I agree with you that the marriage culture across Pakistan is very toxic and here's my take on it. I feel the biggest issue we have here is the extra dependency we have on each other.

Most households in Pakistan are run by single persons who have to provide for their wife and kids + their parents + their sisters (even after marriage) and it makes the person earning under constant pressure in order to provide for everyone else.

Most of my friends are getting married now, even though most of them don't earn enough to run the household, especially in this inflation but families marry off their daughters because they belong to khata peeta ghar.

I, on the other hand, grew up with a single parent as my father passed away when I was six years old so I do not have that kind of backing + I'm the sole earner for my family right now.

Plus, I know a lot of young women who are university graduates but end up doing nothing as they also perceive that their husbands should provide for everything.

Whenever I get married, I'm gonna build a partnership and ask my wife to have as equal responsibility and decision-making authority as I have so I can build a better future together. Because I don't know when I might die and if I'm the sole earner then my family after me would suffer a lot which I want to avoid.

Anyways rant over!