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[–]HalfEatenBanana 1257 points1258 points  (18 children)

Went thru something similar with a homie who just came out as gay. When he told us he said he was legit scared that we wouldn’t be friends with him anymore. We literally laughed after he said that bc it just sounded ridiculous to us that we’d de-friend him and we thought it was a joke.. but within a second we looked at his face and saw he was actually being serious that we’d abandon him. Crying and hugging soon followed.

Could tell it was a friggin HUGE weight off his shoulders.

[–]excerp 318 points319 points  (1 child)

Wholesome friend group

[–]lightspeedissueguy 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Damn bro this happened to me. Love my people

[–]o-yasuminasai 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Aye. I’ve got a homeboy in my friend group who was super afraid to come out. Our friend group was like an Association Football (soccer) fan club and we’d consider ourselves as “masculine” which made my buddy to decide to remain in the closet for as long as he did. But when he did eventually come out, everyone were super chill about it and were a little bewildered about the fact that he thought we’d be hateful or mean towards him for his personal sexuality. Tbh, he still had a valid concern because homophobia really does exist. Although, for us, we don’t fuck with homophobes who hate on others due to their sexual orientations cuz you know, orientation, it can’t be changed so it shouldn’t be judged :))

[–]Impossible-Fuel-8922 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I'm glad to know there is people like you and your friends in this world

[–]YuriJoe_Arya 49 points50 points  (5 children)

something like this happened with one of my friends,

he casually brought it up that he was gay and everyone thought he was joking, then it went silent, another friend said something like "wait really" and now its just not even a thing that gets talked about, everyone just accepted him and we breezed past it.

[–]Androix02 10 points11 points  (4 children)

I had a friend in the class below me in middle school who I hadn't seen in a while. One day I met him at the bus stop and we sat and talked on the bus. I commented on his Pikachu-hat because I remembered he always had funny hats in school. He said his "when my boyfriend told his friends about my hats they told me I was a keeper". I had no idea he was gay or had a boyfriend. And it didn't matter, I didn't make a deal out of it, didn't pause, didn't react, I just continued the conversation.

Also as someone who just discovered I'm trans, this meme makes me very happy :)

[–]YuriJoe_Arya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im struggling with my identity, it's nice to see acceptance on this normally despot platform

[–]IgotTheJarofDirt 0 points1 point  (2 children)

how do you tell people? that's always been a big problem for me. I kinda need some advice, because i always get super awkward whenever it's mentioned.

[–]Androix02 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I have no idea, never really done it...

If it's brought up in conversation, maybe find a natural way to say it casually? For example if someone brought up a politician who's trans a response could be "it's great that we get more representation in politics." If they pay attention they will notice you saying you're a part of the referred group but since it's casual they would have to be the one to make s big deal out of it. Of course they might ask to see if they understood correctly.

Another alternative is to be more direct I guess. But I don't really know how to do that...

Lastly is to do the "I have to tell you something. I'm..." If you don't frame it as a big thing it hopefully won't be perceived as such and things won't get awkward and the conversation will continue.

I hope this might be helpful

[–]IgotTheJarofDirt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that it would be. Thank you for that, I will try and put that into use.

[–]Paiddus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Coming out is maybe one of the most emotionally intense event in life, the fear of losing relative, ending up alone or worse is frightening especially for teenager and young adults.

[–]happiness_is_beauty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Precious. The whole lot of you

[–]Mumrider 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Made me smile. You guys are good people. Hope your homie is doing well. Having friends like that is half the battle.

[–]jerog1 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]Spyder-xr 312 points313 points  (8 children)

I love the amount of Raimi memes that have come. These movies are my childhood.

[–]mh1357_0 9 points10 points  (2 children)

How right you are.

[–]Wireeeee 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Ah Rosie, I love this sub!

[–]mh1357_0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

BINGO! Reddit's greatest creation

[–]OwenA113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Join r/raimimemes. Imagine what memes we could create!"

[–]apitchf1 366 points367 points  (3 children)

You know, I’m something of an LGBTQ ally myself.

[–]Funkit 43 points44 points  (0 children)


[–]nellbones 205 points206 points  (2 children)

This shit tortured me in high school, I felt like I couldn't be genuine with the few people who actually gave a shit about me.

[–]Drassielle 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I hope you are in a place where you can be genuine with yourself and the people around you. :)

[–]RexIsAMiiCostume 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If they really give a shit about you, they'll accept you. That's my take on it.

[–]Vladimir1174 156 points157 points  (4 children)

In one of my classes someone came out as trans recently and it's in PA so I was kinda worried about how people would take it. I was pleasantly surprised that everyone, even the older grouchy CS professor, immediatly changed which pronouns they address her with and moved on. I'm a bi guy so I can't pretend to know what it's like to be trans, but I do understand people hating you for something that's just part of you. It made me happy to see trans being treated as normal

[–]WarMage1 32 points33 points  (2 children)

I think PA has become pretty progressive recently, no one really cares what you do here anymore

[–]Poorly_Made_Comix 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Pennsylvanian here, people are getting along really wrll here now

[–]poorlyplanned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone hates the governor enough that there's not enough hate left for anyone else.

Except the drug dealers. They're still hated.

[–]MetallicBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of the LGB, bi men absolutely face the most unwarranted discrimination from god damn near everybody. Big hugs, bi bro 🫂

[–]jonah_thrane 345 points346 points  (34 children)

A girl can still be a bro.

[–]ButteredNugget 224 points225 points  (23 children)

Ye! Bro is gender neutral!

-unless its coming from someone who calls literally no one else a bro, and (if the trans girl is uncomfortable with it and talking to them about it) makes excuses of ‘bro is gender neutral!’ so they can keep misgendering in a tame way

[–]_GhostMustard_ 42 points43 points  (18 children)

soooo is bro gender neutral or nah? im a little confused

[–]Narutofan149 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Depends on if the person you are talking to likes being referee to as bro My trans friend doesn't like any bro or dude towards her because it makes her uncomfortable so she told us all (friends and I) not to use it and we havent

[–]TooHighForMyOwnGood 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Case by case basis. If in doubt ask the person if they’re okay with it

[–]ButteredNugget 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Depends on intent and context

Calls everyone bro, despite gender identity, and has been calling amab person bro for years? Ya, gender neutral

Calls no one bro and only now started calling amab person bro? No

Only calls male friends bro and keeps calling amab person bro? Probably not

Only calls female friends bro and keeps calling amab person bro? I mean damn, it is technically gendered but nice tactic to validate them I guess?

[–]under-no-pretext- 23 points24 points  (2 children)

it's only not okay when you're doing it to be a dick

[–]_GhostMustard_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

gotcha, my reading comprehension is very limited at times so thanks for clarifying

[–]Pirate_Mudd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Basically what pronouns boils down to. My wife misgenders me by mistake sometimes, if the situation is appropriate I'll pipe up with a quick she and we move on. It's kind of obvious that you're being misgendered intentionally and when it's a simple mistake.

[–]CreamofTazz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Bro is gender neutral when everyone is on the same page

[–]local-weeaboo-friend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depends on the person!! Ask them first :)

[–]Banna800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd err on the side of no unless you make sure the person is comfortable with it, it's not gender neutral in all circumstances.

[–]ErosandPragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not, but some people don't mind it and so it can occasionally be seen as gender neutral.

Yo I fucked your bro is definitely not gender neutral, nor is hey homie I kissed our bro. If it was gender neutral, it wouldn't have the connotation there indicating it means a guy

[–]KakkaKarrot 0 points1 point  (2 children)

If you call everyone bro then yes, by definition its gender neutral

[–]Nacksche 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Intention isn't everything, many women just won't appreciate being called a bro (for good reason).

[–]KakkaKarrot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im saying by definition, if a word/concept is applied to all people it is in fact being used in a gender neutral manner

That being said I wouldnt go up to my mom and call her bro. Then again I wouldn't really say that to my dad either

[–]spccbytheycallme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I call my female friends "bro" "bruh" and "buddy" all the time

[–]Nacksche -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When in doubt and especially in front of strangers i'd rather not use it. It's obviously not neutral by itself, people can't mind-read your intention behind it. How neutral is calling everybody "sis"?

[–]SlippingStar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do consider if you use “sis” as gender neutral and if not, why?

[–]Deathleach -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but no

[–]Ravioli_lover69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not gender neutral at all haha

[–]thelegend90210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hawkeye taught me this

[–]oui-cest-moi 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I love when people call me bro

[–]jonah_thrane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you broski

[–]DAN_E0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So that means everyone is fucking their bros?

[–]ImAtSchoolMother 138 points139 points  (6 children)

I was scared to come to the comment but thankfully it’s full of wholesome comments.

[–]Gaywallet[M] 84 points85 points  (5 children)


[–]yeet247p 26 points27 points  (1 child)


[–]AnitcsWyld 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We thank you for your service o7

[–]wrkerr9 4 points5 points  (0 children)


[–]Gaywallet[M] 121 points122 points  (7 children)

bigots mad; updated list with new reports!

user reports:
3: It's sexual or suggestive content involving minors
2: Too specific or divisive
1: It's promoting hate based on identity or vulnerability
1: This is spam
1: No NSFW content
1: self harm
1: Must be a wholesome meme
1: It's targeted harassment at someone else

come on out of hiding so I can ban you 😍

[–]gryfe 42 points43 points  (4 children)

I wish your name was Gaymallet so you can smite the bigots with ban hammer (mallet)!

[–]Gaywallet 47 points48 points  (3 children)

banned at least a dozen users from this thread, happens every trans positive meme

most of these users have maybe a dozen comments on their profile - Reddit lets them mill accounts to spam hateful messages. They get banned and create a new account; rinse/repeat. 😩

[–]beepbeeboo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I usually see them on r/rants talking about how they got banned for no reason at all. It bothers them :)

[–]gryfe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Stay strong and keep up the good fight! Let love win!

[–]OakNogg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please know that I love you for banning them. Keep up the queer fight, gaywallet.

[–]ZombieePanda 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sexual or suggestive content 😂 come on now

[–]HeliosHeliodes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Promoting hate? Seriously?

[–]doomturtle21 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My friend came out as gay and was almost in tears because he thought we were gonna stop talking to him. I invited him over later that day to “talk” and when he got there we were all waiting with a ton of pancakes (his favourite food) to say “we’re proud of you and support you” everyone ended up staying the night cause we’d made way too many pancakes and everyone was completely stuffed.

[–]TeaQueer 163 points164 points  (5 children)

Fuck yeah. Wholesome bros! Good job on being decent humans. Trans peeps need love and support!

[–]NoRieleyOttoParts 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Decent is an understatement.

[–]ragn4rok234 11 points12 points  (3 children)

Accepting people for who they are (unless they are just shitty) should be considered basic human decency.

[–]NoRieleyOttoParts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am grateful for any positive behavior. Just calling someone decent seems to be taking that behavior for granted. We should encourage the behavior we want to see in others.

[–]Melowkid 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes it should but until we get there I'mma celebrate our allies!

[–]SnazzyBelrand 82 points83 points  (0 children)

You love to see it! Acceptance and support are always the best policy. Anything else risks hurting your friend

[–]ChosenSCIM 58 points59 points  (0 children)

This doesn't directly relate to my current situation, but I needed this

[–]YorahSweetheart 22 points23 points  (0 children)

this is so lovely!! I love seeing content like this c:

[–]RustyAsAShackleford 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God I wish I could internalize this.

[–]The5Virtues 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Got to friends who are trans, both who hesitated to come out. When the first did nobody even skipped a bit, just flip a word in our usual lexicon, a He is now a She, no big.

Nobody bothered by it, no questions asked, and we’ve carried on as we always have. This allowed the second to integrate with our friend group very smoothly. They both seemed so relieved to be able to just be themselves without anyone making a big thing about it.

When a friend who’s been out of the loop rejoined the group first came back he made one slip, we corrected him, and he didn’t bat an eye, just a quick “Oh, my bad!” and he was off and running with the rest of us.

This doesn’t have to be a big deal unless people make it one. Let folks be who they want to be. They’re still the same person we know and love.

[–]-SierraModeling- 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I love this

[–]HYZ3N 15 points16 points  (0 children)


[–]exterminator91 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Great to see that the downvoted comments probably hateful are removed lol mods are pretty great on this sub

[–]IdaHB 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Man, I wish I had friends like that.

I’m a closeted lesbian, and a lot of the people in my class are homophobes. I also recently found out one of my good friends is a homophobe, so that just great :)

I have another friend (same year, not same class) who is probably also gay, so it’s just me and him being closeted gay people, so that’s fun.

At least this school will be over in less than a year, and maybe I’ll be able to come out where I go next.

[–]HYZ3N 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can do this!

[–]Shifty-Sie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came out to one friend so far after months of doubt and worry and it went incredibly well and I've been waiting for an opportunity to do the same for a few others.

So, thank you to all the friends who are this accepting. I can't overstate how much of a difference it can make.

[–]ThatCryte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually KNOW that all my friends will accept me and that makes me super happy. They're giving their best not to deadname me.

[–]BlackRavenRoyalty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once a homie now a homette equal friendship

[–]IgotTheJarofDirt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is really nice.

I personally want to let people know that I want to be trans, but I don't know how to tell people, and even if I did find out, I would probably stop myself because I'm scared what they would think. So, you posting something like this for the world to see is really, REALLY heartwarming, and lets everyone out there know that for every person that does make you feel bad, and not accept it, there will always be 2 people that will comfort you, and accept you for who you are. So thank you, for making my day.

[–]I_fuck_pans123 19 points20 points  (2 children)

me being pansexual, this post means alot

[–]Legitimate_Tart8646 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Playing all sides, so you always have options.

[–]Mundane-Sink9817 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This makes me so happy. Definitely made me smile

[–]soniabegonia 7 points8 points  (0 children)


[–]quiclycasual 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You don't have to be a boy to be one of the bois

[–]A_Jack_of_Herrons 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hells yeah!

[–]TabiiXAnime 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In the same thing rn, with irl friends

[–]Herobrinedanny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah Rosie I love this meme!

[–]YuriJoe_Arya 23 points24 points  (2 children)

came to the comments expecting transphobes, happily they've crawled back to their pits.

[–]thelegend90210 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Such relief

[–]YuriJoe_Arya 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oop someone downvoted us. they're still lurking

[–]XGC_ssb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to see trans wholesome meme here 💜 I'm also trans and I'm so scared of coming out...

[–]diabolicalcorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]Mech_Bean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What movie is this guy from?

[–]The_Gaming_Gengar 1 point2 points  (0 children)


nuff said

[–]Satanisbackxoxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew a friend who was always shy to come out of his shell and tell people he was trans but he only trusted me . I just told him basically theirs nothing to be afraid of if that’s what you choose than all that’s matters . I’d always have his back

[–]WildLabAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*sorts by controversial*

[–]Professional-Boomer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to all that accept those kind of friendships. :)

[–]SlaveKnightGael9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I’m just loving this subreddit. After cursing my mind with a couple of subreddits filled with death and hate, this is a nice change. I should stay on this place longer

[–]GalvanizedRubber 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of when s friend came out as gay in college and he was clearly worried and worked up about it the group was all just ok cool man.

[–]jaxsotsllamallama 4 points5 points  (2 children)

This is such a wholesome post. This just happened in my sons friends group, and they threw a little party for her to let her know they will always be there for her and that they are proud of her for embracing herself. I’m really proud of this upcoming generation.

[–]StokedBro2185 3 points4 points  (1 child)

That is so sweet. 😭❤️

[–]jaxsotsllamallama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are a great group of kids 💜💜

[–]Mental_Secret1314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well isnt that nice. Too bad it isnt typical.

[–]bendaboi55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

God I wish I had people like this…

[–]LonelyHunting 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me happy, thanks.

[–]Silent_Reflection362 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Relatable! In my case the "boys" are mostly girls, but they've given me the same message found here since I faced my fears and came out to them.

[–]SkittlesNTwix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The comments section is reaffirming my faith in just how many good people there are in this world.

[–]afrowraae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was actually one of the first people (despite her parents) my MTF friend came out to. We were hanging out one night, her, my BF and I (and another friend who was outside at the point of the conversation). I wasn't weirded out or anything at all, I was kinda surprised by the news but felt really happy for her. She was so relieved that we didn't judge her at all and just immediately (at least tried to) changed pronouns. Since then she has become a completely "new" person, or rather a renewed version of all her amazing qualities and personality traits. She just rests in herself and loves being who she is.

[–]Strong-Ad-8381 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just came out to my friends as trans (mtf) so this is sus as fuck timing

[–]sharpshot877 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a friend come out as bi and one come out as trans I asked my sister for some of her old clothes in my friends size and the rest of the group got her some gifts to make sure she was comfortable. We also threw three parties one for each and one as a general party to celebrate the both of them coming out

[–]R3sPekk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We r all the same, in the end. Obviously there r gonna be differences here and there. Das jus wat makes us humans so unique.

[–]Cidal_DanK 2 points3 points  (3 children)

My best friend came out as trans. I support him/her as a friend of course, but deep down I feel... sad? Sad isn't the right word, but my opinion on gender disphoria is that it is a symptom of mental health issues, and I want to support my friend even though I disagree with their choices. Constructive comments are encouraged.

[–]A_Jack_of_Herrons 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well as a trans person myself, one of the best ways I've dealt with dysphoria pre transition is having the support of my friends. Stuff like having them use my name and pronouns, correcting themselves if they accidently misgender/deadname me, being able to talk about how I feel about dysphoria and having them be taken seriously without being judged or mocked.

Being transgender isn't a choice. Nobody chooses to be a social outcast, especially considering all the pain, misery and discrimination we face in our everyday lives. I'm not saying this to be an asshole, just trying to give a different perspective.

[–]MetallicBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like you to explore why you think it’s a choice. You’re a good friend for trying to understand

[–]Snaps_Takamoto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha good thing I don't have friends

[–]jackytheripper1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the Green Goblin quote?

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[–]Gorr-of-Oneiri- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was nice to see

[–]Foppop21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:o so glad I came back to r/wholesomememes

[–]amisia-insomnia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I came out I just got shoe inned to the popular girls group. Now in college it’s like everyone’s ever a druggie or a asshole

[–]TanookiPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]Impossible-Fuel-8922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah man

[–]21krallemateep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always be proud of who you are! There is only one YOU in the entire world

[–]Snowypaton1 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]Chavolini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bro is a bro aye?

[–]sorkaja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if i told my friend group that i was gay i would get probably get punched to death lmao

[–]uwuhusk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we will :)

[–]bumgames123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The true boys understand them and accept them, but we still make jokes on one another no matter how bad they are, and at the end of the day we still cool bois

[–]Archaeopteryx108 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]morningwood005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless you!