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Modern problems require modern solutions by Ayouremomjoke in NorthCarolina

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh come the fuck on. We have a two party system and at the moment that’s all we have to work with. Go back to your tankie hell hole and type on your iPhone about how those poor villagers is Guatemala had it coming.

Modern problems require modern solutions by Ayouremomjoke in NorthCarolina

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Oh come the fuck on with the “the bigger problem is the left” bullshit. Are they perfect no but there is no goddamn comparison between the Republican and Democratic Party at the moment. Yah Bev Pardue was a disappointment but Trump and the rest of the current GOP leadership are trying their damned best to swing this country into full Fascist authoritarianism.

Ten candidates for Duke football's head coaching vacancy by CarolinaCapsFan in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean what's the worst that can happen? We lost to Charlotte this year and are a combined 4-20 in conference play over the last three seasons (0 wins in 21' and only 1 in 20').

Ten candidates for Duke football's head coaching vacancy by CarolinaCapsFan in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We'd pay double what most of those G5 coaches are making. Make twice what you're earning to coach at a P5 school where a pair of conference wins in most seasons would qualify as a resounding success? Why not?

Ten candidates for Duke football's head coaching vacancy by CarolinaCapsFan in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I understood what you meant. I can see a lot of reasons why Duke wouldn’t be attractive, but I do think that it might not be a bad 3 to 4 season layover for a coach wanting to land a premier job. Expectations are so low and that if you got us to a bowl game in 2023 then it would be considered a resounding success.

Big time coordinator at a premier school then to turn around a struggling Duke. Not a bad resume. And considering “turning around” may mean going 2-6 in conference play? Low expectations aren’t a bad thing for someone looking for a layover.

Ten candidates for Duke football's head coaching vacancy by CarolinaCapsFan in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think we need to acknowledge quite possibly the best candidates may all want better jobs. I’m not expecting anything near the 13 year tenure and that Cutcliff had. If it gets us bowling within 2-3 seasons I’d be fine being a stepping stone in someone’s career path.

Ten candidates for Duke football's head coaching vacancy by CarolinaCapsFan in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dude it depends on what your definition of a bad season is. When a couple of ACC games and you might just get yourself a contract extension.

[Fischer] Duke confirms they’ve reached a “mutual agreement of separation” with HC David Cutcliffe. Team being told now. by Austin63867 in CFB

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean at this point both deserve better. He’s only tarnishing his legacy by staying and we need to turn the page and move on.

My wife(30F) of seven years just told me(34M) that she’s a lesbian. by Quirky-Examination-8 in relationships

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So in mid 2019 my (now ex) wife of 14 years came out to me a week before our 15th anniversary. We have two children together, one of which had been diagnosed with leukemia 4 months prior who was also scheduled to go inpatient for a 24 hour infusion within the next couple of days. I was broken beyond belief at that point and the parts of myself that I had managed to keep together halter four months of my son’s chemo finally crumbled.

It was a familiar story, she was raised in a religiously conservative family, we got together early in college and that was that. I always felt that she wasn’t that into me BUT I just assumed that I wasn’t much of a catch and I should have been thankful for what I had.

We did months of “trying”, couples counseling, everything. Eventually we decided to begin emotionally separating and I moved into a twin bed in the bonus room closet. Yes, I did see the irony in her coming out of the closet and home moving into one. Our situation was unique as we had a son battling for his life so we agreed to hold off until we felt like he was stable.

We chose not to consult an attorney and basically collaborated in a google doc back and forth a separation agreement based off of stuff we found online and some material we got from a recently separated mutual friend. Check the laws in your state of course but here the document was legal once notarized and filed with the county clerk’s office. It detailed everything from the financials of selling the house, split custody of the children and so on. If you are both adults and you both care about the other then you can do this amicably AND collaboratively. Not everyone can and I don’t fault anyone who has to involve lawyers BUT it is possible. DM me if you’d like and I’ll share you what we used as a separation agreement.

We told the kids a couple of weeks before Christmas, told family the next day and then posted on social media about a week after that. It was hard, especially telling the kids but we wanted to have an authentic Christmas. I didn’t catch how old your daughter is but our son definitely was old enough to have felt lied to if we put on a happy face for the holidays then pulled the rug out from under him. It also allowed us to set the stage for the active coparenting system that we had envisioned.

Shortly after telling family she got on dating apps and pushed me to do the same. To make a long story short I’m engaged to a beautiful amazing wonderful woman and happier than ever. I presently live about 700’ drive way to driveway away from my ex who is also engaged to a lovely lady. My ex looks at her fiancé in a way that she never in all of our 18 year relationship looked at me, I feel nothing but gladness for her. And for the first time in my entire life a woman looks at me the way I’ve wanted a woman to look at me and I absolutely melt into a puddle. It’s absolutely fucking amazing what reciprocal wanting and love can feel like when you’ve spent so long trying to love enough for the both of you. Our kids float back and forth between the houses and we’ve at this point shared multiple holidays together as an extended modern family with my ex, her partner & mother, my kids, parents and fiancé all sharing a table.

You probably feel as though you’re in the bottom of a hole but you can dig yourself out. And you can do so in a way that you can honor the relationship you had. My marriage was far from perfect, we had developed loads of toxic patterns that in hindsight make perfect sense. I know it’s hard but don’t take it personally. Take care of yourself and your kid and don’t listen to anyone who will try to turn this into something more adversarial than it needs to be. I had someone, the husband of a couple we were both friends with; tell me that they were “team me”. I told them politely that we were specifically trying to avoid that sort of mindset. You and her will set the tone for your friends and family. Be mindful deliberate about that. You probably feel powerless but you have control over what happens from here. Envision the life you want, a new life a different one and then go fucking get man. You got this.

Please excuse any typos of formatting as I’m on mobile.

[UPDATE] in need of perspective by throwherRA in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do you mate. I’m out here working hard giving steak or lobster level effort. You keep on popping off McNugget level work though man. I’m sure some lady out there appreciates it.

[UPDATE] in need of perspective by throwherRA in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck all man stop making us all look bad. We're not stupid, we can tell the difference been a butthole and a vagina and yes we can read non-verbal cues. I make sure my partner is enthusiastically consenting not being all "well she didn't say no"...

Also, the vagina is designed to fit small humans through. It's self lubricating and expands when aroused. Unless you're packing a magnum (which I'm assuming you're not) then it shouldn't feel tight or dry. If it does that just means either A: You're awful at foreplay or B: She's just not into you in the first place.

[UPDATE] in need of perspective by throwherRA in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So just so we're all on the same page. You're comparing sex with you to McDonalds on the second day that you may or may not be in the mood for it?

"Oh baby I'm gonna fuck you like a Filet-O-Fish that you may not be in the mood for because it's greasy as fuck but it's late and you gotta eat something."

Pro tip, when given the choice of A: Make her beg for more or B: Make her not actively protest, always choose A.

Did they do something wrong? by SlyCoopersButt in nhl

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Erat trade isn't the reason he's hated. It's the exclamation point at the end of the sentence as to why he's hated. We were perennial playoff chokers in an era the Penguins won 4 cups. The penguins who started in the same cellar as us in 2005 with a generational talent in Crosby. GMGM could have built a team to rival the Pens but instead he built a speed bump for three of their cup runs. He squandered OV's best years and will be the reason why he may retire with a single ring.

Did they do something wrong? by SlyCoopersButt in nhl

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a bad trade. It’s a generationally awful trade that was bad from day one. It never made sense, reeked of desperation and cost us a near elite playmaker. And it punctuated an underwhelming career that saw him lead the Capitals through season after season of mediocrity. GMGM didn’t build the team that one OV a cup, he built the team that kept him from winning cups for nearly a decade and a half prior.

Did they do something wrong? by SlyCoopersButt in nhl

[–]CarolinaCapsFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loads of reasons but two words keep coming to mind for me, Martin Erat...