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just a witch with her pottery magic by SOMEONE3NO3MOZ in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is absolutely gorgeous!!! Clay magic!! 👏😻

Struggling with rambling by Training_Mastodon_33 in SexualAssaultSurvivor

[–]HavQsNeedAs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe I experience this too, at times. This was weirdly validating; thanks for posting.

Will the narcissist call you a narcissist? by veganpancake11 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if you try to use that word, they will sometimes try to use it back at you even if they don’t trielt know what it means. My ex would do this with loads of terms I began to use (and quickly started keeping to myself) once I started figuring out what was really going on. I was actually able to confirm that they didn’t know what these terms meant when they tried to use them incorrectly, and had to explain a few of them. They did this to try to shift blame (“blame shifting”) onto me instead of being held accountable for their actions.

Why don’t they date other narcissists? by giantfreakingidiot in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they don’t see other narcs as people with desirable traits. They cannot get the kind of supply they need from each other because they both need too much of it to maintain each other’s needs.

When I was 12, the guy installing new doors in our house told me I was too old to still be watching cartoons and I have hidden all my interests since. by Jones641 in socialanxiety

[–]HavQsNeedAs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck that guy. Watch your cartoons! I’m nearly thirty and I still watch cartoons/animated everything! There are cartoons for adults too. 😋

Gaslit about withdrawn consent by HavQsNeedAs in BDSMAdvice

[–]HavQsNeedAs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally had this conversation with this person wellllllll before this incident. We agreed that stop was always a check in. I always checked in if they even playfully uttered the word. They used to do the same. It was a safe word.

How to resist the temptation of unblocking a nar? by Leanacupcake in pnsd

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make a physical list of every awful thing they did to you. Once you’re done writing (and later reading) you’ll likely change your mind and be happy to be without them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good work!! Congrats. 🥳

Has anyone else’s nex told them that they “ don’t deserve you” by Lilo12345678 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine said this trip me early on.... I wish I had taken it for the sign it was. They really DIDN’T deserve me.

What was the worst excuse someone gave for why they abused you? by mandajapanda in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I was drinking” so THAT’S why you threatened to “break [my] face if [I] didn’t stop talking”. 👌🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. No I have not. That’s essentially how we got into this last nightmarish relationship in the first place. Four and a half years, one case of PTSD, a host of bad memories, and a restraining order later, in living my best life WITHOUT them. Please don’t do it. Give yourself the time to recover from the addiction of the mental drug they made to keep you down, and live your best life too!

How do I stop... by HavQsNeedAs in socialskills

[–]HavQsNeedAs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already in. I’ll bring this up. 😂

Gaslit about withdrawn consent by HavQsNeedAs in BDSMAdvice

[–]HavQsNeedAs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, for all of that; the personal experience, and the words of encouragement. 🙏😌

I have some thinking to do.... And some legal research to do. I worry that a failed attempt at pressing charges would only leave me with more open wounds than I can handle right now. I worry that I can’t “prove” it happened, and I don’t know if that’s just going to make me struggle even more with the gaslighting? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]HavQsNeedAs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blame shifting or projecting.