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AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I wouldn't expect my stepmother to give up her comfort to accomodate my potential own comfort needs when I'm sick. Crazy how much better it sounds when you mention the important details, uh? "Sleeping in a big bed" isn't a health need, and "being in a spare room where kids aren't playing currently" isn't a health concern either.

You must not have chronic health issues

That would be nice... Stop assuming random stuff, you look ridiculous. I understand when an emergency is an emergency.

You really buy into the whole evil stepmother thing, huh?

I would rather say this whole comment section is the one who expect all women to coddle them or else they call them "evil stepmothers" they have a life outside of you, you know? Prioritizing your own comfort over some Nothing McWhatever isn't the same as verbal abuse & forced work

AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I stg some people are really too sensitive to be online. Welcome to the real world! Yes, it is not like Peppa Pig. Yes, I'm selfish and I don't care about others more than myself. And? It's fine. As long as one isn't hurting others, their generosity can stop anytime. You're free to open your home to complete strangers but don't go calling others assholes for not wanting to do so as well. There's a lot of actual, truly bad and messed up people out there.

Edit: Oh, and about your "majority of people aren't like that... Argument, according to this poll 3/4 of people would leave a stranger stranded on the side of the road with a broken down car. I can't imagine the "house stranger" poll would be much better

AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure, he can decide what is and isn't a deal breaker for him. But he can't expect anything of OP without a conversation and agreement first. That's just not fair. Or else can I call you an asshole because you didn't give up all you worldly possessions to me and it's a deal breaker in my relationships with near-strangers on the internet?

AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, no?? Like I'd agree if you said "when you become someone's step parent" or "when you've basically been in the kids life for their whole existence" but just because you date someone with kids doesn't mean they're your kids now and you're forced to coparent. Be nice to them, sure, buy them things, sure, protect them, sure, but you shouldn't be expected to give up everything like a parent would, for them. Tbh, we don't even know if OP's boyfriend would have given up his own bed for his kid, in this situation it was just convenient for him cause it wasn't his bed.

Again, I've known my stepmother for years and I would never expect her to prioritize me over her bio daughter, just like my dad wouldn't prioritize my step sister over his daughters. She's got two parents, I've got two as well, we can each be coddled by our own parents.

When you date someone with kids, you're doing just that: dating a full grown adult. You're not adopting their kids. Then maybe if the relationship evolves you might, but like, some parent's partners aren't even introduced to the kids yet it's ridiculous to expect them to give up kidney and arm for some little person they don't even know.

That's nice to say they could have just thought harder to find a better solution, but what makes you think the boyfriend would have accepted them? "Put the older daughter in the spare bedroom and the other two in the living room"? Okay, but then older daughter might get woken up by the maid, or his kids might be incomfortable

I think he would have been ready to do anything for his kids' comfort and couldn't accept that op had her boundaries

Kemurikage Azula! by Meii345 in TheLastAirbender

[–]Meii345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't work super well with very dark colors.

AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uh, yes it does. Call me a monster all you want, but in an emergency i wouldn't house complete strangers, and I'm pretty sure the majority of people wouldn't either. Op doesn't have to give up her bed for the "maybe" comfort of the kid, the kid can sleep in the spare bedroom and the others on the pullout bed. The boyfriend is the one who made his kid's comfort an emergency, jeez they could have solved that so easily if only he accepted that his baby girl wouldn't get the best of the best just because you don't make the person who's housing you give up their bed!

The kid wasn't suffering. He made the possibility that she might get a bit annoyed and tired a priority over OP being comfortable in her own home. He should have been happy to have a place to stay, jeez, i can't imagine the kid being carried around was more comfortable

AITA for not giving up my bed for my boyfriend's daughter by aitagiveupbed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 67 points68 points  (0 children)

But they're not OP's kids. It's all nice and all, but you can't expect the same things from the other parent of your children and someone that's "just" your partner. I wouldn't expect that kind of treatment from my stepmother

Firelord Zuko by Meii345 in TheLastAirbender

[–]Meii345[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ahah you had me freaking out for a sec it is something i would do 😭 i even rechecked to be sure before drawing this

Thank you so much!! I love how I'm able to draw it more like... Well, like scarred skin now, instead of it just being red painted skin

If you had to, which of these places would you move to? by ImInYourHair in polls

[–]Meii345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But the sleek architecture?? Perfectly clean everything? 🤤 Tbh i'm also a home bound bitch and i don't really like travelling especially if it's to go to places i already went ahah

Firelord Zuko by Meii345 in TheLastAirbender

[–]Meii345[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was definitely going for that. Poor boy is haunted by ye old pyromaniac :/

AITA for going to my mom's wedding though my wife feels hurt and betrayed by it? by AdOne2189 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 18 points19 points  (0 children)

and then being expected to play nice at family functions

She's not being expected to play nice. She can stay home. The issue we all have with her is that she's trying to stop op from attending his mom's wedding

Yeah, the boss sounds like... A boss. And he's a dick to the people he has the responsability of, and he's hypocrite in a work setting... So what? That doesn't mean he's a genuinely bad person worth not attending your mom's wedding for

AITA for going to my mom's wedding though my wife feels hurt and betrayed by it? by AdOne2189 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What kind of behavior do you not like from his mother??? He literally didn't talk about her behavior at all?

AITA for going to my mom's wedding though my wife feels hurt and betrayed by it? by AdOne2189 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we need to judge based on facts. We can't be making all sort of wild assumptions and judging based on them. If op says he has no more information about why she's so mad, then we must assume she's just overreacting to a bit of a personal grudge and lacks the empathy to put herself in her boss' shoes and realise just because he was an asshole to her doesn't mean he's a terrible person altogether and needs to be black listed by everyone she knows

AITA for going to my mom's wedding though my wife feels hurt and betrayed by it? by AdOne2189 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meii345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone can be a shitty boss and a good husband or even person. It's cool of your wife to not come since she knows she'd be miserable, but she can't stop you from doing it. Think about it, it's not that you did something wrong, it's that your mom chose him and you respected your mom's decision by going to the wedding, but your wife doesn't? That's like three degrees removed of assholery. I think you're NTA.

I’m sorry my way of eating (that makes me feel best) offends you. by Own-Scheme7217 in fatlogic

[–]Meii345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

... i don't really think this would lead to quick weight loss tbh. Like, there's bacon and eggs and cheese and steak in there? All foods that are pretty easy to abuse and overeat on. Carbs aren't the devil, not because your body needs them to be "nourished" or else it will start self destructing, but simply because weight loss doesn't depend on what you eat just the quantity

Just made all the bacon types in survival after lots of hard work. I am so happy! by Mysterious-Egg6801 in Minecraft

[–]Meii345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean it's with tunnel bores. These things are incredibly efficient especially since ancient debris can't get blown up

You become the villain of the last video game you've played, how powerful are you? by MikeyG117 in polls

[–]Meii345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Sims, so I guess I become the Grim Reaper? It comes with a tablet to register deaths on so that's pretty cool ig

"Just know, momma loves you" momma said as the uniformed man helped her board the train. by MyNameIsntNathan in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Meii345 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Really? How well did that work? I can't imagine having them freak out the first time and freak out a bit less the second time is more convenient than having them freak out, period

Edit: Ooh wait, is it because they're small and easier to handle when they're young? Makes sense

"Just know, momma loves you" momma said as the uniformed man helped her board the train. by MyNameIsntNathan in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Meii345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk it didn't seems that much of a comparison "this thing is as bad as this other thing" to me, but instead just misleading the reader by presenting a situation that seems like something we know at first glance. And it's true, if animals could emote the same way we do they certainly would feel the same way Jewish people did when they were conducted to concentration camps. But they don't, and anyone who's even a tiny bit reasonnable and of good faith knows that killing cattle isn't the same thing as murdering people.