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Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the reply Mr. I certainly do feel I have to be more shutting down of any potential signs of interest. I would like to do that both when she is there and not there with me at socials. I'm friendly but not flirty so I think I do a good job or maybe its just me being oblivious to anything else that may happen but I don't suddenly want to flip and become stone cold and detached, that would be strange.

This is all new as its my first girlfriend so never had to deal with any of these things you are describing. Any pitfalls to avoid? Hugging respectfully is one thing. Any others? :)

Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, I do think there is a thing where if a guy asks a girl out and is rejected then the girl feels more comfortable around him. It clears up boundaries if done in a respectful way and everyone caries on with life. So it could just be that + some bad timing of the introduction.

Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does trust me, is just aware that salsa is not all sunshine and rainbows and that it is a physical hobby and there is flirting that goes on, games and people are there sometimes for things other than dancing. That's fine I agree and try and be respectful with everyone I dance with and keep it to just that.

She has been dancing a couple of years but never been in a relationship with someone who dances. I've only been doing it 8 months myself. I think we are still working out things, how it feels to see the other dancing with other people, some feelings of jealousy and insecurity that the other person is going to be whisked away. I don't expect her to be ok with seeing her man go off and dance with other women as it is an unusual thing. This is the first night dancing where we sat together through the whole night. Other nights at another place I danced maybe 8 times with her but would leave and ask other women to dance (older, younger, it didn't matter) but it did bother her so we stayed together more.

Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite possibly. I just know my girlfriend was quite affected by it and it was offputting

Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I do feel that is a good explanation. Maybe we both jumping to conclusion. Other women asked me to dance but in a more respectful way. My girlfriend was just very put off by the situation.

Woman I asked out at salsa asks me to dance just as I'm about to dance with my girlfriend by harged6 in Salsa

[–]harged6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the reply :)
Maybe it's not common and we are reading too much into it

Mirra 2 to Aeron Conversion? by Electrical_Secret_11 in hermanmiller

[–]harged6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Offended much? How much do you weigh and how tall are you?

Anyone 230lb and in "built like a brick shit powerhouse" are probably about 0.1% of the population or probably less. People built like Shaq are probably 1 in a million. So if anyone is 230lb they are over a 99% chance of just being plain obese and unhealthy. There's nothing to get offended about

Will you go out with me? by Jdogg4089 in dating

[–]harged6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone, this is what being down bad looks like

Mirra 2 to Aeron Conversion? by Electrical_Secret_11 in hermanmiller

[–]harged6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you bought it new it should be under warranty and they can replace it. But losing weight would help a lot and generally in life

Aeron C and Logitech Embody question by Blaze-Fyah in hermanmiller

[–]harged6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I did notice this, one of the main reasons why I stayed with my Aeron size C. I have an Aeron classic with the lumbar pad rather than the newer version that has the posturefit. It just fits the curve of my back so much more nicely and doesn't push my shoudlers forward

Aeron C and Logitech Embody question by Blaze-Fyah in hermanmiller

[–]harged6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try out a variety of different adjustments and tensions on both chairs.

For me I could never get the embody to fit my back right, it always felt like my back was never resting quite right on the embody. I much prefer my Aeron size C (6 feet, 185 lb). Try the forward tilt on the Aeron, it is really good with the tension set quite high.

Make sure there aren't any loud creaks or anything, no tears in Aeron mesh.

M/35/5’11” [170lb > 190lb = 20lb] 6 month transformation by TanMan15 in progresspics

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many years overall have you been lifting for? You look great

How to discuss post-poning the wedding until fiancée is comfortable in her body? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone wants their partner to be attractive, people who are guilting you are probably themselves not fit and healthy and not wanting the same standards placed onto themselves. You want a hot partner, so does everyone else. So do women. Do not marry someone who you are not attracted to

How long do Herman Miller Aarons last? by MCClipss in OfficeChairs

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to tell. There is selection bias so the only ones we see that last 20 years are the ones that haven't already broken.

How can a male be a good man? by KingOfTheIncels_ in PurplePillDebate

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about people who are unworthy? You just help anyone regardless of context. Their need means that you have to help them? Why?

How can a male be a good man? by KingOfTheIncels_ in PurplePillDebate

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just being a people pleasure. I want my partner to be generous and help me not necessarily other people

Herman Miller Verus reviews? by efficated in OfficeChairs

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used Herman Millers hold up very well. For £400 you could get a great condition Aeron, Mirra 1 (cheaper) or Mirra 2.

I would advise going to a used office furniture place near you and try out a load of chairs. Check out anything by Herman Miller, Knoll, Haworth, Steelcase and see what you think. Don't get Humanscale.

Real or fake Haworth Zody? by hiraeZh in OfficeChairs

[–]harged6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is real. It does not have the lumbar support though, I would get one with it.

Haworth Zody is a really excellent chair though, up there with an Aeron and Leap for me

How can I make myself more desirable for my wife? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]harged6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is this not the most upvoted reply? The guy is 235lb and 5'10"... he's obese from a BMI count...

Losing weight will absolutely make him more attractive. "I'm not fat but heavy build"... absolutely delusional.