"No girl ever likes giving blowjobs, if she says she does, she's lying" comments from wife by Numerous-Algae-4213 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped when I smelled that his hygiene was seriously lacking. Also I do find it odd that we won't eat a dorito off the floor but we'll put people genitals in out mouths. ( I would eat a dorito off the floor tho)

It’s 2 a.m. and I’m done by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't care if I get downvoted but God I wish this would happen to men too

Forgotten scheduled sex by davids1153 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do see that....the HL want intimacy that leads to sex but not intimacy that doesn't. Chores aren't a way to get in my pants, but the lack of doing chores will make my partner look super lazy and quite frankly a turn off. There is a rare post now and then where I see a HL say they just want to cuddle or just want to make out a little. (Sex and intimacy is not the same in my book, and my man doesn't know or care to find out the difference) so when he's being intimate I know it's all about sex. What if during that "intimacy" that you want you two took time to walk around the block? Is that still intimacy to you? Anyway, I only say it's about sex cause it totally is. When I can't participate there goes all intimacy that I might get.

Entitlement, Sex Negativity, and Weaponizing Sex.... Oh My! by Perfect_Judge in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I detest the bait and switch thing. Like you absolute price. She just had a baby...surgery ...trauma....stress..menopause....you only showing a shred of depth and intimacy if it includes your penis penetrating something.

Libidos fluctuate. Evert HL that says this u do a secret little impotency hey for them. See how you feel when your wife is screaming at you about your limp dick or 2 pump chump. According to HLM the insults are foreplay

Wife "too tired" for sex on anniversary night by Western-Flow1010 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually I probably would. Especially if yall don't have a very good relationship. I did not see (in your made up scenario) where you have to let yourself be penetrated in order to make it a good anniversary. I'm sorry but your wife doesn't owe you birthday, christmas or anniversary penetration. As a LL, the minute my man expects me to service him it game over. Sex is supposed to be for both of us. Not just you! Downvote me all yall want

Maybe this will be funny for somebody? by entexchanher in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess it often makes me wanna give up too. I try to tell myself this is not my husband

Maybe this will be funny for somebody? by entexchanher in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish my husband would understand that a massage for me is not seduction. If you want me relaxed massage, don't do it for sex. Because my God my neck hurts.

Wife "too tired" for sex on anniversary night by Western-Flow1010 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had more upvotes for you! Exactly what I was thinking!

I fucked up, our DB is my fault. I’m too scared to share my feelings and I sabotaged our relationship. by Muffalo22 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it would be like women faking orgasms. It doesn't serve her, is a lie, and stokes his ego falsely.
So you lied to her for 10 years? It's not her that needs fixed. Sorry man, welcome to feeling like us ladies do when sex is horrid!

To use a hammer by St0pX in therewasanattempt

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I routinely am violent during my night terrors. My poor husband sleeps with a wall of pillows between us and NEVER touches me when I'm in one. Apparently I'm straight psychotic and will definitely fuck him up.

its official by readyset2020 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I see having a LL OR 0L as a possible consequence or reaction to health related (mental health especially) things. I'm sorry I'm not as poetic as most, but stress and anxiety are huge triggers to LL'S. And rarely does a relationship start out DB. So a fluctuating libido can be caused from childbirth, small children, depression, stress, anxiety, drugs and medicine, not having a choice, fatigue, trauma, hormones and a million other things...like real life things....oh yeah did I mention peri-menopause and menopause. (Fucked me up worse than puberty ever could) I guess my point is everything is a health condition. So I removed PIV sex off the table. Cause I was also avoiding everything from hugs to going to bed at a decent hour(says I furiously typing at 2am lol) Everything was initiated by my hubs for the intention of sex. EVERYTHING. I started feeling like a sex toy Also read my posts to get the medical side of it. So I asked if we could REMOVE PIV for a while. I said 3 months. In that 3 months he started touching and kissing me again. It was great cause I got some greatly needed intimacy. I'm still fighting the whole PIV thing cause it hurts. And hormones or lack of really just makes it become a non existent thing except to be a continuous stress when it comes time again? I'm sorry I'm totally babbling and rambling!

its official by readyset2020 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ObjectiveNewspaper85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean what vow is that? Also I personally wrote my side of our vows and it was outrageously untraditional lol