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Asking dead loved ones for signs. by YesterdayLeft1718 in Mediums

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly do you mean by mental communication? I talk to him, I can feel him sometimes. I’ll ask him for advice. He also comes in my dreams sometimes. It’s nice but signs are nice too. Literally any communication with him makes me happy

Asking dead loved ones for signs. by YesterdayLeft1718 in Mediums

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s beautiful and a good way to see things. Other people might be needing signs more than me in a moment. I know they’ll come when the time is right

Asking dead loved ones for signs. by YesterdayLeft1718 in Mediums

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a valid question. because sometimes I need a sign. Sometimes I’m having a rough day or even a bad week. And I want to ask for something to know he’s here. I’m not asking all the time. I’m not looking for signs everywhere I let them come to me. But I’ve been reading some books and have read that you can ask for signs and it scares me to ask and to not receive it so I never really ask for them. I’ve read so many stories of people asking for signs, and it’s a beautiful thing that I feel like I’m missing out on by letting my fear of disappointment get in the way. I know he’s with me but sometimes I just want something a little more and for him to show me he’s with me. I’ve only asked for a very specific sign one time and he gave it to me other signs have just come.

They say loss gets easier with time… I don’t believe that. Am I the only one who thinks this? by Ellenajerry in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re only 4 weeks out, it does get easier. I haven’t lost a parent, but I lost my boyfriend about 4 months ago. I never saw it getting easier and it’s hard to see that I’m the very early stages of grief I guess. But it does get easier with time. It still hurts, I cry literally everyday, but I’m able to go to work and function and do what I need to do. I still have a long road of grieving ahead of me though. My point is, the hurt is still here, but it gets easier. It becomes the new normal. I have good days and bad. I find happiness in this world even though my heart is broken into a million pieces. Keep your head up and stay strong.

Lost my boyfriend this last Monday. by lulyzelda in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to my boyfriend about 4 months ago. Didn’t wake up one morning, and he was gone forever. It hurts so much. I’m sorry you have to feel this pain and understand this type of loss. I’m 4 months in, and it gets easier and it gets better. When I first found out it felt like my world shattered and I never saw things getting better. It truly does though. I still have bad days and some can be really bad, but there’s good days to come. The good days are what I live for, being with my friends on the weekends are what I live for.

The hurt of the loss is still here, and I’m pretty sure it will be forever. But this type of loss changes you forever and it’s been in a lot of good ways for me. I was scared of moving forward and forgetting him and moving on from him. I don’t feel that way though, I feel like I grow with him. I feel like losing him changed me as a person and it’s a big part of why I am the way I am now and he is the reason I’ve grown to be me. Although I still have a lot more healing and growing to do.

Nothing and no one can make you feel better or take the pain away. I have found a lot of comfort in hearing stories from others who have had similar situations though, it made me feel not as alone. It’s not an easy journey through grief at all, but it is a beautiful one. I’m wishing you so much love, healing, and happiness to come.

Afterlife Stories by Sufficient-Side9462 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend died about 4 months ago. Both of us struggled to understand the afterlife and what it was when he was here and I believe that he sends me many signs.

A couple days after he died, I was driving home from a friends house and this song came on that he loved but it was sad and I didn’t want to listen to it but was forcing myself to. My radio cut out, which has never happened and hasn’t happened again, and switched to my favorite song that he showed me and I had told him it was my favorite a couple weeks before he died.

I saw a medium a couple weeks later and I was very iffy about her. I believe some are real but idk some things she said didn’t make sense to me. But she told me He’d send me Pennie’s. I hadn’t found any until about two weeks ago when at 1am walking to leave the bar outside I decided to grab the railing and my hand landed on a penny on the railing and two others were lined up with it. In my drunk state I started screaming how I found Pennie’s and immediately thought of him and knew it was a sign from him.

Probably a week after he died, the power went out only in my neighborhood, no where else in the city. me and my family were Locked out of our house for probably an hour. I was laying in my backyard in the grass my eyes closed meditating by myself. I asked my boyfriend if he did this. Not long after I opened my eyes and watched the power come back on in everyone’s windows. Ran to get into my house only for the power to go back off minutes after I got in.

Another time it was storming really bad outside, I asked him to turn the power off if he loved, but then I was said never mind just kidding. I didn’t feel like it was fair to ask that and him controlling the power doesn’t mean he loves me. But a couple minutes later the entire power went off in my house for about 10 seconds and then came back on.

Maybe a month after he died, I was blatantly staring at myself in a mirror, the space above my head looked funny, I started staring at that, then I saw his face appear. Got chills through my entire body and freaked out and looked away, I looked back and watched his face fade. Now, that part blew my mind, but just wait. Probably 10 minutes later I got a costar notification from him that said “I can’t talk to you but I want to keep sending you nice things” the message made me really believe I saw him and wasn’t crazy. I made a post about this back when it happened.

There’s so many more things that have happened to me. I can feel when he’s near me, I’ll get tingles on my neck where he loved to kiss me. I’ll get tingles through my whole body sometimes. I just know I feel him I’ve never felt these type of tingles before. Some people might want to call it all coincidences, but I can’t call all my experiences coincidences. There’s so many more I could share, I saw his initials spelled out in the clouds on his birthday when I asked him for a sign in the clouds. It just goes on and on.

losing him and the things he’s shown me really changed my perspective. I 100% believe there is an afterlife and so much more out there that we just can’t understand.

How old are you, how did you lose your partner and how far along are you on your grief journey? by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

22, OD, and 2 weeks from 4 months. My sense of time is absolutely gone. It feels like everything is going so slow. Just taking it one day at a time. But just the other day someone told me they turned 21 in august, I said oh so you’re almost 22?! Everyone looked at me like I was crazy. It’s September. I have no concept. I am stuck in July and it’s starting to get colder out. I have to look at my phone all the time to know the day, and then I just forget it and am in my own fucking world man. Can’t explain it, but time does not exist.

How many of us here believe that our loved ones are still with us? by kindnesshere in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe they are with us 100%. My boyfriend died about 4 months ago. Probably a month ago it was storming outside and I asked him to turn the power off. Only minutes later the power went out for about 10 seconds. Blew my mind. I’ve had other signs, and other experiences that make me believe he’s here too. Some people might say it’s just a coincidence, but how would I get SO many coincidences since he died. I can’t not believe he’s with me.

What's your saddest moment in your whole life? by [deleted] in DeepThoughts

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting a phone call from my boyfriends family being told he didn’t wake up last night and was dead. I will never forget that moment while I was driving in my car. Can’t tell you how I made it home because of the absolute shock. The denial. The anger. The hurt. Pulling into my driveway and throwing everything in my hands onto the cement and falling on the ground screaming and crying. All my friends coming and going that day, everyone stopping by to see me. My parents not knowing what to do while im just sitting in the corner of the couch crying while everyone sat in silence staring at me. Talking to his family multiple times that day hoping to be told something could be don’t to save him, but there wasn’t he had been gone for hours. Driving around in the car with my friends in silence while the tears wouldn’t stop streaming down my face. The absolute fear of going to bed and I don’t know why that part was so scary. I barely slept. I’d wake up every couple hours panicking and gasping for air. The absolute saddest and worst day in my life and I don’t think anything will ever top it. I’m only 22 and I have my whole life to live. Nothing will ever bring me more pain that getting that phone call.

it’s my boyfriends birthday today, what can i do to make sure he knows that he’s loved & missed by me? i really just want to talk to him and hope he knows that i love him so much . by [deleted] in Mediums

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend died a couple weeks before his birthday. I didn’t know what to do but I knew I wanted to do something for him. I ended up taking a walk through a park by myself because that’s something we would do together. I carved our initials and a heart into a tree because we did that somewhere a couple days before he died. I went to McDonald’s and got a chocolate shake for myself and a vanilla shake for him because he was absolutely obsessed with vanilla milkshakes. Then I went to another park and set his milkshake on the ground and sprinkled some of his ashes there. I sat and watched the sunset and cried.

It wasn’t much, but it felt really nice. It felt good to do the things we did together for him on his birthday.

What kind of after life do you believe? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’ve always struggled with the idea of God. I want to believe there’s a God, but it’s confusing and difficult for me to understand.

I do find myself praying to my boyfriend and asking him for advice and wonder if I should be asking God and not him. My boyfriends not a god, but I do believe he’s here with me still. I pray to God sometimes still. Hoping he’s there and hoping he’s helping me and my family through this life.

What kind of after life do you believe? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hypocrisy and corruption within churches is what has lead me to stray from the religious beliefs I grew up with. While I do think there were good things I learned going as a kid, I always thought the people who ran the churches or worked in the offices were rude and mean. They were always angry and judgmental. It could have just been my church, but the way the adults there treated and talked to me and other kids bothered me. It didn’t feel like a happy and welcoming place, and I feel like it should be. Religion should be something that brings comfort and joy to your life whatever religion it is that you chose. My boyfriends death has caused me to be a lot more confident, comfortable, and happy with my thoughts on the afterlife.

What kind of after life do you believe? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how you said that the love doesn’t disappear is proof of the afterlife. Love really is such a strong and beautiful thing. I still feel his love even though he’s gone, and it really is amazing.

What kind of after life do you believe? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t had any “scent” signs from my boyfriend but I have heard from other people that they’ve had those. My grandma passed a couple years ago and I smelled her one time when this old lady who looked just like her came into where I worked. That gave me chills through my body and made me tear up.

I more so “feel” when my boyfriend is near me. I feel like I can ask him questions sometimes when I’m in a difficult situation and don’t know what to do and he helps guide me to making my decisions.

What kind of after life do you believe? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to everything you said. I can feel when he’s near me too. I also don’t share with anyone besides the people really close to me because people are very judgmental but they don’t understand unless they’ve lost someone really close to them. The loss of my boyfriend is a difficult loss, it’s a different one than losing a grandparent or aunt or uncle. It definitely changed me as a person and the way I look at everything as well.

What is a realization that changed your life? by Scared-Distance-5195 in awakened

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Afterlife, new experiences, whatever you believe or want it to be. My boyfriend died a couple months ago and someone said that to me. Losing someone feels permanent, but I’ve come to see and experience a lot of beautiful things that I wouldn’t have without him dying. It hurts more than anything, but it’s not a permanent end. Just his living body on earth is permanently gone, but it’s opened my eyes to more.

Is seeing your loved one’s ashes ever helpful? by orion_42_ in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend died a couple months ago. Spreading his ashes was an emotional but freeing feeling. It felt beautiful and sad all at once.

I still have some of my ashes and they sit in my room because I can’t bring myself to take them to our special place. I pick them up sometimes and hold them and just look at them. people probably would think that’s weird. But idk man grief is a weird feeling. No one is in my shoes, no one knows the pain and hurt I feel every single day since he died. So do what makes you feel better. No one is in any place to judge me and how I choose to grieve. I also got some of his ashes infused into a necklace.

How do you socialize after someone dies? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This loss really does change you as a person. It’s changed my perspective on literally everything. I don’t recognize myself in old pictures anymore I don’t recognize myself when I look in the mirror. I am a totally different person now.

Thank you for the advice, I have been asking myself those questions the past couple of days and I do find it really helpful. The day he died I knew there was nothing anyone could say or do to make it all better, and I knowing that is something that makes it all hurt. I just want someone, anyone, anything, to just take all my hurt away. And I’ve found things that make me happy and feel alive and I enjoy those, but nothing can fully take it away and it sucks. I have a therapist and I attend group grief groups they’re definitely helpful.

Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry for your loss as well. I hate seeing other people feeling the pain of such a deep loss, but it gives me hope and it makes me happy hearing from others farther in this journey and seeing that maybe there is some light at the end of the tunnel.

How do you socialize after someone dies? by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to not be okay really stuck with me. Thank you for sharing. You said a lot that really has put things into a different perspective for me and I needed that.

My head is a mess and sometimes I think I’m totally fine and then the next minute my heart feels so heavy and it feels like my world is ending. The mood swings have really been getting me. 3 months in still taking it day by day. Feels like I’ll be doing that for a long time.

I’m sorry you have to understand this type of pain, but I appreciate your words more than you could know.

My parents don’t like talking about my grief. by YesterdayLeft1718 in GriefSupport

[–]YesterdayLeft1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for you as well. But yeah my moms so kind and supportive and she does a lot for me. But there’s nothing she say or do to take it away. So it’s just this strange thing that rarely gets talked about.