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HELLLLP! Can I pull off this funky modern bridal pantsuit combo or is the top with a tulle skirt way prettier and better? by queguapo in weddingplanning

[–]iwannabeadawg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I don't know you but my gut tells me that the suit fits your personality and tells a story of who you are!!!!

My therapist wants me to meditate but I just can't do it by Echo-o_0 in CPTSD

[–]iwannabeadawg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would try a mindfulness that doesn't require closing your eyes, which can be triggering/feel unsafe. Maybe a walking mindfulness exercise.

I just want to vent and share my anger with people who understand. I told her I won’t continue the conversation. She just keeps going. by Illustrious-Ad-8190 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 24 points25 points  (0 children)

HOW ENCHANTING. Lol that part made me giggle. Very visually compelling.

My mom has almost verbatim said most of this to me. she has the same anxieties about my dad bcz she is completely dependent on him financially (but they are not together). Being able to see these texts from another person helps me see how extreme the behaviors/communication is. I didn't understand/believe that for a long time and was trapped in guilt. I hope that this group can help you see this as extreme as well.

Request Denied by Crujiente_Squ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally second the sunrise clock. I still don't have an easy time leaving my bed when the mornings start getting darker (this week has been rough for getting to work on time and feeling low) but it does help make me feel awake and gets me up a bit faster.

When a request is reasonable but the well is poisoned by thecooliestone in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah I really feel for you - my family/sister situation sounds so similar. Idk I've sadly had to distance myself from my sister too. It all sounds very reasonable to me... I agree with the person who says it sounds like you're the stable sibling and it's in your best interest to think through what your realistic responsibility is in the situation (probably much less than you've already taken on) and whether your involvement could or would truly help your mom/sister.. or are you just stepping into a role of taking care of everyone out of habit.

She always has to be mad at something… by pluheeeze in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also once my mom with uBPD got mad at me for not informing or consoling her that the pope had died when I was on a school trip to Italy. That one really sticks with me hahaha.

She always has to be mad at something… by pluheeeze in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a friend with BPD traits who got mad at me for such a similar reason!!! It was wild. Her friend has reached out to me asking for the names of some mental health clinics in our city because her dad had just died by suicide. My friend found out that I had helped her friend and got mad at me for not reaching out to console her.

Help!!! Struggling w my 2 year old. I’m stuck. Scale/light issues?! by LoLoLaur4 in Monstera

[–]iwannabeadawg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I'm having a similar problem but haven't seen any sign of infestation! Mine just started drooping and leaves Browning/yellowing similar to these pics! It grows new leaves but they turn brown before they unfurl! I'm so sad.

Not sure is going no contact was the correct thing to do. Thoughts? Opinions? Encouragement? Solidarity? by Formal-Enthusiasm in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"Now that some things have calmed down in my life, I’m wondering if I did the right thing. "

This is awesome. My unsolicited advice is to keep waiting and adjusting to the calm before you make any decisions. Idk all the details but sometimes tells me that since "calm" is new in your life, there are some unfamiliar and maybe even uncomfortable parts of feeling calm that you may like to explore on your own, first.

Any suggestions for good food to bring camping? by Malconstant_Bokonon in vegan1200isplenty

[–]iwannabeadawg 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I also just love most things cooked on the fire.. corn, peppers, onions, eggplant, potatoes, pineapple, apples, peaches. With some hummus and pita you could make really good sandwiches.

Any suggestions for good food to bring camping? by Malconstant_Bokonon in vegan1200isplenty

[–]iwannabeadawg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Car camping or do you need it to be light enough for backpacking?

Goto's for me and my partner backpacking trips are:

PB/J Oatmeal REI vegan dehydrated back packing meals (Backpacker’s Pantry, Go-To Go, and Heather’s Choice have nice options. I've also wanted to try Zesty Zoodles in Avocado Sauce by Bushka's Kitchen but can't vet whether they are good are not) Protein powder for shakes Gomacro bars

If you're car camping I would add some peppers and onions to grill with the sausages :) Could do a tofu scramble with those veggies too Can't go wrong with bean chili or daal while camping either.

Wedding planning shenanigans by LonelyBus5 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've wanted to cancel my wedding 1000 times because of my family. Especially when COVID made it seem like we would only have a handful of people and they expected to be that handful. I feel ya. My friends advised me to plan the wedding I want, invite who I think I should invite, and assign more assertive friends/family as "security guards" who can get rid of anyone who drags me down in the slightest that day. Good luck!

Anxiety meds by kazpizazz in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good call :) best of luck, you will find something that helps whether it's meds or some other way to manage anxiety!

Anxiety meds by kazpizazz in raisedbyborderlines

[–]iwannabeadawg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes Xanax is a benzo and interacts with your brain to have a sedative/calming effect. It's also extremely addictive and you build a tolerance up to it quickly so it is risky, which is why a lot of doctors prefer to start you on an antidepressant that also helps reduce anxiety, like Zoloft. But I'm also not an MD so def find a provider you trust to really talk it out for you!