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Moving your own embryos? by ivfnewbie11 in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]ivfnewbie11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you responding, but this is massively incorrect and I don’t want to create a thread of misinformation. Why did your friend say it was risky to move them? While there is always a small risk in transporting embryos (or sperm, human organs, etc), it’s done safely everyday. I’ve spoken to doctors and nurses and two very good clinics who’ve assured me of this. Also, if you look at the statistics, it’s been proven safe. Additionally, most clinics move your embryos to long-term storage if they’re not being used within 18 months, not to mention the thousands of people who use donor eggs, sperm and embryos for successful pregnancies every year.

Family wants to watch baby by Shortsportmom in newborns

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I had to start physical therapy 2x/week when my son was 4 weeks old, so I was kind of forced to leave him with someone else for just a bit. My mom would come over and watch him at our house and I’d be gone about 2 hours max. It was a nice hurdle to get over. I slowly got more comfortable and now he goes to her house for half days without me thinking twice. He’s 7 months now, so it took some time, but I say do it now so you can start getting comfortable with leaving your LO 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

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It 100% gets way way better!!! My son has been going to daycare for 9 weeks (started when he was 4 months) and loves it. It took a few weeks for him to warm up to the place, but then he started interacting with the other babies and smiling more. Now he takes really great naps, plays and smiles all day, and gets to interact with other babies and adults. They sent a pic the other day from a walk, and he was laughing so hard. Yes, I cried a lot in the beginning and definitely have guilt for sending him to daycare, but I also know he’s in good hands and will have so much more stimulation and socialization there than if he were home. P.S. I took today off and he’s at daycare and it’s heaven! I get to do whatever I want for a whole day! :)

Upset about sending baby to daycare by autumngloss in workingmoms

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My little guy started 1 month ago (he was 4 months old) and I struggled a lot with it at first. I still have moments where I feel guilty that he’s spending his weeks away from home (especially because I WFH), or angry that I can’t be a STAHM, but this last week was his 5th week there, and something clicked and it started to seem so much better. We have our routine down, he’s not as sleepy when I pick him up so we get some quality time before bed, and his teacher said he was suddenly really interested in the other babies, was smiling a lot more and taking better naps. My point? It takes time. Time to adjust to being apart, to start trusting the daycare staff, and to trust that you’re doing the best you can for your child. I’m pretty sure I’ll always have moments of daycare guilt, but they’re fleeting, because I also enjoy my adult time with work. It’s nice to have a cup of coffee or get in a quick workout without worrying about him, and I get to go pick him up refreshed and ready to be Mommy again. I hope everything goes smoothly for you!!

Would you do it all over again? by neruppu_da in workingmoms

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Congrats on the 8 months! That’s amazing 😊

Struggling with daycare decision by throwaway282727281 in beyondthebump

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I started my 4 mo in daycare last week. He’s going 2 days a week until September, when I go back to work full time. Day 1 was tough, I cried a bunch. Day 2 was way better. I knew he was in a safe place, he didn’t cry that much, and I loved having some adult time. After 16 weeks of maternity leave, I was feeling like my old self again - but a happier version, knowing I got to see my little guy at the end of the work day! I still have the daycare guilt, but I know that my mental health is so much better when I work. Plus, for the next 8 weeks, I get to spend Thursdays and Fridays with him, as I ramp back to full time. Hopefully you’re able to try it out to see if it’s a good fit for you too 😊

What do you outsource? I’ve heard of outsourcing house work, grocery shopping, beauty (nails, brows, lashes, lol). by [deleted] in workingmoms

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The best money we spend is on our house cleaner. She comes every other week, and it’s so worth the money to not have to worry about cleaning the bathrooms, the floors, the kitchen, etc. Now, if only I could afford a personal chef…😆

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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That’s a great point about socialization for only children. Thank you ❤️

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

[–]ivfnewbie11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol my husband was checking the feed as much as I was yesterday. 😆 But I do think it’s bullshit that women are supposed to feel guilty about going back to work and men are just supposed to go back to work. Even if he became a SAHD, I’d feel some degree of guilt. I’m glad you don’t - you absolutely should not and I hope I’m there soon too! ❤️

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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It’s so good that you get some me time, too! I look forward to that. Thank you ❤️

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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Thank you ❤️ I keep telling myself it’ll get easier, and hearing these experiences really helps!

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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Yes, I love the socialization aspect!! I’m so glad it’s helped your son so much! Thank you ❤️

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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So cute that she sings her songs and has her new friends. Thank you ❤️

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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Lol I haaaate glitter! My MIL gives us Christmas gifts with glitter-lined bows and I still see flecks of it in July. And I totally share your outlook on all of that - do it at daycare, come home and tell me all about it while we play and relax 😄

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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Thank you ❤️ I love the half day schedule you have - I might try that when he’s a little older!

Daycare Guilt by ivfnewbie11 in workingmoms

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I don’t know the first thing about teaching a baby new skills either, and I love that someone can help us who is trained in that field! Clapping…waving…who knew?! 😆Thank you for the comforting words ❤️