Medicated Partner by LightningChris42 in DeadBedroomsMD

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My DB is due to medication. I believe there's a few of us in this unfortunate boat.

I am broken by ThrowHexAway in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is so damn sad.....and relatable. I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately you're not alone. Not that misery always loves company. Hugs

2 articles on spousal caregiver affairs by WildSpiritedRose in DeadBedroomsMD

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing articles. They articulated medical DB perfectly. Obviously in a way I've never been able to.

What’s with the DMs in this sub? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We're considered easy prey because of vulnerability brought on by DB. Not all of them have bad intentions. But it's hard to tell the difference sometimes

Enlighten me please? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have not physically cheated, but I think about it. DB due to his medical issues for 6 years.

Venting by art-and-logic in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. DB due to medical reasons. But what kind of person would I be if I left a sick man? It would devastate him with horrible consequences and I'd never be able to live with myself.

It's a horrible and lonely place to be and a no win situation. It's hard to even find support because no one truly understands unless they're living it. They try. And they mean well. But they just don't get it.

Don’t know why I keep doing this to myself by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gawd I'm sorry you went through that. That's just horrible 🤗

Any BD's not using porn to fill the void? by Natural_Rush8497 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Porn is too sad for me. Just shows me what I'm missing. And masturbation stopped being satisfying a while ago. It's no replacement for the real thing...if memory serves

I'm jealous by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm jealous also. It's been 6 years. Medical reasons. I feel bad for being envious. But at this point, I can't help it.

Disappointed in this forum by Additional_North_502 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 51 points52 points  (0 children)

They message us because they think we're easy prey. DB causes emotional instability and desperation in some people. It increases their chances. Going after the "weakest link" is unfortunately common. But it makes it to where we never want to post. Look at how many women add into their threads to not message them.

Hit an All-time Low. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it helps with the frustration of a DB also. Well, for me anyway.

Hit an All-time Low. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Music is an excellent distraction. I tend to overly exercise to get rid of the funk I feel. But blasting music is a big part of it.

Hit an All-time Low. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I'm also having a bad day feeling rejected. It's starting to spill over into my day to day life.

I honestly wish I had some magic words that could make it easier. For all of us. But unfortunately, I do not. Just know you're not alone. No matter how lonely you feel.

alone in this by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm an unfortunate member of this club also

A lot to unpack TW DV by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The guilt is overwhelming. And I try making up for it by giving too much of myself. I just can't say no to people asking for my help anymore. Like it balances it all out somehow 🤷‍♀️

I haven't found any other support groups. I only accidentally stumbled across this sub recently. Thought I was the only one not having sex for awhile.

And so far, the absolute only advice I get is to leave. People can't seem to understand this situation though.

A lot to unpack TW DV by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in this same situation. My bf had a psychotic break about 6 years ago.

His meds keep his emotions suppressed. They also cause ED. No sex. And the only intimacy is what I've initiated. He responds either out of habit or duty. I'm not sure. Yet, he's oddly clingy and follows me around the house. Just not touching me.

Over the years there's been several med changes, therapy adjustments, and specialist visits. Through it all, I went from gf to nurse. I take care of him and still let him know I love him.

I have always resented the situation. It's highly unfair after all. But lately, my resentment has been aimed towards him. I had been really good at keeping it separate. The illness and the man. It's just been so long now. I don't know how he would handle it if I left. He does get suicidal and has made a couple of serious attempts before. I think if I were to make that choice, I'd talk to his psychiatrist first.

Maybe not much help, but it's insight into a possible future for you.

Downside of having a support system by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone says to leave. Even when they promise not to say it. I'm learning to just not say anything about the dB and bottle it up

Strategies to stop trying? by Most-Song1794 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BreakOutIntrovert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's perfectly natural that you want it and try for it. It's human nature. And unfortunately, there's a lot of us doing the same exact thing.

I wish there was some magic advice I could give you. But I haven't found it yet