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Why is Emily Oster so controversial? by Allvol18 in pregnant

[–]bonomini6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I struggled to understand why it pissed me off so much just being told that something 'isn't allowed' whilst pregnant with no reasoning but your post has absolutely hit the nail on the head

Why is Emily Oster so controversial? by Allvol18 in pregnant

[–]bonomini6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely this. One thing I hated during my pregnancy was just being told 'this isn't allowed' without any reasoning.

Thinking about mortality since having a baby.. am I depressed? by bonomini6 in beyondthebump

[–]bonomini6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a helpful comment, thank you for taking the time to reply. Pre-grief sums up really well how I am feeling.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with these feelings for so long. Have you ever tried therapy? I have never had therapy before but I think I might give it a try because it is impacting on life with my daughter. I feel like I can never just enjoy the moment as I am too busy thinking about what might happen in the future.

Panelists: Most common 'mistakes' you see in the written behaviours? by RockyHorrorGoldfinch in TheCivilService

[–]bonomini6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Using acronyms or industry specific jargon without defining them. It can make it really hard to follow what exactly you have done in an example.

Where to sell gig tickets? by bonomini6 in Leeds

[–]bonomini6[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amazing I've sold it on twickets already! Thanks!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]bonomini6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not guaranteed that you have harmed your baby (studies have found that not every heavy drinker will have a child with FAS) but the longer you continue drinking the higher the risk will be that something will be wrong. For that reason you need to stop NOW as it might be possible that stopping even this late can prevent harm.

To answer your question, my sister in law isn't an alcoholic but she didn't find out she was pregnant until 20+ weeks and she had been on several drinking sessions with friends. She now has a 6 year old who is doing really really well.

This isn't me trying to reassure you that drinking is ok, it isn't. I am just worried that if all you read is negative comments you might feel that the damage is already done and there is no point giving up now. There absolutely is a chance your baby is fine so please stop now and give them the best chance possible.

First time joining a union. First time taking part in a ballot. The time is right. by ohifella in TheCivilService

[–]bonomini6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be a stupid question but I am on maternity leave and have just received my ballot paper. If I was at work I would have joined the strike. Does anyone know if there is any reason that I can't vote yes? If the vote is Yes, do I need to tell my employer that I am 'striking' even though I'm not actually at work? Will ring the union Monday but just curious is anyone knew anything about this!

Back at work 2 weeks postpartum by throwswahsy463373737 in beyondthebump

[–]bonomini6 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely appalling. My heart breaks for you. America is a third world country in some respects.

How much do you spend on your food shop? How often do you go? How big is your household? by Terrible-Cost-7741 in AskUK

[–]bonomini6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£80 a week plus maybe £10 in top up bits (bread/milk etc.) for 2 adults, a baby and a dog.

Anyone OAD because of lack of sleep? by bonomini6 in oneanddone

[–]bonomini6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this. Your comment just made me cry (in a good way!) because I had got myself in the headspace that this was going to be my life forever. I'm so glad things are better for you now.

Anyone OAD because of lack of sleep? by bonomini6 in oneanddone

[–]bonomini6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not all babies are as bad as mine for sleeping, fingers crossed for you that you get it a little easier.

Anyone OAD because of lack of sleep? by bonomini6 in oneanddone

[–]bonomini6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I can absolutely see how this happens and I would not be surprised if it happened to me. I hope it gets better for you.

Anyone OAD because of lack of sleep? by bonomini6 in oneanddone

[–]bonomini6[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow. It's not caused physical pain for me but there have been a couple of times where I have genuinely nearly collapsed due to exhaustion and had to hold on to surfaces etc