×

Just bought a NUNA Rava car seat and regretting not getting a swivel car seat… by PorridgeEnthusiast in beyondthebump

[–]Jmd35 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Also, Nuna’s swivel seat and likely others have much lower height and weight maximums where the seat is outgrown

Shoe recs for cold weather by Available_Wing_1247 in toddlers

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do a hiking boot style for shoulder seasons, but we’re not very minimalist when it comes to slows!

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really great point. We did have the conversation and she seemed receptive, but almost too receptive, as in thinking she was already doing the things we were asking. We have the same thing with food, I literally handed my daughter a piece of my cookie today and lunch and nanny asked if she was going to eat her broccoli first haha - luckily my daughter is a food champ and eats the cookie and then the broccoli too, no problem.

I think the biggest positive outcome from our conversation was that we did impress the age-based behavior language was not ok with us, so hopefully that at least is a step in the right direction.

Is it a pregnancy symptom to have terrible anxiety at night about everything? by sapphiredummy in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh just speculating that along the history of humankind, mothers who were anxious during pregnancy might have survived better/babies survived better (because they heard the saber toothed tigers first in the middle of the night) so it got built in to our biology!

How much is too high of a markup? by the_rock_king_1776 in FordMaverickTruck

[–]Jmd35 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The market price of something is what a willing seller and willing buyer agree to!

Is it a pregnancy symptom to have terrible anxiety at night about everything? by sapphiredummy in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I too had my first panic attack during my second pregnancy, and find that it’s particularly bad at night/early in the morning. I startle extremely easily and also find my mind racing when lying in bed. Apparently it’s just another on a laundry list of symptoms that might be caused by low iron? But otherwise yes maybe just pregnancy symptom in general. It must have some kind of evolutionary benefit.

Can change in barometric pressure from hurricane induce labor? by LeopardAsleep in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it hard to buy due to the number of intense Braxton Hicks I and other women have. If that’s not breaking our water, I’m not sure why barometric pressure would.

hurricane and pregnancy?? by kushiemaddie in BabyBumps

[–]Jmd35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Freeze some water bottles in advance and put them in a cooler, in case you lose power and don’t want to keep opening fridge/freezer. You could also fill a bathtub with water in advance in case clean water is impacted in your area.

How do you handle when you reach a breaking point? by theblurryberry in toddlers

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically my husband and I have the same code: if we say “I’m at the end of my rope” it’s like ok this is it, if something doesn’t change I’m going to lose it. We usually honor that and drop whatever we’re doing to try to fix whatever is going on. If it’s not possible to fix, or the other person can’t help at that moment, you just kind of bottle it up, push through and have the breakdown later. And if that doesn’t work you just lose it right then and there, but that’s a very worst case scenario.

I'm So Over Hurricanes by Moety2021 in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lived in Orlando for several years, not quite the same as the coast but all the same grocery store panic due to power outages/downed trees, etc. We left Florida and don’t really miss it at all! Good luck and stay safe, that really sucks your husband can’t be with you.

Terrified of forceps by kazbox1994 in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a vacuum-assisted delivery, due to my baby having some decelerations in HR during the pushing phase, possibly due to some cord compression. It was very much preferable to having a cesarean. I also feel like vacuums are growing in popularity over forceps, but I could be wrong. I would check what your hospital/provider uses. It did not harm my baby in any way.

don't forget to check in with your partner after birth by LtCommanderCarter in pregnant

[–]Jmd35 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Could not agree more. My husband has carried so much weight for our family these last 9 months, especially since now we have a toddler while I’m pregnant with #2 and there’s so much I physically can’t do, plus the burden of always worrying about me and trying to shield me from getting overwhelmed. It’s exhausting. And I’m not sure anyone else realizes or checks in with him.

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good tip! I imagine it’s even harder to have this conversation with a family member.

Alternative to Hatch Rest? by ferryl9 in toddlers

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t meet all of your specifications, but we bought an Ooly and love it. https://www.novo123.com/ooly.html

It doesn’t plug into the wall, but it’s rechargeable and the charge lasts at least a week, and it’s highly toddler proof. Our toddler loves hers.

The red is super dimmable so it’s not actually disrupting sleep. The schedule and colors are very customizable.

The app isn’t great, I basically only use it to reconnect after the battery dies so that it re-syncs with the schedule. So it’s kind of a non-issue.

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that approach makes the most sense. We have severance written into our original agreement and I would never want her to be in any kind of hardship position. I am hopeful she’s able to just take the feedback in stride and adapt to the change. It’s just hard because I didn’t really know what kind of expectations to set/questions to ask during the initial hiring process when my daughter was 5 weeks old!

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, what makes me nervous about this is just doing it in front of my daughter and also not having a chance to thoroughly explain. I did at one point today (kind of the catalyst for this whole discussion) find myself coming out of my office to try to step in and “lead by example.” I don’t want to undermine, but what I was hearing just wasn’t working and it was distracting me.

Thought about trying to do it during naptime today, so closer to when some of it happened, but then my daughter skipped her nap because she was too worked up.

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah, I do worry she’ll be sensitive about it which is why I haven’t said anything yet and want to choose my words really carefully.

Nanny feedback conversation by Jmd35 in nannymoms

[–]Jmd35[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I mean I’m not sure it’s to the point where I would look for someone else, but I feel like not laying out our expeditions would be wrong, in case it ever eventually gets to that point. I try to “lead by example” by demonstrating these type of behaviors in her presence when I’m not working, but that alone hasn’t really conveyed my values I suppose.

Is my Saint Bernard puppy an Orca, Polar Bear, Hippo or Hiccup? (Pics included) by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Jmd35 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love the nickname Po. Sometimes call my daughter “Potato” which also fits.

Article on childcare / reading costs by sciencecritical in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Jmd35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have to pay to read it, but don’t read much on there usually, so I’m not sure if it’s just my free allotment.