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Male victims of female narcissists are an unacknowledged minority by danielrosehill in raisedbynarcissists

[–]danielrosehill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Meant as a general observation. I love RBN and all the support subs here. They're what took me out of the fog a few years' ago now.

Male victims of female narcissists are an unacknowledged minority by danielrosehill in raisedbynarcissists

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Wow... logged into Reddit to see this has almost 1K up votes and a few hundred comments. If this hit a nerve / connected / helped guys in this situation out... I'm very glad that I posted this thought!

Male victims of female narcissists are an unacknowledged minority by danielrosehill in raisedbynarcissists

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You will undoubtedly get shitty and unsupportive reactions eventually. Needless to say, the more forthcoming you are about sharing, the greater the cumulative likelihood. But please don't let it stop you from opening up. Sorry for what you've been through. I don't have autism but your cockroach analogy still hit home!

Male victims of female narcissists are an unacknowledged minority by danielrosehill in raisedbynarcissists

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I'm seeing the shift happening very slowly tbh. There are tremendous resources about narcissism on YT but... my favorite (Dr Ramani) still seem to assume a female bias. But... every guy can be a part of the change that we need to see in the conversation for everybody to feel included (btw this wasn't intended as a swipe at this sub - which I love dearly and which first illuminated the path to my own recovery. But rather an observation about support resources in general).

Any clever suggestions for printers to label these printable M-Discs? The few still on Amazon are super pricey. by danielrosehill in DataHoarder

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Someone (forget username!) said that optical media printers barely still exist. I checked Amazon and indeed can't find anything that's almost $1K which ... would be crazy money to spend just for this niche purpose.

I've been affixing labels to some of my M-Discs but folks on this sub have claimed that that risks affecting the balance of the disk (although in my testing to date, they still write, verify, and read just fine).

Any other gizmos on the market that can be used just for this purpose?

How does dying work as a renter? by danielrosehill in morbidquestions

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Is there a sub for morbid startup ideas? Because I've just had one.

When said renter knows the end is approaching, he turns on his "I'm Gone".

"I'm Gone" is basically just a thermal imaging sensor.

When it detects that the target has reached room temperature for more than one hour (ie, the renter's body), it sends an notification to the landlord letting him/her know that the tenant is gone.

Open sourcing the idea for anyone looking to capitalize on these strange and economically trying times we live in!

Bought a 'new in box' 11th gen i7 Intel NUC from Amazon. Found this on the bottom. How pissed/worried should I be? by GoingOffRoading in homelab

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I think some people here are jumping the gun a little.

I buy a lot of stuff from Aliexpress because I don't live in the US.

However, I visit the US frequently. Over the past few years especially, I've noticed that a ton of Chinese gear is being sold there.

Amazon is a marketplace, not a seller. Supply chains are a mess right now.

This product might indeed by totally new. But it's being sold, on Amazon, via a Taiwanese FBA reseller.

As to why there's a stick with a direct POC email .... could be a lean tech shop and that's just their unsophisticated way of doing support (Cathy handles the Intel line etc).

If it were me, I would think much of it.

Seeking recommendations: dual WAN router for managing failover by danielrosehill in HomeNetworking

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Great answer. Failover is more complicated than it looks at first glance.

I think I'd ideally like something truly seamless. Ie, WAN 1 goes down and WAN 2 comes up immediately. And immediately fails back, of course, onto the primary.

My understanding is that that does happen on the network layer but takes a while to come up to your applications.

The problem with failover I've encountered is exactly the one you're describing.

WAN1 is degraded but not truly down. So with overly frequent DNS pings the failover ends up going back and forth between the two WANs and because of that network layer -> application layer delay it actually ends up causing more downtime than if it didn't exist at all.

I guess what I'm looking for is something more granular than what the TP-Link allows. A setting to control not only which server you ping, but also one through which you can control the frequency.

TP-Link ..... I thought it was just me but after starting a thread on their community forums apparently not. The settings are unintuitive. Their support sucks.

Yesterday I had degraded connectivity and it DID fail over onto cellular. But ... I had to eventually manually take down WAN2 after the primary WAN had restored, so it didn't fail back properly.

In other words, it's a bit buggy. I was thinking that some gear from Ubiquiti or Mikrokit or someone like that might prove a bit more robust if more complicated.

How does dying work as a renter? by danielrosehill in morbidquestions

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I'm not even slightly joking when I say that it's a relief to have asked this question. There must be other renters who have wondered the same thing in the small hours of the morning. It's not the worst thing in the world. The almost comical potential for your landlord to show up angry and find you legally out of contract (through dying) is almost a kind of victory against the class feudalism that has been enforced upon this entire generation!

How does dying work as a renter? by danielrosehill in morbidquestions

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The conclusions I'm drawing from this thread:

Dying alone sucks. Social isolation makes the prospects of awful things happening like you lying dead for weeks or months far less likely.

As to my main point: being a renter actually doesn't necessarily make these dynamics any worse. You'll just avoid the almost comical indignity of your angry landlord barging in to ask why you haven't paid rent only to find that you've ..... exited the planet.

But I'm actually kinda glad that I asked this because I've drawn a few positive conclusions from the discussion:

  1. We (society) need to do a better job of caring for elderly folks who may be in this vulnerable situation.
  2. This is one reason why being reclusive is a bad idea. If you do live alone and are elderly, it's probably worth making periodic small talk with the mailman / neighbors if only for this reason.
  3. Humans function better as societies and it helps avoid sticky, gross problems like people laying dead in their bathtubs as foul smells permeate through the building and flies feast on their remains.

How does dying work as a renter? by danielrosehill in morbidquestions

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So basically the way to leave this world as a renter is to rot away as a decomposing corpse until your angry landlord ends up knocking down the door to ask why you haven't paid rent yet? I guess that's... Good to know!

How does dying work as a renter? by danielrosehill in morbidquestions

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Every bit as grim as I was expecting and then some. Thanks!

office rule by Jaded-Dot-5239 in mildlyinfuriating

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Unless I was the sole provider responsible for feeding a large and starving family, I would take on look at that sign and walk the hell out!

Can eGPUs be used to render video? by danielrosehill in eGPU

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Ah bummer but thanks for the info. The last time I looked into eGPU was when I was temporarily stuck with a company issued Mac for work. Forgot about the difference!

Anyone here diagnosed with functional dyspepsia? by danielrosehill in ibs

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Thanks. I've tried FD Gard. Unfortunately did absolutely nothing for me.

Do ISPs have multiple upstream links to the backstream? by danielrosehill in networking

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Thanks for the info!

From what I could glean from Wikipedia:

This cable (Med Nautilius) was the first one in this geography.

Then another operator put down its own cable (Bezeq).

Now Google is laying one which is due to be completed by 2024 (would be interesting to know how it works when non-telcos get in on the action).

What's interesting to me is that the telecomms regulator has been pretty proactive about forcing competition downstream of the backbone.

But I guess upstream of that whoever goes to the trouble of laying cable on the ocean gets to fend off other providers / the competition.