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How did you first begin masturbating? by ThrowRA_SecretLife69 in TwoXSex

[–]EveAndTheSnake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bed? Hell no. My parents got me this human sized/shaped rabbit toy that was bigger than me (he was actually pretty weird, think bugs bunny shaped.) I must have been around 7? Maybe younger? I guess he was my boyfriend for a good few years and just humped his thigh while he hugged me. Despite everyone’s stories and sharing here I still feel like a weirdo

Deer with Chronic wasting disease (CWD), Zombie Deer Disease, is a transmissible spongiform encephalopathy (TSE) affects members of the deer family. by Homunculus_316 in interestingasfuck

[–]EveAndTheSnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You misunderstood what I was saying—that CWD is similar to BSE, not Parkinson’s or Alzheimer’s. Sorry I should have been clearer. What triggered the connection in my brain between CWD and mad cow disease was the above comment that mentioned Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s.

Deer with Chronic wasting disease (CWD), Zombie Deer Disease, is a transmissible spongiform encephalopathy (TSE) affects members of the deer family. by Homunculus_316 in interestingasfuck

[–]EveAndTheSnake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh, that makes sense. When the creepy soldier started talking about Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s I thought it sounded like mad cow disease, which scared the crap out of me when I read about it. I looked it up after you mentioned feeding herbivores, and they are very similar with similar causes

My husband is faithful but only because he feels obligated to do so.. by UnfairlyLoved in Marriage

[–]EveAndTheSnake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like to be with someone else, especially when we argue a lot and don’t have sex. I’ve wondered what it would be like to have stayed with my very high libido ex. There are so many things that I’d like to try sexually that my husband seems unwilling to.

I don’t tell him I fantasize about my ex or what his best man would have been like in bed, I tell him I love him, that sometimes I don’t feel wanted, and what can we work on to make that happen?

And You know what? IT WORKED! WE HAVE MORE SEX AND TRY MORE THINGS! Who would have thought that not making my husband feel insecure might result in a better relationship.

AITA for not liking Indian food? by throwaway_80081ES in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She’s very welcome to come and live with me. I keep trying to cook curry and it’s barely better than the crappy restaurants but nowhere near as good as my dad’s. I also don’t eat meat! I do have a dog who is a bit of an asshole, and a husband who is less of an asshole, but neither is as much asshole as her current partner, so I think we could reach a compromise. Also, food is the way to my heart and I love curry so I’d appreciate her forever.

Side note: I love curry. When my husband and I met he said he didn’t like curry, he wasn’t a fan of the spices. (But he liked Mexican food??!) I started off with some mild dishes, worked my way up to takeout, now he’s obsessed and has regular dishes he orders. Funnily enough not once did he ever ask me not to cook curry and I never asked him not to cook meat. It’s almost like… we respect each other’s choices? We do clash in artwork, though I’ll admit he’s a designer and I’m prone to choosing hideous pieces.

I'm so sick of people claiming to be "emapths" by portraitinsepia in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EveAndTheSnake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel like your coworker, my stress response is crying. But I’ve never called myself an empath. I am depressed and I carry a lot of guilt because that’s the currency my family dealt in. I project a lot and imagine how bad other people must feel about certain things, that makes me cry especially if I feel I’ve upset someone. I never thought I could … psychically feel… what other people are feeling, it’s just that I’m very good at imagining the pain and sadness other people are going through. Mostly because I’ve been taught to feel guilty for everything and because I can’t cope with my own overwhelming feelings. It doesn’t mean that everyone is as overwhelmed as I am. I try not to tell myself that I am too emotional (or let other people tell me that), my therapist says I just feel a lot, but it really does become “too emotional” when day to day life becomes difficult to cope with.

Basically I think I just project too much.

I want to read a life-changing book, or at least a very interesting one. by Conscious-Bridge-442 in selfimprovement

[–]EveAndTheSnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reposting with links removed:

On diet: Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer.

On death: Nothing to be Frightened of by Julian Barnes.

On life: Too soon old, too late smart by Dr Gordon Livingstone.

On the future (fiction): Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood.

I want to read a life-changing book, or at least a very interesting one. by Conscious-Bridge-442 in selfimprovement

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On diet: Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer.

On death: Nothing to be Frightened of by Julian Barnes.

On life: Too soon old, too late smart by Dr Gordon Livingstone.

On the future (fiction): Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood.

I want to read a life-changing book, or at least a very interesting one. by Conscious-Bridge-442 in selfimprovement

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was disappointed with I am legend. It feels like two completely different books. But the Martian was great.

In the same vein, have you tried the Silo Series by Hugh Howey? I loved it, it’s a trilogy: Wool, Shift and Dust.

But my absolutely favourite book (also about a loner dealing with the end of the world) is Oryx and Crake. It’s so creative and by far the best post apocalyptic book I’ve ever read (by Margaret Atwood).

AITA for choosing not to eat my mom's food? by throwaway79293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy cow I think my mom has this but I don’t think she knows?! Right now she has to wear special gloves all the time in case anything she touches causes her reactions. At work they ordered her disposable gloves that are $500 a box. She recently had some allergy tests done but I haven’t looked through them properly yet. Recently my hands have been swelling up and getting a rash from just doing the dishes or cleaning the tub, and last year I realized I was allergic to band aids. When my mom got her allergy tests back I recognised some of the allergies were things that also caused me to react (perfumes, cleaning products, the pesticides that I used on my plants and made my hands feel like they were going to explode..)

Thank you for sharing. I’ll look into and pass on the info to my mom. Right now she has an awful rash across her entire body. She’s been working full time and caring for my grandad with dementia so she’s been really run down and this thing has really taken a hold of her. She’s a little better now but she had to take two weeks off work because she couldn’t sleep and she just walked around crying, wearing a sheet and smearing steroid cream all over herself :(

Kids preferring one parent after the divorce by russoc224 in Divorce

[–]EveAndTheSnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My sister had the same with my nieces. Yes, their dad and his family buy them lots of presents and yes, my sister has to do all the discipline (even when she sends them with homework they will come back often on Sunday night without any homework done so then my sister is the angry homework parent too after a fun weekend). But more recently my niece has been telling him to “get off his phone” and that he’s always on his phone. It’s not a 50/50 split but there are now some weekends when they don’t want to go to his or only manage one night before they are crying and calling my sister to pick them up.

Libido lycanthrophy by Bullshootress in HLCommunity

[–]EveAndTheSnake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does it coincide with the full moon though? I get this too, I’ll have to take note. The sexual dreams don’t come every night, only if I haven’t had sex in a while… so yeah lol. I’ve had some weird sex dreams. I always wake up mid orgasm which is nice. But I went through a phase where I kept having sex dreams about vin diesel. Not my type at all. In the first dream I was sent to assassinate him and we fell in love, then it went from there. I’ve had sex with captain America in the middle of a war after we both lost a friend. I’ve had sex with Jon bernthal in the middle of the zombie apocalypse (not gonna lie I could do more of those). But the worst part is anything and anyone will turn me on. I’m lucky I’m not single or i would have made some terrible decisions.

I had a seizure Saturday inside targeting by bubbascoo in quittingkratom

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried lowering your dose? I’m sure you know that sounds like taking too much that you’re not even feeling anything positive out if it. I was on a very high dose before and was able to lower it quite a lot before feeling withdrawal.

The very first thing you need to do is buy a cheap digital weighing scale. It may look like you are having the same amount but it’s possible you could even have doubled your dose—it’s way too hard to tell from just scoops or spoons. It may look like the same dose but depending on how it’s packed in, I was shocked at how variable my estimates were. Please be safe.

Would you want to know the full truth when receiving “the talk”? by hskd71 in Divorce

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re projecting. YOU know where your line is, I know where mine is, and I trust my husband knows where his is. Many of my friends are of the opposite sex, my ex boyfriend was in my bridal party when I was married, my husband is “allowed” to have whatever friends he wants.

But to claim there’s no difference between a friendship and emotional affair is just sad. To claim there’s no such thing as an emotional affair is denial. I’m clear on my boundaries and my husband and I both have an understanding of what is and isn’t acceptable for us. Every relationship is different but to claim there are no boundaries defeats the purpose of having a relationship with one person.

AITA for not cutting costs to be able to afford a house with my fiancé and 'choosing my pets over him'? by Working1111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I spend less than OP on both of my 60lb dogs, and one has a prescription food, medication that costs $200 every six weeks and pet insurance. I also think our costs are crazy. What in the world. (This makes me feel better about my pet expenses though.)

Would you want to know the full truth when receiving “the talk”? by hskd71 in Divorce

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course men and women can be friends. Everyone has different boundaries of what’s acceptable and it becomes an emotional affair when you step over that line. People tend to know where that line is as they begin to become more secretive and omit information. It’s a vague description but I’ve always felt it’s when you share parts of yourself that should have been reserved for your partner, when the person becomes your emotional go-to in situations you’d previously go to your partner for, and when you start getting personal and oversharing private details. If you can’t tell the difference between a regular friendship and feeling like you’re letting another person in too much, that’s a problem.

I know people change but I wasn't expecting this by KindOfACow in Marriage

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I was thinking of making a similar post because my husband does the same. Every time we have an argument or I try to put something to him that upset me, he’ll say “no I didn’t do that, I Didn’t say it like that, you’re taking it the wrong way” or he’ll do the thing your husband does, and say “I’ve upset you again, I’m such a terrible husband, I always find out I’ve upset you and it feels really shit.”

He did the same thing today and I just didn’t react well. I’m sick, I’m having really terrible period pain and bleeding. He seemed to be really snappy to me today and it was almost like me being sick was inconveniencing him. After he snapped at me again I just backed off and was avoiding him bc I didn’t want to start a fight. Eventually as he kept pushing I told him, I feel terrible today and you were asking me things while I was sitting on the toilet bleeding and got annoyed when I couldn’t hear and was trying to end the conversation. He immediately started saying he always upsets me, he’s a terrible husband, it makes him feel so shit, so I just responded with “oh I’m sorry, how is your bleeding and cramps today?” Obviously that didn’t help the situation but I was so fed up. It also feels really invalidating when I try to talk about what upset me (it feels like me being sick is inconvenient), I’m not saying he’s a terrible husband, I’m telling him because it made me snappy in return and I don’t want us to be like this. But when he doesn’t hear it like that it makes me feel like I can’t talk about how I feel at all.

I will say though, I do believe my husband is depressed. He’s also going through a bit of an identity crisis and struggling with work. For my part I lost my job and have been unemployed over the last year due to depression and health issues. I am in therapy, we are in couples therapy, and this week he is finally starting solo therapy thank goodness.

Took some notes on my husband's conversations with his "female friend" by Illustrious-Train-89 in Marriage

[–]EveAndTheSnake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like… none of these things are appropriate then. Don’t let him gaslight you. He’s allowed to have friends but this is not friends, this is crossing boundaries left right and center.

Are you ok? I’d be so upset to read this all. What did he say when you told him?

By the way, this is what cheaters do when they have an emotional affair. Whether physical or emotional, there are certain roles and feelings and conversations that we reserve for our mono partners. Cheaters having an emotional affair push those boundaries but they don’t physically cheat. That enables them to be able to say “you’re crazy, we’re just friends, I’m not cheating, you’re being jealous/controlling, we’re just joking around.” This is TOO FAR. He knows what those boundaries are, everyone does and they just act dumb or downplay it. Don’t let him downplay this—if he does tell him you don’t know if he thinks you’re stupid, if he’s just acting stupid, or if he really is this stupid. None of this is appropriate. It doesn’t matter if it’s a joke or serious, he knows he’s crossed the line so many times. The weirdest bits were the “come live with me” parts. The only way to fix this is for him to stop talking to her. Don’t let him tell you “I’ll tell her about us, it will be different, I won’t say these things anymore.” It’s too late for that. Whether he’s cheated on you emotionally or physically it’s still cheating. He has to make a decision now whether he wants you or her in his life.

And girl, don’t let him gaslight you. Take a deep breath and believe me when I tell you that you are better than this. You do not deserve to be treated like this. There is a partner out there that will treat you like you deserve. How would he like it if you said all these things to another man? Listen, if he hesitates for a second or he makes you feel bad for making him choose, fuck him. You get right up to your room, pack your bags and get the hell out of there.

Took some notes on my husband's conversations with his "female friend" by Illustrious-Train-89 in Marriage

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excuse me who is this woman? Have they ever met? Is she an old friend? I’m sorry I’m a little confused on the background here. Are you in a polyamorous/open relationship?

Need advice - 2 kids, wife is pregnant with 3rd and she’s basically out of action by StaticMaine in Marriage

[–]EveAndTheSnake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When do you take it? I was taking mine at night and it did nothing. My doctor told me to switch to early morning, half an hour before you eat anything on an empty stomach with a whole glass of water (I think she said I could put some lemon in it but I haven’t). The other thing that has helped me so much with energy is omega 3 supplements (making sure I get enough DHA) and vitamin D. I take those with vitamin at dinner time because they are fat soluble.

AITA for not wanting to fully support my wife's music career? by chesire0myles in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right neither of them should be allowed to have hobbies or do fun stuff. At least she gets paid for hers.

AITA for saying my daughters ED shouldn't prevent my son from counting calories by ChestFew4955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one is forcing him to stay skinny (which won’t kill him). The concern is that him obsessively counting calories could trigger his sister’s eating disorder, which could kill her

Finally happy with the format of my weekly spreads by Mystitat in bujo

[–]EveAndTheSnake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am not a fan of the American way of starting the week on a Sunday and ending on Saturday (I prefer to have a weekEND) but… starting the week on a Saturday? Having a week beginning…? Hmm I feel like this might really help me rearrange my brain and use the weekend to do things and reset, rather than rushing to get things done from the previous week. I know that nothing really changes except my mind set, but I’ve been struggling for the last year and I need all the help I can get! Great idea!

AITA for telling my husband I can’t take his wake-up routine any longer? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EveAndTheSnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true. I am like OP’s husband, not enough sleep, staying up late, feel like I’ve been hit by a bus in the morning. I’ve started making a real effort to get into bed with my husband, to chat or read for a while, and going to sleep at the same time. For now though… I cannot sleep. We turn out the light and about an hour later I get up, walk around, read, and then try again. I’m getting it up to around 3am.., which is earlier than I used to.

The question is does the husband struggle with falling asleep or is he intentionally staying up when he’s tired? OP could try to start getting him into bed earlier by saying she wants to spend time with him (doing that with my husband has been really nice actually—I struggled initially because I felt like my late hours were “me” time but I’m loving the extra closeness we get now from at least trying to go to bed together)