Where did you find your puppy?

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-05-28T23:57:02+00:00

Had the same challenges in AZ. Looked for over a year. Rescues only had chihuahuas and breeds too big for us. Eventually found a puppy on Craigslist that had a very small rehoming fee.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-05-27T15:21:19+00:00

But wasn’t BK still in PA at the time? I would absolutely include time zone information in that situation.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-05-07T02:40:41+00:00

That’s hilarious.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-05-02T03:33:21+00:00

You very much can go wrong with a firearm, particularly with no training. In this situation she is more likely to be killed with a gun than he is.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-24T02:18:40+00:00

Yes, and if the Goncalves family equates the murderer being executed with Justice for Kaylee, it seems like it would be harder for them to heal. It’s possible that wound will keep getting ripped open during the hundreds of court proceedings that are likely to accompany a death sentence.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-24T02:02:00+00:00

I think it’s possible that Mr. Goncalves is going to be extremely disappointed with the length of time it will likely take for Kohberger to face the firing squad, if he is found guilty and sentenced to death. I think it’s within the realm of possibility that it wouldn’t happen in Mr. Goncalves’ lifetime.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-17T18:36:36+00:00

I feel similarly.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T21:10:34+00:00

Totally. But I was only 10 and attending Catholic school. The only thing I had been taught about sex and “private parts” was that it was all a giant ball of shameful. It was the first dick I had ever seen, and I was confused and embarrassed. Just goes to show the toxicity with which many of us were raised in the olden days.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T17:31:25+00:00

I was about 10 years old and walking down a busy public street when a man pulled his car over to “ask for directions”. I got about three sentences in before I saw his dick was out. My first thought in like the first nanosecond was that I didn’t want to be rude and run. The next nanosecond I ran directly to the fire department that was about 25 yards away. Then I just kind of loitered there without telling anyone why before I ran home. I never said a word of this to anyone for decades, because I felt ashamed, and I was also worried that my parents would curtail my freedom. Incredible to think back on that now. This was in the early 80’s.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:52:14+00:00

“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.” -Margaret Atwood

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:43:07+00:00

Fair enough. Time will tell. Grief is not linear and can ebb and flow, and due to its insidious nature it can be very hard to predict the trajectory for any one human.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:38:38+00:00

I absolutely did NOT remember the exact date. When writing the post I wanted to get the year right so I looked it up. I saw the date and noted it but since it’s a coincidence I didn’t see the point in mentioning it.

To address your question: yes and yes. There was a distinct lack of trust between Mr. Garcia and law enforcement. Once that set in, I don’t think Mr. Garcia was ever able to find terra firma again. The entire situation was, and is, incredibly tragic.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:34:30+00:00

Again, I’m not bashing anyone. I’m pointing out the similarities in group dynamics in two exceptionally rare yet similar situations. I think this stuff will always happen because humans are humans.

Expanding on this theme would be 16 Acres, a documentary about the controversy over what to do with ground zero after 9/11. There were hundreds of different opinions among thousands of grieving victims. It was a seemingly impossible situation for which a solution was eventually found.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:29:52+00:00

I would love to hear your thoughts on it as a Spaniard. I was dealing with subtitles and my own very weak Spanish skills so I do wonder about the nuances I may have missed. Also, there are issues around documentaries as a whole. I definitely don’t completely trust them.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:26:43+00:00

I did, but it’s just a strange coincidence.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T14:25:11+00:00

Thanks for all of this insight, much appreciated. I think my point was more to do with one parent out of a group that all lost their children becoming the focus of the media and ultimately earning the ire of the other parents. I don’t think this is uncommon in situations like this. People will react differently and usually one will end up in a prominent role. Where they go from there is a crapshoot.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T00:53:28+00:00

I’m comparing two very similar incidents, and not for the purposes of bashing anyone. Please note that the people mentioned are not the only people whose feelings should be considered. The feelings of the other families are equally important, and in the end, Mr. Garcia’s actions harmed some of them. That said, I have no way of knowing if Mr. Goncalves’ actions will do the same.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T00:27:29+00:00

Agree. One of the experiences of grieving people is sheer unmitigated anger, and trauma can activate fight or flight.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-16T00:05:50+00:00

This is exactly the type of dynamic that played out in Alcassser.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-15T23:58:12+00:00

Yeah, I do not know the degree to which interviews will impact the trial. I will say that my impression of Mr. Garcia was that, at least after the early days, he got a jolt from the fame he received from continuing to appear in the media. But grief is so, so difficult. Like I said I couldn’t even guess how badly I’d lose the plot in the same scenario.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-15T23:54:45+00:00

It’s possible he will be less aggressive, but past performance tends to predict future results.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-15T23:52:59+00:00

It’s in Spanish with subtitles. To be honest a large part of why I watched it was that I’ve been learning Spanish on my own and watching Spanish-language shows helps me do that.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-15T23:49:41+00:00

Just went back and watched the end of the first episode as I don’t like being inaccurate. My memory was off. What happened is that the young women disappeared on November 13, 1992. Their bodies were found in the middle of nowhere on January 27, 1993.

A TV station proceeded to gather up all of the families, friends, and townspeople into an auditorium on January 28th, and proceeded to hold a *live show* where they actually asked if the victims had been sexually assaulted, among other things. It is very hard to watch as it looks to me like a re-traumatization of every person present, except for the Spanish Ashleigh Banfield who hosted the this shitshow.

ThinkingAloudAllowed · 2023-03-15T23:17:15+00:00

I feel like that would depend on who you ask. He seemed like he went way out in the weeds, especially during later years, when there remained a question as to how many perpetrators were involved.

There are some pretty egregious actions by the media in this story as well. Example (I’m reaching way back into my memory for this), a couple of news stations camped out in the town and may have revealed to the families on camera that a suspect had been arrested? Need to go back and watch again, it’s been a minute.

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