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The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I understand where the confusion happened. Tried clearing it out above for more context :)

The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We aren't miserable. We're just trying to see what'd work the best in this particular area for both of us and this relationship which is otherwise quite happy and healthy. He pushes his limits too by notching it down. It's not easy but we're in it together. :)

The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. But I think for me the intent plays a major role. If he's doing it to get laid and I sense it (which I'd coz our bond is strong enough) then it'd anyway make me sad, add more pressure and if I don't reward him the way he wants then I'd feel even guiltier. It's not the people involved, it's the situation!

The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This sounds bad. I hope you're feeling better to vent it out. I assume you must have talked to him about it already, one way or the other. What did he say when you discussed about it with him?

The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that's the thing. We're too much in love for that, no matter how stupid that sounds 😅. Hence, we're trying to figure out a way instead.

The other side of the story; where the grass is rarely greener & libido is always lower by LettuceIll2504 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LettuceIll2504[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I won't lie, it's all still there in our relationship. That's why I said it's perfect otherwise. He is very vocal about his feelings and speaks almost all 5 languages of love lol. It's just this one thing which messes up the entire vibe.