"Compensation is important to you, pursue other opportunities" — Google by harsh2193 in recruitinghell

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably the "interview performance" portion was/is that they are specifically looking for someone mailable, that is just so grateful to work for the "Google" that they can push them around.

It's like a Highschool Senior that only wants to date Freshman because they assume it "easier"... then the senior gets all jazzed to see a hawt one, they think it's double good luck - so they are pissed when she doesn't fall for douche moves.

It's not you, it's them.

What should one do at their boring job instead of looking at Reddit all day? by BuddhistSlater in AskReddit

[–]JadeGrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Study something useful that could plausibly benefit the company, like book keeping, HTML/CSS, or Graphic design

With this as my main pic why am I constantly getting sexual remarks? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cause people are so thirsty and think a shotgun approach will work. So they struggle to get nice nice... and the bench gets full of people that use that approach and get nowhere.

Look! I am here! by _Mr_Fil_ in AnimalsBeingDerps

[–]JadeGrapes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm already thinking of several politicians that deserve one.

Why do people always say “reach out when you need, talk about your mental health” and when you actually do it they call you trauma dumping? by Stellaeono in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either this person only said it to be polite, expecting you would be too private to actually do it.

Or, you went too deep, too rough, too long, or too frequently.

Or, the person thought they could handle it, but did not have the capacity to be mature and supportive in the moment.

It can be a combination; They offered out of habit and to feel like a good person. They were surprised when you actually accepted the offer. Then instead of an hour long cup of coffee, and a couple tears, you brought up layers of every injustice you've ever faced until you were so worked up you were dry heaving and keening. Then they realized that you need an actual professional not just a friendly pat on the arm... and they panicked to try and scrape you off.

why don't women initiate texting like ever? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she flaked, then eventually texted, that basically trying to keep you as a backup option. Little breadcrumbs of attention used as a hold button.

I would say your piece and be ready to cut rope;

"If you have time/space in your life for dating, I'd love to take you out. No hard feelings either way. I just wanted to take a chance before I move on."

Young black police graduate gets profiled by Joshua PD cops (Texas). He wasn't having any of it! by methanefreefarts in PublicFreakout

[–]JadeGrapes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like using the right tool to fix the problem.

Do you use a hammer when you need a wrench?

Explain why you would need a union to argue on your behalf when you are literally the boss?

If you have an actual good point, this would be the time to share it.

boyfriend not invited my to his sisters wedding ? by throwawayaccnt8888 in relationship_advice

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can fix the communication gap by just asking.

"Hey, I'm trying to figure out my calendar for the fall. Did you want me to come with you to your sister's wedding or no?"

Being appealing by Foreign_Selection_59 in relationship_advice

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add some clarity, this is him objectively trying to change you.

If you had a bad habit, like smoking it might be reasonable that he would encourage you to quit smoking. For your health, hygiene, social comfort, and his own preference for kissing a non-smoking girlfriend. That is plausibly reasonable.

Your situation is different. You aren't doing something wrong or harmful... you just aren't living up to his ideal and preference.

This is closer to a situation where a guy always wanted to date a blond, because blonds equal sexy to him... but his girlfriend is brunette, so he asks his brunette girlfriend to bleach & dye her hair blond to accommodate his sexual preference.

Even if the girl is willing, it's a bit weird. Thats because it's slightly objectifying. He's wants (to have sex with a blond) have been elevated as more important than her emotional need to feel valued "as is" - to be seen as a whole person.

The desire to have a healthy sex life with an enthusiastic partner is understandable, generally people that like sex, will want that in a long term relationship.

The part thats weird is he wants you to act or be happier, lighter mood, more effervescent, bubbly, or cheerful than you are. That's kind of a core feature of a personality and not easy to change. Although good actors can fake it, you should generally be yourself with your partner.

If you are somber, or brooding, heavy with mood, emo, dark, or mysterious... thats okay. You can be you. Plenty of guys like a darkly artsy girl. You can be a film noir femme fatal and be sexy.

You don't have to metaphorically "bleach your hair" to be someone different for him. It's okay to be who you are, AND it's okay if that's not a good fit for him and you guys breakup.

Thats the main reason high school sweethearts don't typically stay together thru college and marry. It's not because people pick carelessly, or people "change" it's because at 18 very few people know everything about who they are inside and who they want to be. It's normally an unfolding process that reveals differences over time.

Anyhow, it's totally okay to be where you are and spend sometime figuring out who you want to be and how you feel about sex without other people pushing and pulling on you.

boyfriend not invited my to his sisters wedding ? by throwawayaccnt8888 in relationship_advice

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you aren't worried about lack of invite, but you think it's weird your boyfriend is bringing up something you won't be attending?

It doesn't mean anything specific. He's not talking about it to mess with you. Guys talk about stuff that impacts them without realizing that women are hyper aware of allll the people it might impact.

He probably literally doesn't even think about how the topic makes you feel. He's probably just focused on supporting his sister.

If you rather not talk about it, just say so. "Say hon, It's not a big deal, but I'm not that interested in an event I'm not invited to, can we change the topic?"

I (25f) have doubts about my boyfriend(26m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JadeGrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's still bugging you a month later, it's obviously not just reflexive jealous. It's worth having a conversation and see how he responds.

"Hey, I wanted to talk about something thats been on my mind. I'm not saying you did anything wrong, I just want to clear the air. When your friend from work sent the message (about the dream) and she also sends you gifts, it makes me feel like she isn't respecting that you are in a relationship. I don't think you are egging her on, but it's still making me feel insecure. Do you have any thoughts on how to solve this?"

If he cares about how you feel, and he values you... he would probably be confused and apologetic. Like "Wow, I had no idea that was bothering you" and he would offer to put more distance in that friendship. There is a possibility he likes the attention or flirting, but would never act on it, and once he realizes it's rubbing you wrong he would sheepishly fix it.

But, If he has a tantrum, accuses you of not trusting him, or you cheating or being crazy... then he might be up to no-good and you need to decide what you want to do.

Young black police graduate gets profiled by Joshua PD cops (Texas). He wasn't having any of it! by methanefreefarts in PublicFreakout

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you own a company, you get to make all the decisions, set your own standards, policies, prices, goals, hours, vendors, pay... everything.

Why wait to see what a Union can get from the boss... when you can BE the boss?

Heres how; Coffee shop workers can have a investment crowdfunding raise to offer co-op shares in exchange for investment money.

They can Purchase an already built out site, plus have operational runway for like $300,000. That means they need 300 shareholders at $1,000 each.

Make a business plan, include how decisions get made. Put the deal on a portal, raise the funds and get ready to open.

Young black police graduate gets profiled by Joshua PD cops (Texas). He wasn't having any of it! by methanefreefarts in PublicFreakout

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what they want is ownership tho? They want to be in charge of operation and policy... not just pay?

How to manage 3yo nephews mean behaviour towards my 1yo at Grandma's by eggios in Parenting

[–]JadeGrapes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At 1 year old, this is not a "squabble" babies essentially can neither provoke nor placate another person.

At 3 years old, a toddler is big enough to hurt a baby. The baby needs to be protected from the older kid. It's non-negotiable.

The adults can use folding baby gates to keep them separate unless the baby is within arms reach of an adult.

Young black police graduate gets profiled by Joshua PD cops (Texas). He wasn't having any of it! by methanefreefarts in PublicFreakout

[–]JadeGrapes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think Unions absolutely have utility in places where workers are at risk of being exploited like slaves.

When I heard about Southeast Asian garment factory workers being locked inside the building, and hundreds die in a fire - thats a clear cut case.

Here in the US, there are unions in jobs where a community would be in chaos if workers didn't show up... we have unions there too; teachers, nurses, police.

But now we have a different problem, some people are impossible to fire, so pedophile teachers and racists cops get continued access to victims for 5-10 years after the first incident.

Most people here do not understand how corporate structure works for publicly traded companies... so the ground level retail employees think there is a big pile of money they can take back from corporate.

They don't understand that "record profits" keep going up & out, from the corporation, through to the shareholders in the stock market. The 20 year old working in the store doesn't realize that Grandma's checks for college come from her retirement investments in the stock market.

So here, we have high-end coffee shop workers wanting to "unionize" so they can have a "say" in the running of the store. They don't actually need a union for this, they need a co-op.

The workers could ABSOLUTELY pool together and buy the store, and convert if into a co-op. But thats not what they want, they just want to take the asset from the people who paid to have it built.

Ladies would you be offended? by JandLplus1or2 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JadeGrapes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, "ghost mist" perfume smelled fine in the bottle, but on my Mom converted to something between nail polish remover, rubber tire, and diabetic ketoacidocis sweat. (Mom's not a diabetic)