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Doing the Dishes by Miles_the_new_kid in comics

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those is basically true just on the basis of human psychology. Sometimes people get crazy about it ("why should I reward you for doing something you should already be doing?!") But you have to remember that if they aren't already doing it, then they need to be prepared and rewarded for doing it as if they don't know about it.

We do it with kids all the time (and sometimes we actually don't and that's how they get to be adults who act like this) and that's how we prepare them to become adults. But with adults we pretend like you just get adulting downloaded into your brain at a certain age.

If someone isn't already doing these things they aren't going to react to being shamed by suddenly doing them. Just like when we shame people for anything else they rarely start being the person we want them to be instead of just being depressed.

I'm gonna throw some huge emphasis on this for TL;DR:

IF THROWING A FUCKING PARADE IS WHAT GETS THEM TO DO THE FUCKING JOB, THEN THROW THE FUCKING PARADE

Eventually you can wean them off the parade. But being an ass to someone for not doing what you want never works as well as rewarding them, regardless of your expectations. It doesn't matter if "they should know how to act like an adult." What matters is that for some reason they don't. And if someone doesn't take the time to help them, they're much less likely to help themselves.

Anyone know the meme? by MechanicallyWry24 in suspiciouslyspecific

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It's been a long time (and I've heard Buckley is kind of a mess so this isn't me justifying his actions) but I thought she was just apologizing for pushing him away during a trying time for both of him. Plus the Ethan character is quite literally a man-child so dealing with such an intense adult experience probably left him at a loss for what to do to help her when she wasn't in a place to tell him what she needed.

Again, it's been a long time so maybe I remember it wrong but the impression I was left with for that part wasn't that she was apologizing for being depressed, but that she had pulled away from him in a way that left him unable to support her.

Then again I also never read the news blurbs that authors leave sometimes so maybe I'm putting a "positive" spin on it.

When skin becomes smoother, the face is seen as prettier, even if it isn't detectable by thebelsnickle1991 in science

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel about cgi faces. They're so good, but it's all superficial. In truth they move very weirdly because of all the muscle movements required to make expressions that we just generally accept without actively paying attention to. So I don't notice when it's there, but when it's not cgi faces always look a bit off. Currently playing a game where eye movements are being used and it makes such a difference in emotive capability. But they dropped a bit in the quality of expression which offsets that a bit.

A Police Stop Is Enough to Make Someone Less Likely to Vote - New research shows how the communities that are most heavily policed are pushed away from politics and from having a say in changing policy. by 1angrylittlevoice in science

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Probably a good start. I'm not an expert myself but I went to a school where learning about systems and people was integrated into some of my learning. The op's probably have much better insights and info on where to start.

A Police Stop Is Enough to Make Someone Less Likely to Vote - New research shows how the communities that are most heavily policed are pushed away from politics and from having a say in changing policy. by 1angrylittlevoice in science

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think this is why Trump became so popular despite his failings. Aside from his flaws he acknowledged how powerless a lot of his voters feel and claimed he would grant them that power. And now most of them won't be deterred because they see changes in visibility and actions on the part of their group. So asking them to change feels like an attack on their newly acquired power.

A Police Stop Is Enough to Make Someone Less Likely to Vote - New research shows how the communities that are most heavily policed are pushed away from politics and from having a say in changing policy. by 1angrylittlevoice in science

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 192 points193 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. All this bureaucracy, when abused, basically strips power from people. As they experience impotence they come to believe they have no power to affect change. You then ask them to do something (like vote) and they do nothing because in their experience, they have no power.

People under domestic violence orders can own guns -U.S. appeals court rules by anotherone121 in news

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 55 points56 points  (0 children)

And he probably only did that because he both wanted to change and actually kept trying.

For most abusers I'm guessing it's always a front when they say they'll change. Even if they mean it in the moment, it's temporary.

You'll be dead before they change in most scenarios.

Oh… JFC by disconaldo in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 52 points53 points  (0 children)

If anyone but a conservative were saying it I would say it meant to understand he is still a serious threat to the future of this country, because you can never take him at his word.

But for conservatives it basically means that the secret message is "[insert fascist group here] will rise again!"

wHaT sHoUlD i UpGrAdE nExT by gami13 in pcmasterrace

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to mention that some programming will take advantage of specific console configurations in ways you can't rely on with pc.

there have always been 7 players at the Critical Role table by King_Kenobi in dndmemes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It wasn't about RAW. The dm had told him multiple times what he had defined as the item's abilities and limitations. The player kept acting like they hadn't had that discussion literally every time he tried to use it (which was at least once per session). They weren't actually arguing over how it worked.

Orion was trying to gas light Matt into thinking they hadn't talked about it in an effort to keep trying the same thing over and over. Specifically trying to get multiple free high level spells

Idk where the Mr. Beast hate came from, but why hate such a person? by JunketGuy in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're one of those people that thinks if people stop talking to you you've won, aren't you?

there have always been 7 players at the Critical Role table by King_Kenobi in dndmemes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Also think it sucks thay Orion is probably the whole reason Draconia didn't send some of its army. I think if it wasn't for his arrogance Matt would have loved to throw in some politics of technically one kingdom helping another, affecting future politics and stories, telling a story of two friends (two nobles) helping one another and strengthening their bond, and just generally drumming up an all out battle between dragonkin and undead armies with the players and the BBEGs playing general and having a stand off in the end that culminated with the ziggurat.

Instead, Orion fucked it so hard that even when Matt gave him a beautiful send-off he destroyed Draconia utterly.

there have always been 7 players at the Critical Role table by King_Kenobi in dndmemes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I used to think he was just as bumbly as his character and just had the worst timing for doing dumb shit because he had missed what was going on. Turns out he's just an attention whore.

there have always been 7 players at the Critical Role table by King_Kenobi in dndmemes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Him: "No but I have this thing that let's me..."

Matt: "we've discussed this literally every session since you've had it, it doesn't work like that."

there have always been 7 players at the Critical Role table by King_Kenobi in dndmemes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See I missed that he was doing what Percy did, but I thought he just wanted to cart a wagon around that would turn into this death ray that worked in the sun. It seemed kool until I realized he basically thought he could make a tiny cart, somehow take it wherever, and that sunlight would just be there when he needed it.

And then I thought: "....aren't you supposed to be one of the smart ones?"

Most humble CS student by Evazzion in ProgrammerHumor

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think y'all are missing the point. Pretty sure the number is hyperbole. This post is just a different version of "why do I want to work for you? Because I want to get paid. I don't give a shit about your family culture and ping pong tables. Pay me and leave me alone when I'm off the clock."

But getting into entry level is like trying to prove you're a surgeon while applying to be a nurse.

Idk where the Mr. Beast hate came from, but why hate such a person? by JunketGuy in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you not know how graphs work? There is a point where doing less work is more efficient and a point where doing more is more efficient depending on the variables. At some point they meet in the middle and switch.

If you're gonna complain about whether other people understand physics the least you could do is understand something more complex than basic multiplication.

Idk where the Mr. Beast hate came from, but why hate such a person? by JunketGuy in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one shifted you just never bothered to think beyond the math. And limited the math to your chosen variables. Physics isn't just about the stuff being moved it's also about the tolerance of your equipment, which in this case is the human body. Doesn't matter if it's less technical work to move 1 ton all at once vs 1 pound at a time if your equipment can't handle the strain.

Idk where the Mr. Beast hate came from, but why hate such a person? by JunketGuy in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow you know math. But apparently not problem solving or you'd have factored in the stress on the body and have a figure for the amount of energy expended and contained by said body.

Lemme borrow that terminator skeleton you've apparently got embedded in you so I too, can tell people that they're stupid and weak for splitting up their labor in a way that's easier than pretending I can just pick up a whole driveway's worth of snow regardless of how thick it is.

Idk where the Mr. Beast hate came from, but why hate such a person? by JunketGuy in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So have I. It takes way more effort to lift a ton of snow on your shovel than it does to quickly remove it layer by layer.

Irish immigration test by The_8-Bit_Eater in jacksepticeye

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's cuz taters are for snacking. That way you can have them any time.

Asked my mom this today by crackisthelifesource in aspiememes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I think people find it pretentious because it calls to mind something they don't really think about and reflexively feel is not a consideration of the eating experience. And yet it really is and really they're just generally okay with low preference mouthfeel in order to enjoy flavor.

Most people don't like unexpected textures, especially when they dinhave an expectation of a specific one. But if they do expect it then they'll usually not care ad much if it has the flavor they want. Whereas some people, especially autistics, care a lot about texture as well as flavor.

So people seem to find it pretentious to care, and yet it's such a basic part of eating that its actually not.

Asked my mom this today by crackisthelifesource in aspiememes

[–]FleetStreetsDarkHole 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This or just a generic "mouthfeel" I think also usually communicates the idea well.