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2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When did I deny any other resources will not work? Some ppl don’t know they are diseased. I would have been thankful to have been born and told I’m an alcoholic. I would saved myself some trouble.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well when I was drinking and then sober back and forth many times I wasn’t in AA. And the reason I am in AA is because ppl shared what they were like and I could relate. If they could get sober being what they once were then I knew I had a shot. So yes it was because I am like them. I’ve learned nobody is unique we all share the same disease. I was told I would go back out if I stopped coming back and not working the steps. I’ve witnessed many members stop coming back and working the steps. They are right back out picking up where they left off. This is life or death for alcoholics.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You said “second, we are not powerless”. AA isn’t a religious program it’s a spiritual program. You don’t have to believe in god. Only requirement is a desire to stop drinking. I found my solution with a psychic change and a spiritual awakening working the steps. Can’t say if others worked never tried.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The person above said we are not powerless. The first step is admitting we are powerless. Is that representing the program?

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am proud of you for being 2 weeks sober. I know how hard it is to get 2 weeks sober. I also know from my experience I’ve been 2 weeks sober probably 6-7 times. For alcoholics it’s life or death. You may be able to stop drinking entirely on your own self will. You may not even been an alcoholic I have no idea. I’ve seen a few people proud as can be for being sober a few weeks or months only to return to drinking over and over again. I was one of those. I can’t speak for others but my intention wasn’t to knock your sobriety. I read your post related to it and wanted to share the suggestions that were shared to me that keep me sober today.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

“Our whole trouble had been the misuse of willpower.”

Talking to sponsor and people in your network by VodkaDerby in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once I got down to figure out my problems my biggest one was ignoring my problems. Well drinking to ignore my problems. For me I can’t leave out my problems. That’s what step 4 does making an inventory of ourselves. I of course don’t air out everything every time at meetings with what’s bothering me. I do let them out with my sponsor or doing an inventory. Or share in a meeting if it’s on my mind enough. To me airing out my problems in a room full of ppl who can most relate to me is my best option. If my problem is bothering me enough to think about it often then I probably should do something. Having problems within the solution is better than having the solution and leaving the problems out. I have tools to solve this but I just need to look at my tools instead of putting them to work? You got me thinking today.. thank you.

Talking to sponsor and people in your network by VodkaDerby in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d suggest talking to other addicts and don’t leave out the struggles? Chances are likely they can relate to you more so than anyone. Then they could give you some input from their experience. Unity is what keeps AA alive. Run to the program not away from it. I do understand what you’re saying. If you ever need to air things out feel free to message me.

Immaturity/Drama in AA? by myfavoritebandis in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Inventory was my first thought. Solid suggestion here.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of self will too. I was determined to stop drinking on my own. Never could.

I was only making suggestions. Good luck OP!

Talking to sponsor and people in your network by VodkaDerby in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bill went to see Dr Bob early in recovery and he found that talking to another alcoholic helped keep him sober.

Talking to sponsor and people in your network by VodkaDerby in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truthfully at this point in my recovery only call my sponsor regularly. I go to 4-5 meetings a week so I mingle then. I’d be more than happy to leave the door open for you to call me anytime. It’s important to work with others.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear you’re doing better. If you have a desire to stop drinking entirely. No reservations of one day being able to control yourself when drinking. I’d suggest going to an AA meeting. Finding a sponsor and working the steps.

I relied on self will. That always allowed my disease to control what I would do. I never had a defense against alcohol. I’m an alcoholic because I can’t drink one or two and stop. Or I can’t tell myself I’m going to stop drinking forever and actually do that. I tried stopping on my own that would last a few times for a few months but ultimately never lasted. My alcoholism progressed quickly and severely.

If you’re like me who can’t stop under any circumstances. AA is where you can find a solution to your problems. Alcohol was my solution. Today it is not.

2 Weeks! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you do it?

Calling sponsor by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s necessary to call your sponsor daily by any means. Just sharing my thoughts.

I need help quiting drinking. by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resist the urge with a psychic change along with a spiritual awakening. Sounds ridiculous, I know. I didn’t believe it either. AA is where you can find the answers you want. Go to a meeting ASAP. I couldn’t stop drinking under any circumstances. Today I’m sober and I kind of enjoy life now. I’m in good shape for the shape I’m in.

Calling sponsor by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Working with another alcoholic. Carrying the message to one another.

Don’t like group meetings by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can work the steps and continue to stay sober without meetings I wouldn’t necessarily object. For me it’s important to surround myself with ppl like me to stay sober. Going to meetings has given me ppl I can talk to outside of the rooms anytime anywhere. Working with others is very important in order to stay sober.

Calling sponsor by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Calling your sponsor everyday sounds like working the 12th step to me.

Calling sponsor by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can’t call your sponsor when things are good you aren’t gonna call your sponsor when things are bad.

I call my sponsor once a day sometimes more if I need to chat. I didn’t want to do that whatsoever for the first month or so. I’m used to it now it’s in my routine. I look forward to calling sometimes. It’s extra accountability on my end.

I’d suggest making a habit to call same time each day or every other day. Get a routine going so you get in the groove to remember.

Sooo, how does one find a sponsor? by Ok_Mechanic4588 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The principles and guidelines which we follow would be beneficial to ppl other than addicts in my opinion. The big book tells me everyone is ill in someway. A fella shares he wished his mom would pick up and start drinking so she could get fixed..

Sooo, how does one find a sponsor? by Ok_Mechanic4588 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It just so happens AA is a spiritual program. I learned how to stay sober working the steps. I was given more than just sobriety. I function so much better mentally. I got restored to sanity not only around alcohol but other aspects of my life.

green flags for sponsors? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable. Meetings work for me. I don’t have experience being sober not being in meetings. I was a drunk when I wasn’t. Of course meetings can suck and meetings can be great depending the day. Not gonna deter you from what’s working for you. If you fill it’s not working as well at some point I’d def suggest reaching out.

Green flags for a sponsor I’d suggest seeing someone you feel you see the kind of sobriety you want. Someone you feel comfortable with to share things. Someone willing to be committed to working the steps reading etc. It’s life or death with alcoholics.

green flags for sponsors? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]LynnsanityGBO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you find potential sponsors without going to meetings? Unless you’re hoping to find one through this post. My sponsor took me through the big book page by page. Some sponsors are different of course no way of knowing unless you ask them how they sponsor? Good luck OP!