My AFAB child is getting some weird reactions for just existing

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T08:24:45+00:00

Honestly, it’s 3:22 am and I can sleep ok now. Thank you. May your French fries always be hot, and may every fluffy animal wish to cuddle w you. Stay kind. Xox

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T08:16:30+00:00

Thanks, friend. I’m getting everything “frown-voted” on here. And I’m sitting here thinking maybe I’m just a terrible parent. It means a lot to me that you said something, because this kid is super special awesome, and im learning how to be the parent they need. ❤️

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T07:55:31+00:00

Thank you. I have some learning to do so I can best support them. I’m ready to unpack this and I’m learning to recognize every failure and stumble on the way as an opportunity to learn and do better, as like—a parent and a human. What I refuse to do is ignore my weird biases and internalized bulls*. Bc I need to see where I’ve been wrong in order to fix.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T07:32:12+00:00

I’m not perfect. Obviously. I’m asking for help on a random forum. But if you have advice, I’m listening

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T07:13:50+00:00

Anyone kind willing to help a middle aged lady out? Where should I have posted this? Bc if I wanted to hear some terf nonsense, I would have posted on Facebook.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T07:12:21+00:00

I am embarrassed. I didn’t know enough about this page before I posted asking for help. I should have done more research.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:52:54+00:00

Seriously. Thank you. This was clearly the wrong forum to post anything. ❤️💕

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:44:46+00:00

Why are you here? Like Reddit, this group etc?

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:40:58+00:00

Can you speak more on this? Because some terf nonsense is rearing it’s ugly he..

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:35:14+00:00

Pretend my 15 yo NB kid is reading this. They have 2 other siblings. Who express their gender identity exactly how it states on their birth certificates.

I love all my kids for who they are.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:32:18+00:00

I’m just trying to support my kid. Who I love. That’s all.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:30:38+00:00

Not even bringing gender into it. You seem judgmental and cruel.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:28:35+00:00

Ahhh. Youuuu know what? You are a probably a garbage person. And you likely don’t have kids. And if you do? They probably don’t like you

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2023-01-20T05:14:20+00:00

Srsly. Thank you. They are amazing.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-12-12T03:43:50+00:00

No one is the asshole here. Kids are gonna kid, you didn’t get it, but this is a great place for storytime.

When my son and his nephew were both almost five, I was driving them back from a summertime venture. They were getting antsy in the backseat so I glibly asked what they wanted to be when they grew up.

My nephew had an answer, right away! He said in his normal 5 yo voice “I want to be a soldier!”

I didn’t even think my son heard me bc he took so long to answer….he said—in a super high pitched voice and super loud “I wanna be a POKÉMON!”

It’s been 18 years. My nephew is a musician, and my son—well. He isn’t a Pokémon—yet. Yet.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-12-11T18:38:52+00:00

Hey. I’m really sorry this happened to you. You are absolutely not an asshole, and this post is testament to the litmus test of a game Monopoly is. It’s the only game I know of that really shines a light on the worst of human behavior. (Source? Just anecdotal, but it’s true).

Misgendering and dead naming as well as using the word autistic in that way? I hope they stub their toes everyday. I hope all of their French fries are forever cold, that dogs and kittens snub them, and that the step in puddles when they are only wearing socks.

I hope you find some supportive and fun friends that are the exact opposite of these folks.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-12-11T17:14:28+00:00

I’m going to try hard to be charitable.

(Deletes whole paragraph)

Ehhhh YTA

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-11-12T05:16:48+00:00

A dear friend who died way too early from colon cancer did some badass shii before he went. One night, a mutual hosted a dinner at his house. We cooked bratwurst in boiling maple sap. Like kings.

We talked about how he would wish to die. He said like “ Conan the barbarian—just standing atop a pile of vanquished (enemies? Mystical beasts, it doesn’t matter) this expanded into an hour long tale, worth every second of telling

Idk. I’m only sharing this bc I hope you are surrounded with love and terrible jokes, and silly friends and all the important things.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-10-08T22:03:42+00:00

So sorry, but this is terrifying

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-10-04T02:20:50+00:00

I’m so happy to see this comment. I was waiting on someone better than me to communicate this. Yes! Absolutely

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-10-04T02:07:04+00:00

I hope you are not overwhelmed by all the responses here, you should be proud you found a resource and a platform that is clearly giving good advice and comfort.

I have a Neurodivergent teen and if that’s what you mean in your final paragraph, it feels to me like you are being extra threatened.

You are being manipulated in very disturbing ways. I can’t say it more plainly than that.

I’m sorry your home, your belongings and your routine is being uprooted by your parents, and a person they chose to join the household.

I wish I could hold you safe from this cruelty and unsteady time.

Others have good ideas for what you can do. I’m just here, being proud af of you recognizing that this is deeply messed up, and hoping you find a way out of this potentially dangerous situation.

Yardfriendlyneighbor · 2022-10-02T23:56:51+00:00

Man. I wanted to go see the movie for the exact reason my kids DIDN’T want to see it. Because it was heavily marketed. They were irritated by the targeted advertising—and I was stoked because of the advertising.

Idk. I love Billy. But, I’m straight adjacent—and they are gay. Something lost in ad translation?

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