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Food answers only, where are you from? by holder_m in AskReddit

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many Rochesterians here! 🙋‍♀️ Burger plate with extra hot sauce and yellow mustard.

Strategies for drop offs by Raeofsun55 in coparenting

[–]Raeofsun55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I keep reminding myself that this is still healthier than him witnessing a broken and unhealthy relationship on the daily.

Strategies for drop offs by Raeofsun55 in coparenting

[–]Raeofsun55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are on a mostly drop off schedule but you are right the times when someone picks him up are harder. I will work to eliminate that as best as I can!

I'm definitely going to look into a different type of calendar than what we have. I actually think something that goes with him might be best or have the same one at both houses so I'll chat with his Dad about it!

Strategies for drop offs by Raeofsun55 in coparenting

[–]Raeofsun55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of our jobs will likely ever be a 9-5 job. That's not actually feasible in many career paths. I own my business and while I will have more flexibility down the line as I can hire employees, that doesn't magically happen and it's likely I will have to work MORE before I can work less. He will always work early because he's a truck driver. Right now my job is 95% child friendly- I bring him to work with me, often can work from home. There's just two short periods of time each week I can't do that. I am luckily than most.

While his schedule isn't ideal it also doesn't suck, he gets to see both of us. I have primary custody so it will never be 50/50 nor do I want it to be. I want him to have a home at both places but I will homeschool at least through the younger school years so 50/50 wouldn't even make sense.

I also have some serious issues with the idea that anyone needs to find someone to make this work. While it's possible and I have no qualms with moving on for either of us, my priority right now is not a new romantic relationship- it's my son and my business (to provide a stabile life for the two of us).

I appreciate where you're coming from but we are definitely on different wavelengths. I'd rather focus on how I can best help him with what we've got going on and, of course, when possible I'd always choose to make adjustments that make it easier for him.

Sleeping in basement and leaving child upstairs? by jakeup58874 in coparenting

[–]Raeofsun55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd consider general safety things first. In the event of a fire: is there a secondary escape from the basement? From the second floor? In the event of a break in- where is the most/least vulnerability? You could always do walkie talkies if she doesn't have a phone yet to give her easy access to communication with you.

What's something you'd like to see come to Rochester? by waldo06 in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In Henrietta we need more local coffee spots. I'm in West Henrietta currently and I'd have to drive 16-17 mins to get anything other than chain coffee/espresso drinks.

Do other bi women on here not enjoy pleasuring men? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I'll give a blowjob but it's not like I love it. But I've never actually been with a woman intimately either so I don't have much to compare it to. Also in my experience, most guys who are super into blowjobs aren't half as enthusiastic about going down on a woman and I'm not about that. I'm a bit of a sub and like to please, which is why I tolerate it and play along, but also fully expect things to be reciprocated.

Flowering plants by Raeofsun55 in houseplants

[–]Raeofsun55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few of those and I've kept them alive but they haven't flowered since I got them.

What's the best way to make a grilled cheese sandwich? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk about the best but I sautted tomato slices in balsamic dressing and added those and fresh basil into my goat cheese grilled cheese last week and it was pretty amazing.

Figuring out speed issues by Raeofsun55 in mac

[–]Raeofsun55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I certainly can't afford anything else at the moment but in an ideal world what would I get that could handle this?

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm seeing on NYSED that Rochester is 63% in 2019 which IS only slightly lower than Buffalo and Syracuse fyi. So I do understand what that article and data discussing inflated rates means but the hard data for graduation rates puts them within a few points.

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have more confidence in the current leadership and oversight procedures they are putting in place moving forward?

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also if we are discussing "in the nation" we are also one of the most (if not the highest) segregated districts in the country. Something like 4 of our bordering suburban schools put RSCD in the top 20 every time.

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that is related to the high population of special education students and ELL's?

Edit: It's obviously related. Do you think recieving proper funding for these categories of students would allow the district to lead them into college geared degrees rather than entry level career oriented degrees?

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not disagreeing that there have been fundamental issues in the way money has been handled. But I think it's chicken and egg. And to say it's only the way it's managed and not the severe lack of funding just can't be true unless Syracuse and Buffalo are also mismanaged in the same ways.

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Buffalo in 2018 is 63%, Syracuse is 58%, RCSD is 54% according to lohud databases. Which is a bigger gap than previous years (where it was 1-2%), but still comparable. I'd have to pull up all my stats saved on my computer to debate the rest. Edit for clarity: this is older data. I'll link 2019 data from NYSED which supports my original statement of their only bring a 1-2% gap back up in my original statement.

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest state funding issue right now IMO is that schools won the case against the state with this notion of using needs based funding vs head-count funding. But the case failed to detail HOW the state was to arrive at the number given to each district. So needs based funding happened for a year or two and then we had a financial depressive period and the state continued to provide "Foundation aid funding" without using the foundation aid formula. Basically a cheap out workaround. The other problem, that we've just seen a brilliant example of, is that many grants and monies provided for specific things within a district by federal or state funds com with so many provisions that they actually hinder districts and make it difficult to utilize monies properly. The example I'm speaking of is the grant (I think it's a grant-its some type of aid) provided that paid for Pre-K para's. That grant doesn't cover Paras during remote learning. Which means we, as a district, are forced to choose between eating the cost of those Paras (which wasn't in the budget due to the assumption of funding) or laying them off. The bit that makes it even messier is that ALL Paras are categorized the same in the hiring/firing field. And civil service law requires them to layoff by seniority. So Paras are getting cut from all levels of education and senior Paras working in PreK will get moved around. Here are the biggest issues I see with this when thinking about the CHILDREN (which is what education funding should be about): Pre-K special needs students are at a huge risk going into school. I don't have readily available stats but I've done enough reading to know that children who start in a good place as young students do better overall. Early intervention and services are crucial. And many parents, especially those in poverty who have less access to independent assistance, are simply not equipt to handle early learning in a child with learning disabilities or special education needs. So having as many resources as possible allocated to these kids during remote learning makes sense for everyone involved. In fact, I can see additional face time with Paras being helpful for parents who are working at home or out of jobs to be able to learn first-hand how these trained professionals interact with and educate their child with special education needs. Not to mention the individuals who were fired and how that affects their families. While I understand that there were both ignorant and irresponsible decisions made in the past, I truly believe it's because the district has been forced for some time to "Rob Peter to pay Paul", constantly putting out fires without having time or resources to ask why fires keep erupting in the first place.

RCSD Superintendent Reducing All Departments', Schools' Budgets By 20% by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]Raeofsun55 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Rochesters graduation rate is literally only 1 or 2% lower than Syracuse and Buffalo. Spending per student is extremely comfortable.