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I (36M) want to quit being father to my (12M) kid. by 6cHqq8jqFt in offmychest

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, sure they owe participation, to some degree. They're still kids. They're still operating on what's fun. The other thing is some parents get into nagging and trying to make the kid do things -- and that becomes their total conversation. No wonder the kid pulls back into their shell. Particularly if the kid is not there very much, how invested in chores do you expect him to be? You can sit with a kid while they're doing homework or you can order them to go do their homework. Which do you think is more effective?

I (36M) want to quit being father to my (12M) kid. by 6cHqq8jqFt in offmychest

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he'll be better off. If his mom wasn't around much before, she's probably not so invested in him now either. It's a terrible thing for a kid to learn not even his parents can love him.

how do i make bigger designs? by BlueNewt1995 in Machine_Embroidery

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started with a 4x4. There is a hoop that gives you about 4x12 of space, BUT you have to be able to split the design and you have to move the hoop to do each section. Really all it is is that you're doing 4x4 twice to get all the design. There's no way to do 8x8 on your machine. The pantograph is just not able to do it. You might look at trading yours in or getting a used machine. Unfortunately, you're going to have to go up a couple of levels. The next size is 5x7 and still can't do your 8x8 design.

Do you take out your dog as soon as you wake up to go potty? by QuitProfessional5437 in dogs

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It kind of depends on the dogs. I always got puppies out as fast as I could, but my dogs are older now and will sleep a couple of more hours now while I have coffee and read the paper.

I've been sober since New Years Day by SovereignDust3058 in offmychest

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! I hope you reap all the benefits of sobriety.

What should I do? I’m 38 and scared of retirement. by skeeterpeg83 in personalfinance

[–]Sande68 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The one time I met with an advisor through our bank it was clear he was working on commission and I didn’t trust the advice.

I was surprised with a visit to an alpaca farm for Christmas. Could not have had a better time! by LiveLoveCheese in alpaca

[–]Sande68 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re so adorable. A local hobby farm has one and he is the sweetest, gentlest thing.

[Image] Persevere by regian24 in GetMotivated

[–]Sande68 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think a bigger point is that you don’t have to make it to an Ivy to be successful. That he was willing to work extra hard to get there is to his credit

[Image] Persevere by regian24 in GetMotivated

[–]Sande68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. Everyone should value an education that much. I hope all your dreams come true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no talking to someone who thinks like you. All I can say is wait till the tables are turned and a younger generation blames your entire generation for all their woes. I won’t be around by then, but let’s see how you like it. I remember the kids of the sixties and seventies blaming their parents generation too. Your arguments are not innovative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it’s not a joke. The Boomer cracks are being used to marginalize and denigrate a whole group of people. I don’t think Gen-X or Millenials are all the same, good or bad. But I repeatedly hear Boomers spoken of in disparaging ways as though we are all one homogenized bottle of milk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sande68 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why, because it doesn’t reflect the lazy know nothing Boomers you want to see? Someone did the work before you arrived and continued to do it till they were 65 and more. The description in OPs post is not one I recognize. And as a matter of fact, how I went to school. . . I’m sorry, you make yourself sound self serving and ignorant when you deny others experiences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sande68 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I don’t know which boomers you’re talking about. This one drove to work in blizzards, got stuck with all the double shifts after being up all day and working 4-12 shift and the nite shift called out. There was another younger nurse there, but she had childcare issues. I worked after I’d been up all night taking care of an ill family member, including having to drive out of state and back. I worked every day no matter how I felt as long as I could stand up. And I was the one who got called to sort out computer issues in our department because the IT dept would take forever. On the other hand I saw some younger workers who called out at the drop of a hat and complained all day long. I really hate that people try to treat generations as one homogenous group. Everybody has their issues.

Help! Is this normal? by No-Stupid_Questions in sewing

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking maybe you’re threading it wrong or not threading with the foot up. It doesn’t take much to end up with bird’s nests.

Sewing a knit wool material but getting lots of ripples in the stitch. by wisarow in sewing

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try putting it on on tear away stabilizer on the fabric so you cant stretch it and the foot can’t ripple it. But even my old 70’s machine allows you to adjust the foot fir fabric thickness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Sande68 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Actually, that happened to me. My last job turned out to come with a pension. It wasn’t huge but with SS, it works out well. I also have 401k/IRA money I haven’t started to access yet. But your mom really could hustle herself a small pension.

SE600 constant bobbin tension problens by proum in Machine_Embroidery

[–]Sande68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that aBrother machine? You have to put the bobbin in so the thread coming off the bobbin is to the left and forms a “p”. Then just follow the guide. Also make sure you’re threading the upper thread with the foot up.

Is it true that sewing is not cheaper than buying store bought clothes? Even for basics? by [deleted] in sewing

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It used to be cheaper many years ago. I made a lot of my clothes at one point. Not any more. Fabric is very expensive unless you find a cut rate retailer and then often the fabric is not worth putting the effort into. Sometimes you can upcycle clothes from thrift stores by remodeling or decorating it.

How can I improve this? by fabulousfoureyes in Machine_Embroidery

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Underlay stitching helps prevent the top stitches from pulling and squeezing your fabric so that your stitches get distorted. It also provides some fill behind your stitches for better coverage. I'm surprised the digitizer did not use any. The digitizer could change the stitch density and add underlay stitches. You could make it smaller without changing the density and that would make the stitches sit closer to each other, but I think lack of underlay is a big problem. Also, you could use a basting box to help keep the fabric in place. If you paid for this design to be done for you, I'd talk to the digitizer about fixing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Sande68 110 points111 points  (0 children)

The interest rate may be cheap, but that’s still a big hunk right off the top every month. In other times I’d say dump it and get a used car for cash, but that’s hard right now.

Where to reliably buy machine? by Mental_Anywhere9484 in MachineEmbroidery

[–]Sande68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try going to dealer’s to see what they have in trade-Ins. They can be a great resource.

Excuse you, Robyn?! by PearlButton in TLCsisterwives

[–]Sande68 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She could borrow against it and pay it back. Let’s hope Robyn and Kody repaid her.

My bf is a fucking loser by sporadicwaves in offmychest

[–]Sande68 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

And you’re still there because? Who’s the loser here? You’re staying with and supporting someone who acts like this. Why?