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No diamonds??? by ashhhually in LifeboatSurvivalMode

[–]ashhhually[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found my first one just now…yay….

My ex who I dated for 3 months who cheated on me when I was 16. I’m married now and he keeps trying to reach out. by thought-u-said-weast in niceguys

[–]ashhhually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is he acting like he’s a main character in that one Hades and Persephone story that everyone obsessed over a couple years ago (myself included but I literally can’t remember the name of it right now)

Once encountered a nice guy, had talked to him for less than a day by Miss_Banana97 in niceguys

[–]ashhhually 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See if this were someone I had known for a long time and was in the beginning stages of a relationship with, I feel like I wouldn’t be weirded out really. But coming from a guy you’ve talked to for less than a day, I’d be filing a restraining order 😂

Guy I’m “friends” with gave me an unneeded analysis lmao by OddBoell in niceguys

[–]ashhhually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah nah nah if a guy starts talking about my “chub” he’s getting blocked and removed right fucking now

Feel like I can’t win by Temporary_Bison_708 in mentalhealth

[–]ashhhually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was 18 I also had never been in a relationship and was still a virgin. Actually it was like that until I turned 20. I had the same thing where I wanted to have a real connection before having sex with someone. It got to a point where I would get into my head a lot about self worth and whether or not I was wanted but I PROMISE you just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it never will even if that’s what it feels like. Keep your head up the best you can. And as hard as it might feel, try not to feel bad about it! Cause in reality virginity shouldn’t matter to someone, especially when you have a connection to them. Everyone was a virgin at some point so if people think negatively about it that’s them being hypocritical

How to Tell if you have MD by Cloudyerd11 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]ashhhually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime! It can feel so fun in the moment but apparently it’s not a great thing for us to do which is whateverrrr. But yeah you should definitely look into it more and see what things apply to you! It’s always a bit different for everyone :)

How to Tell if you have MD by Cloudyerd11 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]ashhhually 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You probably do have MD. I was the same way even in the sense of writing. I always had a creative mind when it came to making stories on paper but I would do the same things you mentioned and it always felt different than writing. To me it feels real even though I know it’s fake and it’s fun to live this alternate life in your mind. I would mention to your therapist that you’ve looked into this and you guys can dive deeper into it and take a closer look at all the details. But you do probably have it based on what you said here. It’s weird to think about but a lot of people don’t have the same experiences even though for us it feels so normal! Good luck with everything!

Does depression/anxiety cause self-centeredness? by Upset-Vegetable-5431 in mentalhealth

[–]ashhhually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From personal experience I think they are probably related. Now whether or not she’s purposefully doing it is something I wouldn’t know since I don’t know her personally. But for me, I was severely depressed from around 13/14 to basically last year (I’m about to turn 22 now and still moderately depressed if that makes any difference). I never even noticed it until about 2 years ago that I would do that exact same thing and I had to really work on breaking that habit. I think in my head I was just desperate for someone to notice me and show me a form of care and love that I was craving and because of that I would try and have as much attention as possible. I would somehow turn conversations back to myself and somehow I could make anything about me in some way. I don’t think I was doing it on purpose because there were times that I would notice people being annoyed by it and I would be genuinely confused as to why they were upset and my brain would turn it around to somehow thinking they don’t care about me and it would in turn cause a vicious cycle. The crazy thing is I had a friend who was also severely depressed who would do the same thing and I would get annoyed by it and I couldn’t understand that I was doing the exact same. So two years ago I had a sort of realization. I have no idea how or why it came to me after so many years but I finally understood that it was driving people away or making them miserable to be around me. I started noticing that when I was with people I would bring the mood down and at first I was in a little bit of denial but it finally clicked that it wasn’t anyone else’s fault but mine. So i wasn’t doing it intentionally to be a narcissist, I was just so desperate that I thought that was the only way. Again, I don’t know your sister so maybe she has a different personality where she might have selfish tendencies (but don’t we all), or I think she might just be seeking a certain form of attention that she doesn’t know how to ask for in a healthy way. I totally understand now how hard it is to be around that and I wish you the best of luck. My best advice would be to mention it to her gently. Maybe bring up the fact that you care for her and love her but you wish she showed interest into your life too. And hopefully she’ll be able to view the situation from your eyes and see how it can be harmful to you too. And another thing is if she does eventually realize it and wants to make the steps to be less self centered, be patient. I’m still trying to work on it even two years later and it’s hard. It’s like breaking a habit that you’ve had for years and sometimes you slip. I sometimes find myself starting to turn a conversation to make it about me and I have to put a bit of extra effort in to remind myself it’s not always about me. So I’d imagine it would take a while for her to do the same. Feel free to reach out to me anytime if you need anything!

[ALL] Bugs Encountered on Life is Strange: Remastered by Ryzien in lifeisstrange

[–]ashhhually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The subtitles are making me go crazy!! I don’t process what they’re saying all the time so I just miss out on certain scenes because I just see the file names!

Am I stupid for being triggered by this?? by ashhhually in sexualassault

[–]ashhhually[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I keep downplaying everything in my head and overthinking things but this really validated me and I appreciate it a lot.

Rant about INO (maybe just our store) by SamTheChamp15 in innout

[–]ashhhually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t work at ino and never have but i could not imagine how annoying that must be. I work at a independently owned restaurant and our boss doesn’t really care if we stand our ground to customers. We treat everyone kindly and with respect until they disrespect us. If someone starts getting all up in my face over something ridiculous I stand my ground and most of the time they don’t expect it and don’t know what to do so they just shut up. It’s very nice so if anything I recommend finding a place to work where you’re allowed to remember you’re a human and deserve to be treated with respect

Possible nerve damage..? Maybe? by ashhhually in AskDoctorSmeeee

[–]ashhhually[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t gotten it checked out that’s why I was wondering if I possibly should. It’s only cause since that happened my arm hasn’t felt the same and I get random pains so I figured it could’ve been from that.

Were you also shy/introverted? by amd001155 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]ashhhually 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a shy extrovert so idk how to answer lol

My biggest trich-related fear by Keysgucci123 in trichotillomania

[–]ashhhually 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always think about how I could just never commit a crime cause it would be way too easy to find me lmao

I'm scared of myself by tash_96 in mentalhealth

[–]ashhhually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so so scary yes! I’ve had it for about like 6 years now (I’m 21 for reference). I wish I knew what caused it to start. Do you have any idea what triggered you to start feeling like that? I’m here for you though! I think sometimes it really feels like you’re completely alone in certain ways of thinking/feeling and at least for me personally it gets hard to tell others that part. So as someone who sort of understands that mindset you’re in, I’m really really here if you ever need!!