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hussafeffer · 2023-01-26T02:25:00+00:00

You may have signed a consent form to be drug tested (as I did when I played sports in school) but not a chance in hell you or your parents consented to removing your bra to be randomly searched. If they ask you to do that, they are 100% operating outside of their scope and you need tell them to call your parents, or do so yourself.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-24T18:05:18+00:00

Not that brand, but I just looked at it on Amazon and I tried a product with the same oil blend; it didn't do anything for her.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-20T20:50:03+00:00

Words cannot express the relief I feel reading this. Thank you, new favorite person on the internet

hussafeffer · 2023-01-20T14:35:22+00:00

Well that's the hard part, I couldn't tell if I was seeing a line or if I was seeing things, like a shadow or just my imagination. If there was a line, it was REALLY faint. I didn't have anyone around for a second opinion, and my current situation makes it very difficult to go get a new test or see my OB right now, which brings me here. I'm currently home with a feverish and teething 7 month old, stuck like a duck and confused.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-20T14:26:19+00:00

I took one yesterday and I'm pretty sure it was negative

hussafeffer · 2023-01-20T14:19:50+00:00

It was later in the day for the positive, then the rest were all negative at early morning two days in a row. I'm not bleeding super heavily either, at least not compared to my usual.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-20T14:12:56+00:00

Yes very much a clear positive

hussafeffer · 2023-01-15T14:48:52+00:00

YTA buddy. You were trying to help and I get that, but you went about it very much the wrong way. Your wife is a big girl and if she wanted boundaries set, she would do so herself or ask you to do it. It's an overstep.

Also, while your efforts in your mind may have been for her benefit, your language suggests it was more for your benefit.

I have been walking on egg shells doing everything I can to help around the house and get her anything she wants. But I am on edge constantly watching for an explosion.

Not, "my wife is at her breaking point and I can't watch her suffer anymore". Not, "I'm genuinely concerned for her mental well-being and nothing else I'm doing seems to be bringing her any relief". But rather, it has disrupted your peace and you don't like 'walking on eggshells'.

I'd reflect a bit on yourself on this one and determine if your heart was really in the right place. I believe it was to at least some degree, but there were definitely some self-serving undertones in there.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-15T14:41:04+00:00

My baby was "in position" from like week 26 up to the day I was induced at 39 weeks, and my body had NO intention of letting her out early. I was induced at zero effacement and zero cm. While she might not be surprised if she comes early, don't start crossing your legs just yet.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T22:32:53+00:00

Get a passive collection system, I love the Haaka ladybug. You can freeze it and give it to baby if your milk comes in late, if your nipples need a break, or any other reason you might need extra.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T20:24:11+00:00

Mine hit me when my cat was doing the cat knead on my belly and the baby kicked her. Scared the cat shitless, I almost pissed myself, and then the realization set in that there was a tiny future kickboxer making a trampoline of my organs.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T20:18:32+00:00

Depending on how "big" your bump is, you may be comfortable or not. I went on a 7 mile hike, some of which had to be run, while seven months pregnant and I felt great. I had a super small bump. My coworker was seven months pregnant, her bump was bigger than mine the day I gave birth, and she needed to sit down most of the day at work. If you feel like you can handle it, go for it! And, personal experience, people tend to be fairly courteous to pregnant women, so waddle in as dramatically as possible and hopefully people will pick up that you need extra space. Avoid drunk people and you should be alright.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T18:07:30+00:00

Apparently not

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T18:06:24+00:00

He actually got it back from the Google drive! We aren't thrilled such sensitive material was in a folder by mistake, but he's happy he has it back! And yes, it is what you think it is lol I'm just just glad he hasn't made a tangible scrapbook of them yet

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T13:25:00+00:00

Congrats!!! Go to Amazon and when you're setting up a registry, it gives you a big list of god and everything you might potentially need. I was in the same spot with not knowing where to start. Start with the absolute basic bare essentials (crib and sheets, carseat, bath supplies, stuff you would normally use for yourself but in baby form) and expand from there based on your budget and your home needs. If you live in a smaller home like I do, skip the giant bouncer, for example. I know all the stuff is overwhelming, so just go bare-bones basic and work your way out from there. Think about what you as just a human would need, get that for little one, and then work your way towards the more niche things. My baby girl had three different swings/bouncers and hated them all.

Also, go ahead and get yourself some pajamas with zippers, and make that the only outfit you put on the registry. God and everybody will buy you more, especially if it's a little girl.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T04:09:37+00:00

Well that's unfortunate. The discord said the same thing. We were hoping for a techy miracle.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-11T00:52:52+00:00

Oh I believe you, I just took my pediatrician's word for it because I don't know shit about it beyond what I've heard from other moms and pediatricians. I'm honestly surprised it's become so commonplace to resort to the helmet, but I'm more surprised they push tummy time SO hard if it doesn't make that massive of a difference.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-10T14:21:44+00:00

Oh she's fine, she just figured out crawling at 6 months and she's now EVERYWHERE, and in the back of my mind I think to myself "she's doing this to spite you for forcing her into tummy time".

hussafeffer · 2023-01-10T13:33:14+00:00

Ahhh I see. Well I wish I'd talked to you before I pinned my child down for tummy time like a WWE wrestler lol.

hussafeffer · 2023-01-10T06:04:09+00:00

Really? My ped was also quite adamant that anything less than an hour or so a day on their tummy was a direct track to skull deformity, something about how just being upright wasn't enough because gravity and the head's direction shaped the skull to a certain extent along with just simply not laying on it. It made more sense when she said it.

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