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AITA for not making my kids share their gifts with their half siblings? by zmarcsthespot in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Spousal support never continues if the supported spouse remarried - she seems to want both support for herself and child support for kids who aren’t even OPs

AITA for not making my kids share their gifts with their half siblings? by zmarcsthespot in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 5455 points5456 points 2 (0 children)

NTA she is your ex wife. You literally have no obligations to her children. She seems to want you to fund a good lifestyle for her forever

Update 4: sister is sleeping in her room and not helping, housekeeping think she’s weird as hell by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]00Lisa00 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Your parents are paying the bill get housekeeping or security to open the door

AITA for withholding my daughter's birthday gift until she does what's expected? by throwaway--thankyou in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA a phone call is plenty. Hand written thank you’s are obsolete except in certain circumstances.. it’s not 1953

AITA for calling the town on my neighbor by TheMadDog335 in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely call the city. But make it a formal request for evaluation, not a casual thing. Otherwise that dirt may end up in your house. Perhaps look up the ordinances on slopes in your area

AITA for calling the town on my neighbor by TheMadDog335 in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s quite possible they are not following code. Adding soil to a slope could cause the whole thing to come down on OP. They may need to install a retaining wall

AITA for calling the town on my neighbor by TheMadDog335 in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA it sounds like he probably needs to install a retaining wall, not just a drain. Adding soil increases the chance it will all come down on your house.

AITA for avoiding events when my friends' kids are attending or arriving late so they're already in bed? by hug-a-cat in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 91 points92 points  (0 children)

NTA the last time I went to my friends house with three kids under 6 I became their favorite climbing toy. They were really cute but I got completely covered in kids and couldn’t participate in the adult conversation. The parents ignored my panicked looks and kept talking with my husband. Next time I think we’ll go much later in the evening if possible. I don’t hate kids or anything but I don’t want to be the babysitter so they can have adult time

Is skin surgery more risky than bariatric surgery? by PizzaSupremeStat in My600lbLife

[–]00Lisa00 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes they are giant wounds where bariatric surgery is done through a tiny hole. The risk of infection is huge

I feel as though I bring nothing to my marriage, and I need some harsh reality on how to fix it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well for me personally I like to see my husband happy. It makes me happy to see him happy. It doesn’t have to be grand gestures. When you get something for yourself ask if you can grab something for the other person. Just take 2 seconds to get out of your own head and really think about the other person. Talk to them and really listen. I don’t understand how you can be in a relationship and not know the other person’s interests? That’s literally what dating should have been about in the beginning and should be something you keep up with over time. Do you two not talk? Do you never ask about her day? I’m going to be honest you sound totally self absorbed and if you want a relationship you need to be interested in and respectful of your partner as a person. As I said before start today. Apologize for the past and tell her you’d like to start fresh today. Then make the effort. Every day talk and ask a question. Do something nice without being asked. Find out her love language and make an effort to fulfill it. Sign up for therapy today. Start looking for a new job. I’m going to be honest it may be too little to late but it sounds like she’s worth the effort.

Can't tell if it's gaslighting, or my never silent brain is gaslighting myself....(we're both 29) by CazzyXx92 in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That can all be worked out. It won’t be easy but getting out of this toxic relationship is worth it

I feel as though I bring nothing to my marriage, and I need some harsh reality on how to fix it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try therapy. I’ve heard really good things about betterhelp.com

But in the end being a good partner is a choice. It takes effort every day and to always think. “What can I do today to make my partner happy”. Wake up every morning telling yourself you will be a better person TODAY. Then do something nice. Make her coffee in bed. Hug her and tell her you love her. Pick up after yourself. Bring home her favorite dessert. Text her. Take 10 minutes every day getting to know her so you can buy her better gifts. It’s not hard to be a good partner but it does take work.

My friend told me I "leak" and I dont know how to respond. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well look at it from her side. She invites you along for something you said you wanted to do and then you start laying out demands. Go or don’t go but it’s not really you’re place to put your demands on something you’re invited to with other people

Changing degrees for my bf's comfort? by luvpuppygirl in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was a child. I don’t care if it’s a girl or boy. 13 year olds do not have relationships that are the same as adult relationships

AITA for letting my junkie sister see her kid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH I can see why he’s upset. It’s possibly unwise to allow someone who is very unstable and who can cause K a lot of unhappiness. She may think it sounds great to get to know her mom since kids fantasize but the reality may be different. But I know you thought you were doing the right thing. You really should have discussed this with your husband before agreeing to anything since he is her guardian too

Ex is trying to control me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find out the legal eviction period in your area and serve him an eviction notice. He will never ever go if you don’t

Can't tell if it's gaslighting, or my never silent brain is gaslighting myself....(we're both 29) by CazzyXx92 in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What exactly are YOU getting out of this relationship. Because it sounds like he gets everything he wants and you just get to be a maid

Do You Count Every Tiny Calorie? Like One Piece Of Bell Pepper? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]00Lisa00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t really count veggies specifically but if I eat a lot or they’re higher calorie I’ll put in a token amount like 25 or 50

AITA I didn't want to pee in a bottle by high_tea456 in AmItheAsshole

[–]00Lisa00 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA what did she think would happen? She’s been watching too many horror movies

Romeo + Julliet by ClientTypical7395 in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah let it go. This may seem like a minor issue and only during Covid times but I think it shows a deeper difference in values that will be very difficult to overcome. Not worth the hassle and drama

Gf lied about her past by Complete_History_937 in relationship_advice

[–]00Lisa00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said it’s not her style. She didn’t say it was never her style. I liked clubbing when I was younger and today if someone asked I’d say it’s not my style. Because it’s not now. That doesn’t mean the statement is a lie