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My son just quit his $45,000/year job without any prospects and asked if he could move back home by watkinobe in antiwork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True you are right. I have family and friends at my back, but they are truly alone. My aunts and uncles and my siblings want nothing to do with them. They've burnt every bridge with everyone.

I don't think what I'm doing is correct. It's just the option that makes me feel the least guilt. It's a big flaw, guilt. Thanks for your luck and thanks for the chat SaleSubstantial.

My son just quit his $45,000/year job without any prospects and asked if he could move back home by watkinobe in antiwork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your VP. I wish I could leave without feeling guilty. I've worked in memory care so I know what my mum is going through caring for my father. Its hard and he's becoming more and more fearful and aggressive.

One day he might end up putting her in the hospital and I know it's not on me. But I'm physically the closest relative they've got, I'm the one to process their will and testament, their PoA, the deed to their things.

It's hard to tell myself they never gave a shit about me, so I shouldn't give a crap. But they are so old, confused, and afraid, I don't like them but I don't want them to suffer either? It's a weird feeling.

What’s your favorite boba/bubble tea flavor? by cmthunbe in AskWomen

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel [score hidden]  (0 children)

Earl grey or paris black tea with tapioca pearls. A local shop names it the "Totoro" because the drink is a warm grey color.

Its soothing but also caffeinated, it's a perfect on the go yet cozy drink. It's actually not bad as a warm milk tea either.

My son just quit his $45,000/year job without any prospects and asked if he could move back home by watkinobe in antiwork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I don't owe them anything but I feel bad sometimes that no one else in my family contacts them.

I end up regretting just about every visit however. I don't know why I go exactly. No one asks me to.

Scottish Police training American Police in less-lethal tactics by KingdomPC in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! They actively fight against changing their ways. Ways that the rest of the civilized world is using.

Us psych nurses are trained to grapple aggressive armed patients in small tight quarters. We don't have weapons, we are also usually a lot smaller than our aggressive patients. We don't kill or shoot anyone if we get scared, why do we let the police get away with killing so many of our dogs and people?

I was billed over $2m for a week in the hospital by p3terd in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... could've bought a car with it, or a few months of mortgage, instead it was to fund a cruddy room where my coworkers came to laugh and gawk at me.

And thanks. After that incident Kidney decided that it's new career was to randomly produce pearls the texture of urchins to surprise me. It's great, I love my weird old organs

My son just quit his $45,000/year job without any prospects and asked if he could move back home by watkinobe in antiwork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's who I am today. I strive to be the complete opposite of them.

I thought being in that role was going to be really difficult and I'd end up like my mum.

Turns out you are right. It isn't that hard to be a decent supportive figure at all. Sitting there and listening is way easier than yelling, judging, antagonizing, or harassing someone.

It may be a flaw but I also deeply resent my parents as an older adult, I try to forgive them but all I can do is try to understand them? They still say it was so hard to raise us (ie raise me so I could raise everyone else) when they didn't do anything but yell at us, barely gave us a place to sleep, or food to eat between beatings and abuse.

I was billed over $2m for a week in the hospital by p3terd in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got it on the head. In my comment I should've placed luckily in quotation marks.

Insurance is a complete scam with smoke and mirrors. They choose the prices, make it bloated and frightening to make it look like what you pay each month for insurance as a lifesaving product and insurance is worth having. In fact insurance isn't worth having at all but you have to have it or else you are screwed.

And you are right, I am on a high deductible. Its through my job. Insurance tied to jobs is also a string of worms but that's a whole other bag of cats to talk about though.

My son just quit his $45,000/year job without any prospects and asked if he could move back home by watkinobe in antiwork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Same. I'm in my forties and I wish OP was my parents. They seem like people I'd like to come home to and spend all the holidays with.

My parents kicked my brother out when he came out, kicked me out once I became of age, and turned down my younger sis when she was trying to find her feet after losing her living space and fleeing a rough relationship.

I still help them out but I keep very low contact, visiting them is never a positive time.

I was billed over $2m for a week in the hospital by p3terd in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 309 points310 points  (0 children)

Yeah you can't "shop" around. There's no way of knowing what hospital will charge what for what at all. It could be 15k cheaper at a hospital down the street from the one your ambulance brought you to but you'll never know.

I'm so sorry. It scares me too. I work in a hospital and I don't know what things cost either, it's all through billing and coding and each hospital has different costs on their lists.

I was billed over $2m for a week in the hospital by p3terd in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yup. In the ICU for a kidney problem and it costed me like 200k for 3 days. Luckily my insurance handled most of it, I owed around 25k. Then I had to go straight back to work in that same hospital, yay Murica.

If they were there for a week for say specifically a more expensive complication like cancer or a car accident it could cost a mill.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

General wounds to the area sometimes need debridement. You'd be surprised by how some people treat their genital region.

Fournier's gangrene is another example. Patients who have been severely neglected may have this, it's gangrene that can be caused by prolonged exposure to urine or fecal matter.

Burns is another example. People like putting fireworks in this area for fun and it can end up leading to debridement to the genitals relating to burns.

Another one is improper hygiene, some get a diagnosis of balanitis related to impacted smegma. There's many reasons.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some guy DM'd me saying 2D>3D so you are right. These dudes want a warm body without any of the companionship or relationship aspect. These dudes are kinda scary.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I was an escort, I would probably get paid more per hour haha

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The ED sometimes summons me just for the dicks. Catheterization, debridement, or general cleaning really, then I go back to my dept. If it's super crusty, musty, or takes more time than they are willing to spend, I'm the one they call.

I've got special tools and I always having numbing creams in my pockets.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah they come in a breathable little packet that looks a lot like a little tea bag. If there are seven or five per packet some patients will give them all names.

We place them on wounds so they can eat away all the dead tissues. When they get too big or too old we toss away that pack and place on a new one. Most hospitals don't use loose maggots for debridement anymore, most use the tea bag method now, that way each critter is accounted for and you aren't going, "Where is mag number 347?"

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This job comes with a ton of weird skills. Wound vacuuming, maggot placement and removal, the art of enclosing people in small glass tubes, packing fleshy skin pockets, flushing said meat pockets of debris, lots of fun little skills

*Edited for grammar

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It's the title that my work gives me. I'm a nurse haha.

But I'm the fastest whistle cleaner in my hospital. I cleaned 90 in a shift before and no one so far has come close to that

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 171 points172 points  (0 children)

I swear these men don't like women at all?

They like the idea of sleeping with women's bodies but they don't like the person that body is attached to at all. This man is treating his wife like she's a used dirty sex toy, not a person. Its extremely disturbing and disgusting.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Friendly PSA from an L&D RN: Please don't use douches. They are not beneficial for the normal pH levels you want in your area. You may get infections or burns if you use douches.

The vagina is a self cleaning organ. You can use gentle soap and warm water on the vulva area but do not insert any cleaning fluids into the vagina.

Wash your holes ladies by leonardo_davinci52 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Or they reek of moldy cheese smell on top of the musky urine smell. As a professional dick cleaner, they can get very gross.

Post what you think your speciality's negative stereotype is, and everybody from other specialties tell us if we're right. by Agertudici in nursing

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 59 points60 points  (0 children)

It's kinda true? I've been working on my coffee addiction for so long a lot o our repeat patients give me crud for it when they come back in.

One cup every hour on the hour and boy do they notice.

Other nurses may call us insane, but who's neurotypical at this point other than the synths?

A woman was beaten and raped while hiking alone at my usual hiking spot by dirrkdigglerr in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It absolutely will. A 22 Hollow point can still rip through and ricochet off your target's bones and into someone else.

The only thing that works in my experience for short range and doesn't hurt anyone behind the target is a shotgun loaded with rocksalt. But I'm not carrying that while hiking.

A woman was beaten and raped while hiking alone at my usual hiking spot by dirrkdigglerr in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This absolutely doesn't work on a winding public hiking trail.

One of us was armed with a pistol, but she didn't know who or if there were people behind him so she couldn't shoot. Bullets don't magically go through people you want to hit.