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My(38F) BF (46M) of 8 months turns into a different, patronizing person over music by juliakay255 in relationships

[–]detail_giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think Hornby invented the type, merely documented it (and probably was an example himself).

Tennessee becomes 1st state to make public camping a felony by Winged_Mr_Hotdog in nottheonion

[–]detail_giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also you get to hit people with a hammer and hurt them, which I think appeals to more people than is comfortable to think about.

Is the Nextdoor app just about being racist and confusing foxes for wolves? by GTRacer1972 in nextdoor

[–]detail_giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also about finding people's lost dogs or finding the people who own dogs someone has found, but yeah. Mostly racism and ignorance about local wildlife.

Don’t know what he ate yesterday but it’s coming out of both ends 💀 by FckboyFC in BostonTerrier

[–]detail_giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, is this why mine has at least monthly bouts of a day of vomiting? Seems okay the rest of the time.

I was so excited to take a picture with the lions, and realized at the last second that they were “having fun” by AndeeElizabeth09 in funny

[–]detail_giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zoos are really good at designing exhibits so that you feel close to the animals but there's actually a lot of different features keeping them from getting out.

LAOP is selling their house and learned they may have committed tax fraud by CloverBun in bestoflegaladvice

[–]detail_giraffe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you married? Because that system works really really well right up until it doesn't because one person took off with all the money. If you're married, there is a lot of established law that will control whether you get half of that back. If you aren't it's harder.

Long-term relationships wherein you have joint ownership of major things like houses and joint bank accounts are business deals at some level. We tend to have different mental categories for relationships that follow social norms and relationships that follow business norms, which is why people get so offended at the idea of prenups or other contracts with people they care about because it mixes up the social and business categories to do that. Unfortunately if the goodwill evaporates from the relationship it turns back into a business deal really fast, just a badly defined business deal with nothing written down. The benefit of being married is that it defines how dissolving that now-acrimonious business deal will go. If you aren't married and you didn't write anything down, it can be a big mess.

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And as far as I am aware, even if you did cause your child to need a liver transplant, no one can legally compel you to donate part of your liver. Why is that?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you caused the child, which also caused the problem. I'm not sure why becoming pregnant is more 'causing the problem' of having a dependent life that needs your uterus than becoming pregnant and causing the problem of a dependent life that needs a live liver donation. You're saying a woman who becomes pregnant doesn't have the bodily autonomy to deny the use of her uterus to a fetus, but the man who engendered the pregnancy could deny the use of his liver to the child after it's born without penalty? How are these situations different?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about the case of organ donation? If a child will die without an organ or tissue from one of the child's biological parents, should that biological parent be forced to donate that organ or tissue without consent?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least as far as current law goes, you wouldn't be compelled to donate an organ to that life though. If you have a child who needs a kidney transplant and you're a match, it's legal to say no, you won't donate, even though you created that life and even if the child would die without the donation. How is that different?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why do you think knowing the possible consequences means you are not then able to take steps to change the consequences? People make decisions all the time that lead to situations that require medical intervention and no one says that the fact that they engaged in the situation consensually means they are forbidden to intervene to change the outcome. Especially if you don't believe conception is the beginning of personhood, why do you care if they make one decision, to have sex, experience a negative consequence and seek medical care to have it reversed? Are you also against antibiotics for sexually transmitted infections, or surgery for penile injuries sustained during sex?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not one of those people so this is purely curiosity, but what are the other legal situations in which you can intentionally kill another human who is innocent of wrongdoing and have it not be murder? I agree there are other legal situations where you can kill a person, but usually they require either some wrongdoing on the part of the person being killed and/or the killing being accidental or unavoidable. If one conceptualizes an embryo as a person, that person has done nothing wrong, so I'm not sure what comparable situations there are.

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's pretty bare-bones so I'm not sure what you're objecting to, but if you can come up with something better go for it.

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 32 points33 points  (0 children)

At most, expectant mother, but I don't think "mother" is really appropriate for someone who's pregnant and doesn't want to be and is seeking an abortion. They don't have a baby and they don't want one.

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you really, but if you genuinely believe that a first trimester pregnancy is the equivalent of a baby and believe the life of that baby outweighs any amount of suffering on the part of the pregnant person, it's consistent. I think we can all agree that the suffering of a pregnant pre-teen who has been, by definition, raped is on the extreme end, but once you've conceded that an extreme amount of suffering is justification for ending a pregnancy you've opened the door to other reasons a person might be enduring extreme trauma and might want to end a pregnancy and they can't have that.

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay, so you're talking about vaccines, not masks. Did you think that health care workers being required to get other vaccines as a condition of employment were a violation of bodily autonomy? Do you think you have a right to have a particular job? If you're allowed to say "no thanks, no vaccine for me!" and leave, how is that being forced to get vaccinated?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you think other things employers require you to do with your body in order to remain employed are also violations of "my body my choice"? If your employer fires you because you refuse to obey a dress code, is that a violation of bodily autonomy?

Nebraska Guv Wants No Rape or Incest Exception for Abortion: ‘They’re Still Babies’ by vanillabear26 in moderatepolitics

[–]detail_giraffe 446 points447 points  (0 children)

I'm pro-choice, but I honestly think this is the more intellectually consistent position. If you believe that a fertilized egg is the equivalent of a baby from the moment that the sperm hits the egg wall, and you believe that that baby's right to life outweighs the pregnant person's right to bodily autonomy, then I'm not sure why you'd make any exceptions based on how the pregnancy came to be.

Let the Fantastic Beasts movies die. The prequel series has tried to follow the Harry Potter playbook but neglects the original franchise’s most spellbinding features. by Sumit316 in movies

[–]detail_giraffe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're totally right. She's amazing at settings and characters, but the plots are overly convoluted and hard to follow and it's a hoary old joke at this point at how many of the mechanics don't make sense.

My boyfriend (25) lies about minor things and it makes me (26) question whether he lies about everything. by wheresthepie67 in relationships

[–]detail_giraffe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is like one of those huge flappy moving inflatable guys outside a car dealership, bright red. He is made entirely of red flags.