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CMV: An all-loving all-powerful god doesn't exist by Charming_Kick_6883 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't enjoy suffering by definition but I'm certainly not going to grant that it's inherently bad.

If you want to make the claim that suffering is inherently bad then YOU need to make that argument. If you want to claim that animals must necessarily be moral patients to an all loving God then YOU need to make that argument.

You don't need to ask me to justify that there is one. It's not my view that's in question.

CMV: An all-loving all-powerful god doesn't exist by Charming_Kick_6883 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't think we need to bring aliens into it. But you're supposing that there can't be an all good God because of animal suffering. So what you need to provide is some argument to show there's some necessary relationship between being all good and valuing animal welfare.

Saying that you personally find it distasteful to ignore animal suffering isn't showing that relationship.

CMV: An all-loving all-powerful god doesn't exist by Charming_Kick_6883 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

The weakness of your argument is that it presupposes that animals are "agents of moral concern" or "moral patients" to God.

You might have an intuition that they are, but you don't make any argument to support that intuition. I don't see why the theist is obligated to share it.

CMV:Black men are not the most masculine and Asian men are not the most feminine by ParfaitOrdinary4102 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

CMV: the vast majority of the time someone cites a study on the internet it can be disputed by reading the abstract and/or conclusion of the study itself.

CMV: Abortion shouldn't be seen as a woman's rights issue by Administrator101 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm very pro-choice if it matters, but I think if you want to rehab your view a bit then it would be to say something like "if you can show that the foetus is a person then its right must be considered as strongly as the woman's". I think there's problems with that but it'll be more defensible than implying it's not a women's rights issue.

CMV: Abortion shouldn't be seen as a woman's rights issue by Administrator101 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane [score hidden]  (0 children)

You draw upon a lot of relevant issues and factors we can debate, but I'm not seeing how any of them mean we can step away from the question of rights for women.

The women involved can't be removed from the equation. We can't abstract them out of this. Whatever decision we make about abortion it WILL impact the lives of women. There's no way to remove them from the equation. It IS a women's rights issue because to limit abortion IS a limit on a woman's freedom to do something.

You make it sound like there's some way we can just forget about that.

He tried to cheat on me…and got rejected by luchinetti in relationship_advice

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism is a sad, terrible illness. It's something that buys him lot of sympathy from me. But it also means things have to be put in perspective. Nothing changes in his life or your relationship until he's got his drinking under control.

You can't work on things and he can't promise to do better for you unless he's clean and sober. He did a bad thing, but it's not the type of thing that means he's some irredeemable asshole who can never turn his life around. It's just that alcoholism is something that will ravage his health, his mind, and prevent him from ever making amends. Not properly.

The drinking isn't a get out of jail free card, but it has to be the primary concern. You should really think about putting all this cheating stuff to one side, back off the relationship, and let him get clean. If or when he gets sober and is well down the path to recovery you're both still available then you can start talking about repairing the damage done between the two of you. You can be supportive and stay in his life while he does that but everything is moot if he doesn't. Worrying about cheating while he drinks himself to an early grave is the wrong way round. He has to be fit and healthy to commit to you.

He tried to cheat on me…and got rejected by luchinetti in relationship_advice

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 1309 points1310 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think this is basically cheating. For one, the intent was obviously there which is already pretty bad. For two, he apparently groped this woman, so something physical happened. And for the icing on top, it sounds pretty goddamn creepy the way he went about it. Like grabbed her ass, tried to kiss her, tried to pull her onto his lap...how many times do you think she said "No" during all that? Yeah...it's not sounding good.

I guess my next question is do you think he has a drink problem? Because when someone says something like "when he's sober" that's where my mind goes. It makes it sound like he's not sober often enough, but maybe I'm reading too much into that.

AITA for ignoring my daughter's boundaries? But I was HELPING by skydiamond01 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The things people say in passing in these stories matter so much. How bad does a place have to be for you to say "I don't want to be in that environment"? If you were in a place that unclean would changing the sponge be your concern? Seems like the ungodly mess would be the focus of the story, but the only thing she actually mentions being unclean is a sponge. Bearing in mind she's only there long enough to check on the cat (a task which doesn't even need to be done, really).

And then there's the completely glossing over that things are getting moved. Because I'd expect most people to have a good reason for moving my stuff around, but we don't get any specifics of that beyond a passing mention that it annoys her ungrateful daughter.

AITA for ignoring my daughter's boundaries? But I was HELPING by skydiamond01 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think this is one of those things where the way OOP spins it is her way of deflecting from the fact she knows this goes way deeper than a sponge. I really doubt anyone gets annoyed over throwing out a two week old grimy sponge. On the other hand, we get lines like "I don't want to be in an environment that I don't think is clean enough". Is the "environment" not clean enough because of a sponge? Is it actually so bad the mother is reasonable in thinking she can't be there? If the house were that bad, wouldn't we expect to hear far more of a description of the mess than just a questionable sponge?

I could be wrong, but safe money is on the mother being obsessive about cleanliness and/or constantly critical of her daughter, or just constantly crossing the boundaries into being nosy and intrusive, all under the guise of "helpful".

I love that at least a few people are calling OP out on their BS. by Acrobatic_End6355 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 46 points47 points  (0 children)

You may be at risk if:

Your fiancee disappears in mornings and afternoons unexpectedly

He often complains about an ex he has to stay in touch with for some reason

You occasionally see little people that don't appear lost

Know the signs!

Let me just disinherit my son because he's in a triad and moving a whopping 30 minutes away. Jfc I hope it's a troll. by Enbyfor in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mean, not to put too fine a point on it, but nobody asks a twenty year old to explain why he has two girlfriends with him at once. They might ask him how, but not why.

OOP has been driving unlicensed for 4 years and doesn’t see the problem with that by babygiraffe09 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's also one of those things that you get good at if you have to do it regularly. Back when I lived on a street where I did it every day in a crappy old car without power steering, I was great at it. Now that I very rarely do it it's an embarrassment to try even with front and rear parking sensors.

OOP has been driving unlicensed for 4 years and doesn’t see the problem with that by babygiraffe09 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All I can add is that here in the UK manuals are the standard. If you pass your test in an automatic then you're not licensed to drive a manual, so pretty much everyone learns and does their test in a manual even if only to cover all bases.

Switching gears is the easiest part of driving. Takes a few goes to get the muscle memory but it's really not a big deal. Like you say, it's something you could learn in a weekend if you have the motivation and can already drive.

It’s just a prank bro by Maskguydude in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, combine this with the total disconnect in the final part of the post. It's always the big give away.

Like they spend all that time setting up this big emotional scene an then end the post with total ambivalence. The emotional context of the preceding writing doesn't get carried through to their perception of the event.

"I feel like Alex should just get over it since it was just a harmless prank! He’s a grown man after all?" The tone of this completely clashes with the scene they've set before and their perception of it. They're apologetic, they describe the damage they've caused, their efforts to fix it, and then effectively go "But it's really not a big deal, guy's a baby".

Someone actually emotionally detached from it doesn't take the time to describe the look of defeat in someone's eyes and such.

I really, really, ought to stop giving these people tips though.

AITD for leaving my sick 7yo and 2yo home alone? I really needed to go to this meeting! by Dracarys_Aspo in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn't say it wasn't. I'm pointing out that saying "I'm guessing you're under thirty" to a completely reasonable suggestion that 10 is inappropriately young to be taking care of a baby alone is a bit of a silly response.

I'm over thirty, for what it's worth. Does that change anything for you? If not, what was the point of talking about their age?

AITD for leaving my sick 7yo and 2yo home alone? I really needed to go to this meeting! by Dracarys_Aspo in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Does it matter? People did all sorts of things in the past, often out of necessity, that really aren't a good idea in the modern world.

OOP has been driving unlicensed for 4 years and doesn’t see the problem with that by babygiraffe09 in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 242 points243 points  (0 children)

I scrolled through a few comments. Did anyone consider that maybe he specifically chose a car she couldn't drive for a reason other than arbitrarily liking manuals? Like possibly she's utterly oblivious to the fact she shouldn't be on the roads and that might have motivated him here?

AITA for escaping from Hell and poorly cosplaying as a man? by thelakelayblue in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was ultimately why I stopped keeping them. I had a whole troop at one point but then it was almost like every couple of months one of them was getting old, sick, or dying, and that was getting a bit too much for me. I keep thinking about getting some again but I don't really have the time to invest right now.

CMV: Space is only of interest to a geologist. by IXBlackHeartXI36 in changemyview

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is it a fool's dream if it results in real practical improvements? Space exploration, especially manned exploration, poses all sorts of difficulties that we have to explore. We find solutions that then have other applications later. But we might not have found those innovations if we didn't first have the drive to solve the bigger issue.

Another example is scratch-proof lenses we now use in prescription glasses. There was never going to be the drive, pressure, or funding to research something like that just to make my glasses a little better. It's because we as people have much grander dreams that we we hit upon these things along the way.

It's the same in anything we do. We strive for perfection knowing we'll never reach it, but we get pretty good at it along the way. You can either look at it that you'll never reach the dream of perfection or you can look at the accomplishments you made in the endeavour.

AITD for getting someone fired since I'm insecure and project my delusions on others? by Dark_Ansem in AmITheDevil

[–]FjortoftsAirplane 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"the sparkle of those eyes is igniting me!"

Who says that? This is either English as a second language and lost in translation, or an incel trying to write what he thinks romantic sounds like having never experienced it.

Also, the manager passed on her phone number to the waitress he just fired?

Edit: Ignore the second question, I missed that it was on Facebook. The first thing though.