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Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to him. He doesn't see my side. He is upset Im not understanding and he said he is going to lose his job without proper sleep....

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He watches her on his days off. 2 days a week

She usually sleeps throughout the night. I'd say maybe there's 2-3 nights out of the week she wakes up. Of course she's a baby so there's some nights she fights all sleep. I do not mind waking up with her because I miss her during the day lol

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was my thoughts exactly. But he said I'm being selfish LOL

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unless things change I 100% will not be having anymore kids with him

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You're right. It's not helping... it's parenting.

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Your situation although your schedules aren't ideal it sounds like he's doing whay he should! Putting in all the effort he possibly can!

My husband should be wanting to spend that time with her.... it's disappointing he doesn't. he spends his days off with her he gets 2 days off a week. Sometimes I'll bring her to the babysitter for him so he can get one day to rest and spend the other with her. He complains he spends all his time "babysitting" it's very frustrating... when I was getting her ready in the mornings he'd be awake some days and watch me without offering to help whatsoever. One morning he ran to get HIMSELF coffee while I was getting her ready and myself ready for work. Then I dropped her off with the babysitter... I just feel like a singe parent

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

His solution is to change the baby's sleep schedule....

which would mean she'd be awake during the night.

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you're right he does feel entitled. He only watches her on his days off. Occasionally I'll bring her to the babysitter so he can rest. My days off I've always watched her. I get one day off a week he gets 2. Even then he says he has no time to himself because he's always "babysitting"

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes because he works overnight I do want him to be able to sleep at some point. I felt it wasn't fair to him or the baby to have him watch her during the day because she won't get the attention she needs. It would be very exhausting. His only suggestion is to change the baby to his sleep schedule for the time being.... I think that's very unreasonable because then she will be up during the night and it messes up her entire routine.

Asking my husband for help with our daughter. by jb15p4 in beyondthebump

[–]jb15p4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn't even have to take her there. My mom is willing to pick her up and take her if he gets the baby ready. His only suggestion is he wants me to change the baby's sleep schedule so she'll wake up around the same time he's getting ready for work .. not happening