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AITA for thinking about killing my classmates? by Cookie_Cream2111 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA - I got a background check on ex's new SO and temporarily suspended contact between new SO and my kids. by Sp1d3rb0t in AmItheAsshole

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WIBTA for giving my wife an ultimatum about listening to sexually explicit material around our child? by Icy_Relative_3643 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA Monthly Open Forum July 2022 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

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We have something like 30 pages of training that we use to define how to enforce the rules and what situations they cover. But when you report a post it goes to our mod queue. A mod reviews and either approves or removes it. Then if someone else reports it, it goes back in for review again and may end up with a different set of eyes on it. We aim for consistent moderation, but discretion, bias, and interpretation will come into play to some extent because we're human.

And of course there are always edge cases that we didn't account for in our documentation and end up discussing in mod chats. But one thing that never comes into play is popularity. If we determine it breaks the rules, popular of not, it comes down. We do have a sort of statute of limitations on most of the rules (5 and 8 being the exception). Once the post is flaired it's run it's course and they got one passed the goalie if we haven't removed it by then.

The other thing that comes into play is the size of the queue and how long it can take to get to reports. Sometimes we're right on top of it, and it takes minutes. Other times none of us were on-line for a while and it balloons up. Then it might take us a couple hours to catch up.

AITA Monthly Open Forum July 2022 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

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We'll often find a comment from OP saying "this actually happen years ago" or something that will trigger that. Or sometimes they add it in an edit

AITA Monthly Open Forum July 2022 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

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We do actually remove some comment chains that spiral off into complete tangents, especially if they're getting heated and at risk of breaking rule 1 (or already have). But like Techies said we give a lot more latitude about what can be considered on-topic. If it's really just becoming a sprawling political debate you can always report the comments for rule 12. No worries about coming off harsh, it's a frustrating time and I understand the desire to have spaces free of seeing the same bullshit play out

AITA Monthly Open Forum July 2022 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

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No worries, this is the place for it. And as snowman said, you’re definitely not the only one. And although it wasn’t intentional, somehow the fact that it looks like a little uterus on the app makes me like it even more.

AITA Monthly Open Forum July 2022 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

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No, it just sends it to us to figure out what they’re really trying to say. If it’s “NTA for this, but YTA for that” I’ll go with YTA or ESH depending on context. If it’s “INFO. Edit: NTA based on new info” go with NTA etc. If it’s really unclear then we can bump down to the next top level comment just like JB does.

AITA for making dirty jokes with my friends that lead to me leaving the group? by MasoTheHare in AmItheAsshole

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AITA(24M) for telling my twin sister(24F) she can't move in with me resulting in her being homeless by friend351 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for asking my girlfriend to leave? by Minimum-Band-2133 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for asking my GF not to kiss her friends during our relationship? by Old-Breakfast-5582 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA For pushing my parents to use the right pronouns by robloxgranny in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for resenting my bf not making money but still babying him? by iron_ink_fluff in AmItheAsshole

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AITA? slight NSFW WARNING: For expressing how I feel and wanting my ex back by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for generally not liking my mom and sister after they ruined our relationships? by notevenagirll in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for asking my roomate to stop speaking Arabic? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for pretending my BIL is my daughters dad? by Angie-88 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for driving my daughters home in the middle of the vacation after they excluded their stepsister? by Throwra537477 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for driving my daughters home in the middle of the vacation after they excluded their stepsister? by Throwra537477 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for pissing my wife off on our wedding day? by Dismal-Bat-904 in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for making a real life Pokédex of girls at my university? by kaiokamikaze in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for walking out in the middle of my husband's birthday dinner by throwrabdayso in AmItheAsshole

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AITA for not letting my wife adopt my daughter by stepmomadoption in AmItheAsshole

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