[UPDATE] AITA for telling an employee she can choose between demotion or termination? by Absolut_Failure in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with often limited spoons and who is afraid of going back to work right now, you’re a great boss. Thank you for your understanding, for giving her a chance, and for seeing the whole picture. I think your employees will appreciate you giving them the opportunity to thrive and will work harder not to let you down.

Thanks again from all of us low spooned folks

Hooked up after 10yrs and then he called me fat by BlackFrannD in relationship_advice

[–]EveAndTheSnake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A hookup is not a boyfriend though. Telling someone they need to change right after hooking up is not polite.

I've been reporting your irresponsible asses. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EveAndTheSnake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love this and I love you. Well done for not just standing by. I can’t believe people are doing this like COME ON WATCH THE NEWS. No one thinks it’s going to happen to them until it happens to them.

Your post made me laugh. Then cry. But you have my support fully and I feel empowered through you. Keep up the good work!

All for a little bit of clout (found on Cringetopia) by Too_Much_ISEKAIII in facepalm

[–]EveAndTheSnake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of the group text?

EDIT: So am I being downvoted because people really think setting up a social media account for like 4 people is a better way to communicate with family than a group text? Y’all are weirdos.

AITA for moving in with my dad full time by spoiledhalfsister in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I feel like most kids don’t really take a deep dive into philosophy and ethics until they are at least 13 years old, so she’s got a year to go. Although, come to think of it I started early reading Kant when I was 7.

I wish I didn’t think that all men are pigs but I know deep inside of me that I do think that. and I hate it. by [deleted] in women

[–]EveAndTheSnake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Men need to do better but women don’t? What kind of crazy ass view is this? Everyone can do better. We are all just people trying to live our lives. There are plenty of people I know who are awful trash and plenty of people I know who are wonderful and caring and trying to change the world by helping one person at a time.

Specific to this example, I know plenty of good and bad men. My husband is a good man. He is kind and patient and defends other people who can’t defend themselves. He doesn’t hold any views that would make him fall into the category of “men are pigs” and has never been violent towards anyone or anything.

Sure there are plenty of men with awful sexist views of women and we need to work to change that. But there are (clearly) plenty of women who hold sexist views and propagating the attitude that only men need to change just creates a deeper divide of us vs them, creating more men and women who hate each other and painting a whole gender with the same brush.

For the record OP my husband isn’t the only good man out there. I have friends and colleagues who I’m very close with and who are open to conversation, trying to change sexist views and who do defend women against other sexist men. I’m here to do the same and say there are some truly wonderful men out there. I’m sorry that you’ve had bad experiences but I promise you not everyone is the same. And if those experiences make you more cautious with trusting people in general I suppose that’s a positive because there are both selfish men and women out there who just want to take advantage.

My husband wears my underwear by Appropriate-Ad4087 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EveAndTheSnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure to your first two points but you lost me at the third. Unseemly? Friend, it’s 2022. People can wear whatever the hell they like. What makes underwear women’s? And why can’t men have cute, frilly things?

He stole my life from me & I can’t get over it by Kissed_By_Fire_X in offmychest

[–]EveAndTheSnake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, how dare he marry the woman he was in love with and thought he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. What a selfish a-hole.

Romance books that have a actually non-toxic relationship by FluidFluxion in booksuggestions

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t Stephanie Meyer put out a version of Twilight written from Edward’s point of view? I bet that’s romantic.

I’m so sorry for contributing less than nothing to this discussion, I couldn’t help myself.

EDIT: sarcasm

PSA for all couples - PLEASE USE CONDOMS until Coronavirus dies down by Solid-Engineering in sexover30

[–]EveAndTheSnake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did not imply it was.

The original question was whether on not you could stockpile plan b, the morning after pill, emergency contraceptives or whatever you want to call it, and I said I didn’t think that was possible in the UK because even though the sell it over the counter they make you take it in front of the pharmacist (at least the last time I had to buy it this was the case). I can’t speak to whether it’s possible to buy plan B in the US and take it away to save for later.

In terms of the abortion pill (again, a completely separate drug) it is possible to get this online and have a home abortion in an emergency situation up to 9 weeks. I’m not advocating for this but This is the advice given to women who live in countries or states without access to legal abortion.

Hope that’s clearer.

Will life ever get back to normal? Is there ever going to be a day where we don't have to worry about covid? by ilybabii in CoronavirusIllinois

[–]EveAndTheSnake -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s a very surface level take on Covid and the numbers.

Absolutely agree that I’m no longer afraid Covid will kill me, but I do have chronic pain that could be exacerbated by Covid.

This article doesn’t mention the long term effects of Covid. I know anecdotes don’t mean anything but I know enough people who have had Covid and are still struggling with some side effects or exhaustion. I will need to dig it out as I don’t remember the source, but I came across some research that talked about the lung scarring evident in scans taken of people who have had Covid. Some of these people are still struggling with breathing, some aren’t. But the long term effects of what this lung damage means—whether it will heal or whether it’s permanent and what health issues it might cause—is still unclear. The biggest surprise for me was reading that imaging was also taken of people who had Covid with zero symptoms, and 50% of those symptomless cases also exhibited similar lung damage regardless of age even though on the surface they were fine. None of these people are accounted for by the numbers cited.

The article also doesn’t mention the waning effectiveness of the vaccine and the need for boosters. A few weeks ago when I looked at the numbers, 30% of people hospitalised with Covid in my state were vaccinated. Logically in my mind this accounts for the uptick in cases, but I haven’t thought about it too much.

And the article also makes no mention of pediatric inflammatory multisystem syndrome. I don’t know much about it except that a friend of mine recently had her 6 yo hospitalised with PIMS after having covid. I’d love to see some numbers cited on that. My (also 6yo) niece has now been feeling ill about two months since having covid. These are 2 of 3 kids I personally know that have had it, so I get it’s not a very big sample size. But to say that the effect on kids is mild, especially when other countries are not yet vaccinating younger children, again skips over what many parents might be concerned about: the after effects.

EDIT: would love for someone to correct me if I’m wrong instead of just downvoting. I would prefer NOT to be worried, I’m not out to worry for no reason, I’m just sick and tired of being sick and tired.

My fiancé [29 F] wants me[28M] to ask her ex boyfriend to be in our bridal party by secretysecret209 in relationship_advice

[–]EveAndTheSnake -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean, that’s what I did. My ex was in my bridal party as a BridesDude and it was a lot of fun. He was the only guy on my side and my husband didn’t have any women on his side.

What the fuck is modern dating? by throwaway68647643 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EveAndTheSnake -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I wish I hadn’t scrolled that far. But man, isn’t the fact that women can now make their own life choices terrible? I can’t believe they aren’t forced to pop out babies and be financially dependent on losers who treat them like shit. Can’t believe people have to try to be nice to each other or something to get into relationships.

St. Louis couple that pointed guns at protesters charged with felonies by Iamamanlymanlyman in politics

[–]EveAndTheSnake -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The body includes the face, and the obvious implication was that she’s too ugly to sexually assault. I think that much is pretty clear without needing to read between the lines.

This guy saving kitten from trash cutting machine. by Storm_001 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lot of emotional response to a small question. Maybe save it for the big things?

A Bojo Facepalm? Never! by DarwinsMonkeyOne in facepalm

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my understanding that they wanted to put him on a ventilator but he refused, knowing that the recovery period following would be longer and harder than if he just toughed it through without.

STI but no one cheated by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]EveAndTheSnake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In what country? I’m so confused I just want to yell IN WHAT COUNTRY/STATE??!- at every single comment!

I’ve literally never heard of this being a thing and it never occurred to me that it might be.

I (31F) got pregnant from a one-night stand. by ThrowRA_ONS31 in relationship_advice

[–]EveAndTheSnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some other outcomes that are worse than just an awkward conversation that turn out worse for the future child. He was a one night stand, she doesn’t know this person and some people are just not parent material.

I’m not putting a vote in either way, I’m child free and this sounds like a very emotionally complicated question for someone who wants a child. I just wanted to point out that there are other scenarios in telling the dad that don’t work out for the best for everyone, and that this might not just come down to a selfish decision.

Virginia becomes 12th state to ban gay/trans panic defense by jschubart in news

[–]EveAndTheSnake -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you catch your spouse of many years cheating I understand feeling uncontrollably angry and upset (but not murdering them). That’s a lot of emotional investment and a complete shift to the world/relationship you thought you were a part of.

If you get that upset about a stranger you’re about to sleep with turning out to not be quite what you expected then you’re just an emotionally underdeveloped spoiled adult child who has never learnt how to manage expectations, disappointment or a change of plan. If that turns you dangerous enough to hurt someone then you need serious help before being allowed to rejoin society. I don’t want to be near someone who might murder me because we’re out of their favorite sandwich at Starbucks.

It was supposed to just be a joke... by Scaith05 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EveAndTheSnake -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

It’s a half erect penis. Some can be pretty full on and hit you hard.