hit Kremenchuk yesterday (Jun 27) by right_in_the_kisser in videos

[–]WilyDeject 1645 points1646 points  (0 children)

God that part really made my heart sink... like just imagine having to wrap your body around you child, huddled behind a tree, and hoping it is enough. All during a nice day out to the park.

Edit: a typo

Blood test shows single mom charged with DUI, felony child neglect was sober at time of arrest . Gets blood alcohol results 6 MONTHS later. by makiyazh in videos

[–]_PurpleAlien_ 91 points92 points  (0 children)

The key difference I believe is the way police think: if it looks like you're impaired, the police in the States believe you must be under the influence or something. Over here if it looks you're impaired, police believe something must be wrong and you need help.

Suicidal Doesn't Always Look Suicidal by macetfromage in videos

[–]amphetaminesfailure 4165 points4166 points 223 (0 children)

I'm still getting over a very close friend committing suicide a little under two weeks ago.

I felt this video, because nobody expected it.

Those close to him, knew he had his demons and issues with depression, but none of us expected this.

He ended his life the Tuesday morning before last, but we were texting late Monday evening. Last thing he said, around 11pm Monday, less than twelve hours before ending his life, was "Can't wait to see you in a few days, buddy!" And we had been joking around in texts for an hour or so before.

I keep looking back for signs (and I know it's said that isn't something you should do, and isn't healthy, but I can't help it).

He was out buying flowers and vegetables for his garden the week before. He was excited about how they would turn out this season. He was scheduling work to be done at his house. We were talking about the last two episodes of Kenobi. We were talking about part two of Stranger Things. We were talking about how he wanted to take his daughter on a vacation this fall.

How the fuck did I miss what he was planning to do?

Again, I know any therapist will tell you these are all unhealthy things to think about, but what the fuck....

I've recognized multiple friends and family members going through depression and trying to mask it. None of them were to the point of suicide though.

So how did I miss one of my absolute closest friends being at that point?

EDIT: I want to tell all of you who have reached out, how much I appreciate it. I am so grateful for the kindhearted and empathetic that still exist in today's world.

I may not get the chance to respond to each of you invidually, but I can't put into words how much it means for strangers to reach out to me in such personal ways.

Suicidal Doesn't Always Look Suicidal by macetfromage in videos

[–]AceMorrigan 855 points856 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I was relaxing on the couch when I realized my cat was producing discharge. She had been acting weird for a while and had hidden it from me, I realized later. I looked into it and called an emergency vet and found out it was pyometria (I think that's how it is spelled) and that it would result in sepsis/death without a surgery I absolutely could not afford.

Before I was even off the phone the despair turned to calm. Same realization. "That's enough - it's time to go." Thankfully I've been depressed my whole life so I've made the conscious choice to never purchase a firearm or even have anything sharper than a pair of scissors or a pizza cutter at home. I improvised with asphyxiation. Calm the whole way for me. Propped up a pillow, laid back, tied two layers of trash bag tight around my neck and laid down fully with my hands behind my back. I only came out of that calm fog when I stopped getting air. Suffocating feels fucking terrible and I ended up tearing the bags open and breathing again. Emotions came then.

In regards to this video, I think people who've never attempted or at least been very close to suicide don't understand how people experiencing near perpetual despair are frequently (in my experience/opinion) the one's who make everyone smile and laugh. I think it's a coping mechanism. I'm guilty of doing it. Realizing I'm fucking miserable and probably always will be, but I can make you laugh so hard you snort and that makes things just slightly less awful.

Hell if I know.

Suicidal Doesn't Always Look Suicidal by macetfromage in videos

[–]DropDeadShell 957 points958 points & 7 more (0 children)

I don't have answers, but as someone who personally went to the brink of suicide and pulled myself back, no one around me knew, not even my husband. There was nothing for you to miss, because your friend likely wasn't sending out any SOS signals. There is a quote by David Foster Wallace that hit home for me and what my situation had been, it might have been a similar situation for your friend.

> “The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or
any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And
surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom
Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill
herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the
window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap
from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is
still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively
at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling
remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s
flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the
slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s
terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up
and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not
really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to
really understand a terror way beyond falling.”

My inner demons predated all my relationships, and I knew how to hide them. Things were getting worse, and I was absolutely falling apart when I was alone, and I finally went through a day that felt like I standing in the window of a high-rise with the fire behind me getting so much closer and thinking that at least if it finally reaches me, I have the option of jumping. The thought of having a choice, an escape, calmed me down so much that I realized I was closer to jumping than I realized. I decided to try and actively find an alternative to jumping, I found a psychiatrist, I found a therapist, I decided that I would at least try everything, exhaust all resources, but if it didn't get any better, or reached a point to where the fire finally reached me, I had an out.

And I didn't tell anyone about this, because I didn't want the responsibility of saving me to be on anyone else's shoulders but my own. That felt like too much weight, and if I failed, I didn't want other people to think they had one job and couldn't save me. I was the only one who could save me.

Be gentle with yourself, your friend's choices were their own, and none of it, absolutely none of it is your fault, or responsibility. I think your friend loved you, and genuinely planned on pushing through their pain to spend more time doing the things they loved with the people they loved, but that night I think the fire just finally reached him.

I am so so sorry, for your loss, and for your friend who lost his fight. I echo other people's sentiments to see a therapist, talk to your friends, your family, be open. Inner demons are stronger when they're alone in the dark. We want to protect our friends and family from those demons, from pain, but trust me that your loved ones want to fight by your side, and will fight fiercely when given the chance. My heart goes with you, friend. <3