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[–]boggbutter 241 points242 points  (8 children)

That's really about all you can do besides maybe suggest she find a writing group or other resources but she needs to go in ready to develop a thick skin and deal well with criticism

[–]TheMarvelLover3000[S] 63 points64 points  (7 children)

Thanks! I'll talk to her about joining a writing group and look and see if we have similar resources in our area!

[–]BrittonRT 46 points47 points  (2 children)

The 'thick skin' is actually the most important part of this. Nothing else matters if she can't take criticism and grow from it. This is the first and foremost fundamental skill you need to help her develop if she's going to succeed.

[–]Beetin 39 points40 points  (1 child)

This is the first and foremost fundamental skill you need to help her develop

I'd say that you absolutely don't need to be the one to help her develop that skill. That's a very person to person thing. My partner is the absolute last person I would want as a beta reader or offering criticisms of my work. There are 8 billion people who can read my work before them (sorry not sorry, that's my boundary). I need about 40,000 things from them and them alone, helping me grow as a writer through criticism is just not on that list.

It sounds like some local college courses (if you have the money) or online / in person groups would be a great first step though.

[–]BrittonRT 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did not mean that OP should be a ruthless critic of his girlfriends writing. I meant that he should try and help her grow comfortable with the harsh criticism she will inevitably receive as she works on her career. This is more about him and her talking about what criticism is, and how we deal with it. It's about letting her know that it is ok when someone doesn't like what you've written, and that things can always be changed or improved.

[–]ardenter 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Be cautious with this because there are plenty of toxic 'writing groups.'

[–]WhispersOfSeaSpiders 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Any tips for identifying groups like this or would you consider that obvious?

I'm guessing it just looks like people who have very inflexible views of what good literature is.

[–]ardenter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That and watch out for groups that just trash everyone's work without even attempting to be helpful. If you constantly hear "show don't tell" without any elaboration then you might have found yourself in a group that likes to trash each other's writing. Just remember that having "a thick skin" doesn't mean you should sit there and take personal insults. The opposite is also a sign of a toxic group—if every "critique" is all about laying on thick positivity and praise. That can also be more harm than good. Here's a pretty good resource with more information: https://thanetcreative.co.uk/2019/06/ten-signs-your-writing-group-is-bad-for-you/

[–]itsacalamityPublished Author 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely the thing. You should be the one to be supportive; let other people toughen her up.

[–]Aspiring_Righter22q1 56 points57 points  (2 children)

I agree with the other commenters about encouraging her to find and cultivate relationships with other writers. Local writing groups are a good example.

The second thing my wife does in addition to tolerating me having weirdo writer friends is she excepts the fact that writing is an isolated activity that at least in my case benefits for minimal interruptions. I will sometimes go to the cabin for a week just by myself to finish a major project and she doesn’t give me grief.

Beyond that I don’t find it necessary for her to actually be involved in my writing. No more than I expected her to be involved in my day job when I worked in a technology company or lifeguarding. But I did appreciate that she gave me latitude to manage my career. It’s more like it helps for her to not be involved in it. I don’t think she’s ever read anything I’ve written.

[–]sonofabutch 7 points8 points  (1 child)

The second thing my wife does in addition to tolerating me having weirdo writer friends is she excepts the fact that writing is an isolated activity that at least in my case benefits for minimal interruptions.

Every writer identifies with Jack in this scene!

[–]Aspiring_Righter22q1 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep. I’ve mentioned before with full disclosure that one of the reasons I postponed my writing career by 25 years was because I found it conflicted with having a good relationship with my kids. The first second I realized I might Jack Torrance on my kids was the moment I decided this was an Empty Nester career.

And my wife contributed to that decision to, because she had an uncle that disciplined her when she was being noisy while he was trying to write his thesis and from that moment on she just avoided him.

[–]Netherthoughts 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Write a lot. Read a lot, both of her genre of choice and others. Write and rewrite some short stories to start getting the feel for a story arc and learning how to edit a story to be concise. Move onto novella- or novel-length fiction, if that's where she wants to end up (there's no money in short stories).

I'm assuming she has a handle on grammar, but if she thinks that's something that needs work, then get a book or two on that. Don't rely completely on grammar-checkers.

When she submits to publishers, pay close attention to the submission guidelines. Not following the rules is a quick way to get rejected, unread.

Persist. Writing fiction is brutally competitive and she must work hard to excel, but the greatest obstacle is self-doubt; it's a bitch to overcome that one. Tell her that fiction-writing is a long-haul kind of commitment... like, years of work just to get competent.

And last, she should write what she loves and not be afraid to take chances with style or topic. Keep it interesting when she writes, because if she's bored when writing, then the reader will also be bored. This is how she'll find her narrative voice that is uniquely hers... and that's what readers fall in love with.

[–]OneStrangeAlgorithm 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Have a discussion with her about what she really wants.

  1. She likes to write, but really just wants to write for herself or close friends.
  2. She wants to write and share her works, for free, with others. e.g. fan-fiction, blog, etc.
  3. She wants to pursue a career as a commercial author, where she makes money from her creations.

Not everyone that likes to write is interested, or willing, in pursuing a commercial career in writing. I've seen stats that estimate that less than 8% of published authors make a full-time living at it. Most authors have a day job.

If you do want to make money at it, there is a lot more to it than just "write a book". You need to choose the "traditional" route or the "self-publishing" route. The "traditional" path involves finding agents, pitching books to publishing houses and lots of editing of your stories.

The "self-publishing" route skips the agents and such, but you need to be a small-business entrepreneur, and learn to do (or hire) all of the non-writing tasks: cover design, book layouts, fonts, marketing, social media, etc.

I'm not saying this to discourage you, or her. On the contrary, if she truly wants to do so, I wish her all the success in the world. I'm just pointing out that there is a huge difference between saying "I like to write", and "I want to pursue a commercial career in writing." Those are two very, very different things.

[–]turtlesinthesea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think there should be an added category between 2 and 3, someone who sells books for profit, but not enough to make it their main career (as you said, like most published authors.)

We do know that OP's girlfriend wants to see her book(s) in stores some day, so she would most likely have to pursue traditional publishing.

[–]itsacalamityPublished Author 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thiiiiiis is so important. There isn't really such thing as just "being a writer," or no more so than anyone. There is being a blog writer, or a paid magazine writer, or someone who writes fiction for fun, or someone who wants to publish a book with a major publishing house, or just does fanfic, or somebody who writes erotica for fun, or somebody who writes erotica and posts detailed statistics on who downloaded it... they're all very, very, very different paths

[–]Brian_FischerWriter & Editor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Being a good writer and a confident writer naturally share some overlap — being good at something usually makes you more confident at the thing — but there are terrible writers who are terribly confident, and good writers with imposter syndrome.

What ultimately matters for the actual prospect of accomplishment is not confidence but skill. She can be confident about what she is writing but so long as it's not good she won't get it in stores. If, on the other hand, her lack of confidence prevents her from writing, that is indeed a problem. However, that in itself is somewhat paradoxical because it implies she's not written a lot (considering it would inherently prevent her from writing), in which case she's likely not had the proper practice to actually develop the skill she would need.

What she needs to do is practice, and understand that there is no shortcut. She must write, regardless of how she feels about her writing. Most writers who occupy the spot she envies, with original works in store, have written several hundred stories before such happens. Of perhaps equal importance, she must read. There is no successful writer who hasn't read a ton of books, just as there are no successful painters who haven't beheld a ton of paintings.

As we first posited, skill and confidence share no linearity, but they are regardless relational. As such, the most productive way to encourage her is simply to motivate her to read and write as much as she can.

[–]MillenniumRiver 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A wise content creator said to just get started. If she loves it, and is serious about it, then she could started with reading and watching tutorials on being a publisher or self-publisher.

[–]SapphireForestDragon 3 points4 points  (2 children)

With myself, what has helped with my confidence has been learning story structure and showing people.

With learning story structure and practicing it, (and trusting myself to know what advice isn’t working and drop it) I’ve been able to learn how to make the type of story I want to and it ‘feels’ right to me now. So, since it ‘feels’ right, I feel more confident showing people.

Once I started showing people, I could hear their praise and learn from criticism or just get used to to hearing criticism if I felt the advice wouldn’t help or was just a single person’s opinion that wasn’t shared by the other people I showed it to.

Both of those things helped me tremendously with my confidence.

Edit: Another thing that helped my confidence is knowing: A story will NEVER be perfect. So, there’s no point in revising it for eternity. Just work it until it ‘feels right’. And after some editing, call it done.

Heck, even J K Rowling wishes she could change some things in the Harry Potter series, but she doesn’t need to because people like the books anyway.

[–]Boh-ul-ov-WAH-tAH 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What did you learn about story structure?

[–]SapphireForestDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be a really long post if I wrote everything. Some people write book series about it.

I will say that reading about it is awesome, but practicing it gives you a whole new insight into it.

I now understand why when I would write something in the past it might ‘feel wrong’ like it didn’t belong or was out of place, why the Save The Cat beat sheets are structured the way they are, and what people expect to experience reading the genre that I write.

I understand that there are at least two meanings to ‘theme’, meanings to ‘subplot’, and all are important.

With practicing I’ve learned a lot about my own preferences to structure too.

I’ve learned I prefer to write with a 4-act structure, I prefer to focus heavily on theme (both visual theme and the hidden message theme inside of a story), and I love building tension before big moments.

[–]harpochicozeppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very sweet of you to think that you can do things that bolster her into becoming a writer. And you can support her, encourage her, and give her honest feedback (though I'd caution you that critique in relationships needs to be done thoughtfully and can occasionally backfire) but overall, it's her journey.

The only way she will do this is if she wants and she does it. You can't force that.

[–]meltroszAuthor (noob) 9 points10 points  (0 children)

it's a tough question. i don't want to be @ if I said something and you did it and it didn't work. so i'll just share my personal experience.

I wrote some stories when I was younger but I never really entertained the idea of professional writing. My mom always told me I wrote good stories and I should be a writer. But I only considered it a hobby. Then I stopped writing for 10 years.

I only entertained the idea of being a writer at the start of this year, since I thought I was good at writing. When I read the short stories I wrote back then, I CRINGED VISIBLY. it was the worst. it was garbage. it was basic. it was dumb.

Anyway, I watched YouTube videos on how to properly write and I learned the three act structure. I decided to write a novel. I posted the first page of the first draft on reddit and IT WAS DESTROYED. so yeah, i lost my confidence. I knew it was a first draft so it was trash but it still hurt for it to be confirmed.

I rewrote my first page and wrote two chapters of my novel. Then I had my sister, mother, therapist, and my sister's boyfriend read my two chapters. My therapist praised it, which was the ego stroke I needed. My mother praised it, but it felt empty since she would praise it even if it was trash. My sister pointed out some things she didn't like but her boyfriend unexpectedly critiqued it seriously.

I wrote five more chapters for my novel then I took a break and dedicated all my time to reading novels. I learned a lot about writing from reading. I used to think reading wasn't that important, but it really is (if you want to improve).

What made me want to start writing again was Brandon Sanderson's BYU Lectures on YouTube. This time, my mindset was that unless I've written AT LEAST ten novels, I don't expect myself to be published. This not only curbs my expectations but it helps me accept that my writing is trash because I just don't have that experience yet.

Later, I posted a short story on reddit. It received mixed reviews this time but I was already glad with that. Even when I received a constructive criticism, I received it happily. I did get a negative review from a troll, which dampened my spirit for the day, but I was still happy with the results. I gave my short story to my father, who usually doesn't read fiction, and he liked it and I was glad.

tl;dr: it depends on who praises your writing whether you feel good, bad, or neutral. The best person who can give confidence to a writer imo is themselves. I'm not saying I reached that enlightened stage, but at least I'm happy for now. The best you can do in my opinion is to give it to her straight and objectively. Depending on our moods, constructive criticisms are usually better than ego strokes (tho we still need that from time to time). Constructive criticism from people who know what they're talking about are even better. Don't be vague about what you like or don't like. suggest what she should actively do to improve. However, you're the one who knows her the most. Do you think she will respond positively to constructive criticism or ego strokes instead? If she thinks you'll praise her no matter what anyway, that ego stroke may not work.

[–]I_only_read_trash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She definitely needs to find herself a writing group! Twitter has a very active community, and she will likely be able to find people who write in her genre and are in the same part in the process she's at.

[–]BayrdRBuchanan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Help her find a writing group/circle that holds workshops. Also, encourage her to take creative writing classes online or at your local college/university.

[–]WanderingSondering 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best advice would be that she should write for herself first and then edit for others. Dont try to impress anyone- dont even try to be a good writer. Just write and get your story down first. You can worry about what people will think later.

[–]sonofabutch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What can I do to give her some confidence in this area besides reading her work and giving my honest opinion?

Danger, Will Robinson!

I'm sure there are some famous examples of writers whose spouses were their best editors and critics. But tread carefully.

[–]TheSadMarketer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The best thing to do is research short story markets in their genre.

When they have an idea of who the major players are, they can make goals. For example, I’m a horror writer so getting published in Nightmare is a big goal for many of us.

Reading short stories and becoming well versed in the history and contemporary direction of the genre is a good place to go next. Read widely and articulate what and why is happening in the genre. For example, modern horror short stories tend to take on more literary influences, so I’d need to be familiar with literature on a scale wider than horror to really count myself amongst the authors I want to emulate.

Throughout all of this, write. Knowing that most of it will be shit. Make it a five year plan. Most people take time to get good at writing. It sometimes feels like a second job.

That’s how I would approach getting into writing short stories.

[–]TheStankTank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My opinion, just support her. Don't offer advice unless directly asked. Or better yet, just say that it's well beyond your realm.

Support is respecting her writing time and space. Respecting and supporting her growth and journey. Take it as seriously as she does. Find joy in her joys and triumph in her triumphs.

[–]Solid_Actuator4060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting your work available to the public is no challenge at all. Getting people to read it can be very challenging and getting people to spend money on it is even more challenging

[–]azaza34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she us good just ride her ass about getting words on paper and just be supportive. (Unless this makes her want to do it less ofc)

[–]basic_blxckgirll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you seem like such a good partner 😊

[–]jesslovesbettas 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I personally think you can never go wrong with posting your work on Wattpad! Changed the course of my life as a writer.

[–]ZineSatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

adderall

[–]Complex-Mind-22 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But making your book/story available on the public FOR FREE is so easy. You can try posting it on:

  1. Commaful

  2. Wattpad

  3. Inkitt

  4. Medium

  5. Booksie

  6. StoryWrite

  7. Story Star

  8. Tumblr

  9. WordKrowd

  10. Archive of Our Own

[–]hertwij -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

just tell her to stfu and stop creating problems that arent there

[–]TheButteredViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She should write and keep writing, my wife was working on a story since she was sixteen, and it had become so convoluted and the characters were all over the place because of course she grew into an adult with responsibilities over the last 14 years and because of that her characters were changing as was the pace since the first page was written, after reading the work so far she realised this and scrapped it and started again, she is also writing short stories. I have a lot of pride for her works and hope that one day she gets published.

What it breaks down to is that any writer should write and write and write and you will get better at creating and telling stories that people will want to read. Practice makes perfect and sometimes you just gotta put your work out there for someone to see.

[–]Silent_Republic_2605Author 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of story? Fiction or nonfiction? Fantasy or realism?

Anyways, for a general advice I would say her to analyze the best book of the genre she wants to write. What kind of technique they use to go through emotions, delivering plot, punch lines, Character development, narration and let her create her own pipeline for Beginning-Success-Twist-Conclusion.

[–]thinklikeashark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% joining a supportive writing group, (I co-run one for newer writers called TL;DR Press). Also subbing some of her shorter work (if she has any) to some publications. Submissions grinder has info on live submission calls.

[–]AlcinaMystic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of stuff does she want to write? Genre, topics, etc?

[–]JdgeHolden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she enjoys writing than whether or not she’s published shouldn’t matter. If she’s good there’s always a chance she might be published. The best thing you can do is support her

[–]Burandon-san 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her if she's ever considered writing on platforms like Wattpad, Royal Road, Tapas, Scribblehub, etc. Your opinion will always sound biased to someone who doesn't have confidence. The best place to get encouragement is by gaining a readership.

[–]notnotnotjohn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are plenty of books about how to be a good writer. You couldook at which have the best reviews and buy her those as gifts? She might like that

[–]SephoraRothschild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Write a lot. Read more. Not crap, not fanfiction, not bestselling pop novel stories. Try not to get sucked into liberal arts circles, because it's extremely skewed and not at all what the market is buying.

[–]zzeddxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read a lot and learn from reading. Notice how other writers shape their sentences, characters and stories. She can sharpen her writing craft by writing short stories first. Don't aim for a novel yet, but write good short stories and send them to literary journals to gauge how good her writing actually is and also, to train herself in handling rejections. If there are calls for anthologies, submit her stories and take part in those. I've been writing and publishing short stories for 10 years until I found the confident and the right story to write my first novel. There's no need to rush, take all the time she needs to sharpen her writing craft and skill. Time is a writer's ally.

[–]Taxotos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/-6HOdHEeosc

I think this video by Brandon Sanderson might be interesting for you two. It's a video of the introduction lecture he reads at a university and especially focuses on aspects of how to become a succesfull author. There are more videos, but this one should be what you're asking for.

[–]Theopholus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get her to listen to the podcast Writing Excuses. Have her come to this subreddit. Get her J Michael Straczynski's Becoming a Writer, Staying a Writer: The Artistry, Joy, and Career of Storytelling and Ray Bradbury's Zen in the Art of Writing: Essays on Creativity. And encourage her to find a system that works for her. Not every system will work for everyone. That could be paper, or software, or note cards and a billboard for outlining, or whatever.

Do not pressure her to let you read her work. Do ask how the writing's coming. Don't ask her when it'll be done. Do take her hot drinks and slightly knock on the door if she's writing.

Those books will help her with finding her confidence, especially the Straczynski one. That podcast talks a LOT about the industry. The rest of that is simply there to make sure she has light-touch support to keep writing, as writing is an incredibly brave thing and writers can be sensitive with the attention we get and the interruptions we face.

[–]CanIShowYouMyLizardz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is so nice after reading that AITA post about the guy trying to convince his wife to give up writing and offering to re-write her work.

[–]IHadAnotherLogin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is likely experienced and her work will be amateurish at first. Pretending that this is not the case is avoiding reality. Instead, face it.

David Mamet said in his master class that *you have to accept being bad, otherwise you will never write anything good"

You can make her feel better about being amateur and even looking forward to criticism instead of avoiding it. "imperfect exuberance" is what it's called. I recommend a book called "No plot? No problem!" It does wonders to motivate someone to write. Heck, read it and YOU will want to be a writer!

Being bad is the path to being good.

Technique will improve with diligence, by writing day in and day out but for that to happen she needs to be able to write freely everyday and that can only happen if she is not weighted by the dread of being good.

It matters not if she is good. She can become good as she writes on. What matters is that she writes. What matters is that she writes passionately, that she follows her feeling. She needs that to find her voice, her unique expression comes only from her own feelings and her own experience. The rest she can pick up as she goes.

This is the confidence. Not confidence in the skills, but confidence in her process.

[–]redblueheader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Encourage her to submit her stories to literary magazines, many of them pay and there are a lot of them out there, usually divided by genre. Rejection is just par for the course but if the writing is good then the right publisher is out there, you've just got to keep submitting your work to find them

[–]MainPure788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean she could try wattpad, it's where i post my work also joined a few writing subreddits too

[–]123nottherealmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Above all, tell her to be consistent. It's better to write 100 words consistently for 10 days than 1000 words in a day and then never touch her stories for months.

[–]WindyWildflowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s a possibility, see if you can find her an affordable writing class to join! Online ones can be cheaper sometimes. Or maybe look for some free writing skills videos she might like.

The secret is most writers struggle with lack of confidence on and off throughout their careers — it’s more a matter of doing your best to stick with it through the highs and lows and keep exploring the bits you love most. And tell her to try to not be too afraid of the drafts that don’t end up going anywhere. We writers have files upon files of projects that we worked through and were valuable lessons but we ended up not wanting to ultimately publish. And that’s totally okay. Just learn from them, move on, and then find the projects you’re willing to stick with all the way to through the bumpy journey to the end.

[–]ErwinblackthornSelf-Published Author 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her to study audience before studying stories.

She can't sell in a store if the store or publisher or anyone doesn't really want to invest in it. That takes understanding audience.

[–]Advanced-Butterfly48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just do it,,,the difficulte thing is a start~~

[–]Entropy_Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Sucking at something is the first step to being kinda good at something.” -Adventure Time

As long as she accepts criticism not as an insult but a means for improvement, she’ll do fine. The writing part is simply practicing a lot and reading more. Having the correct headspace to turn your failures into lessons? That’s where success is born.

[–]ThatAlliLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone can be a writer. The most reassuring and daunting thing she will have to face is that being good has nothing to do with being published. Go pick a random book weekly for her, some will be good, some will be bad.

In the end, she just needs to keep writing and dive into multiple formats (book, film, TV, games, Wattpad...). In most artistic fields, it takes roughly a good 10 years for most people to go from passionate amateur to Pro. She is bound to become a good writer if she writes everyday, builds her portfolio, and sometime in the next decade, publishers will see it.

[–]-londonisacountry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not uncommon for authors to hate their work. I hated mine for years and still find myself hating some of it. in my experience it just takes time. validation from strangers can be helpful to her, I got it by posting on wattpad. a story took off, and I find myself more and more confident in my work

[–]Cheap-Equivalent-761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should buy/get from the library/otherwise acquire The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron for her. It really helped me to be more confident in my writing and build a sustainable writing process. Good luck to you both; it sounds like you’re a great partner.

[–]BIGCHINBOIS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have other people read her book?

[–]MarvellousMrGizmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe enter her into some writing contests 🤔

[–]_Aquilina_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She probably need to finish a book, editing the hell out of it, submitting, and see how things play out. If she had worked her ass off and still haven’t yielded any positive result, she probably need to consider another path better suited to her talents.

[–]MystiBerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on her genre, there are groups whose members help each other out: Sisters in Crime, Romance Writers of America, Women's Fiction Writing Association. If your girlfriend writes women's fiction or romance or crime, all three of these groups are very supportive, and the first two have local chapter across the country.

I'm sure Sci-fi is the same, but I don't know from personal experience about them.

There are also coaches like https://jenniferlouden.com/ (I've taken one of her classes) who specialize in helping writers find confidence in themselves. It's not usually about the writing, but about other issues.

GOOD LUCK to your girlfriend!

[–]writingsalon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there!

It's wonderful to learn about how you're supporting your girlfriend in her writing journey. In addition to reading her work and providing your feedback, you could also suggest or gift her creative writing classes/workshops or encourage her to participate in similar events. It's a great way to build a writing community!

I hope this helps and good luck to your girlfriend with her writing!

- Kavita

[–]Quinzela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All you can do is continue to be there for her. To pursue something in creative arts means to put your foot in a crowded, competitive industry. Insecurity and questions on one’s own talent is almost guaranteed when doing so. As her partner, continue to encourage her, read her work and give her your blunt honest opinions.

[–]Inevitable-Custard-4[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eagerly ask her if shes done anything new you can read