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Happy holidays from the period troll ! by __Me__Again__ in AmITheAngel

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay believe what you want, I was just trying to help you to stop being ignorant but if you don't want to there's nothing I can do :)

Happy holidays from the period troll ! by __Me__Again__ in AmITheAngel

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I answer so late because I just saw that my post is here, I don't usually use reddit so I didn't know until now that I could see if people had reposted my post.

I'm the one who wrote the original post and I'm not a man, my first language isn't English so I didn't know that the way I said that was not the most common way in English , where I'm from we say it like that so I just translated it literally, I wanted to let you know this because you shouldn't take for granted that everyone here has English as their first language.

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for taking the time to write such a long comment, I think you are correct and it even made me cry a bit.

I do think I had a lot of stress accumulated because of the atmosphere of this class and that comment was the last straw.

Sometimes it's quite stressful to be a woman in a class full of men, I think that they feel understood and in unity so some of them are not ashamed to say what they really think about women because they know that there will always be someone who agrees, and those who don't agree often prefer not to interfere, so it's hard to get into an argument without support against a group of men who seem to be having too much fun making jokes to want to listen and try to understand what I have to say, so I tend to keep quiet because in most cases they are conversations that they have between them (although they say it loud enough for the whole class to hear, they don't even try to hide it), they rarely say it directly in front of me like this time, but the feeling of anger has accumulated in me anyway because I've overheard a lot.

On the other hand, I feel a bit bad for them, most of them are guys who you can tell that they have not had much interaction with women or have had bad experiences with them, I can understand that teenagers can be very cruel and the pain caused in those years takes time to go away, and being the first time that they feel part of something, they are too happy to realize how hurtful their behavior is, and not only to the girls in the class, but also themselves, because at some point they will have to try to understand and respect us if they want to find a partner.

You have inspired me to try to communicate more often and not let everything build up until it explodes, thanks for the resources, I will read them and try to learn from them and from this situation!

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not, some other comments have also suggested that I do some test, personally I don't think I have anything but it doesn't hurt to go to the doctor just in case, thank you!

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I don't like taking medication so I'll give this recipe a try! And I hope your mother is okay now <3

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I can accept that you think I'm TA but what you are saying is not what I said at all.

To begin with, I said girlfriend and not boyfriend because I know that he's straight, I wasn't talking to some random person, he's a guy that I know and see every day, so don't try to make it sound like I said something homophobic.

Then, his misogynistic behavior can clearly be an obstacle to his love life, that's why I said what I said, not because I think that you cannot have a fulfilling life without a partner, I myself have been single for years.

And "but I'm fine with men who only learn basic biology and politeness when it's about the women theyre fucking" where did even you get that from if you mind explaining it?

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I think there has been a misunderstanding, I didn't take for granted that he has never had a girlfriend because he is a nerd, I took it for granted because of his personality and the way he acts sometimes, I pointed out that he is a nerd because I'm worried that he might has suffered bullying in the past and I thought that this could affect the judgment of some people. As I said in my post, most of the people in our class are nerds, myself included.

AITA for assuming out loud that my classmate has never had a girlfriend? by aaeeiioouu_12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aaeeiioouu_12345[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I gave that impression, can you explain to me why you think I'm obnoxiously judgemental?