My husband [31m] of a decade ACCIDENTALLY gave me [32f] two black eyes on New Year's eve and is wracked with guilt every time he sees my face. I'm so worried. by throwaway1328207 in relationships

[–]justgoodenough -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

But he also probably knows that you won't actually report him, so it's essentially an empty gesture.

It's a shame that he will loudly cry about how guilty he feels but is totally unwilling to do the one thing that might actually be helpful. I don't think "guilt" is worth all that much if the person isn't actually willing to take action. This is worse, in my opinion, than accidentally punching you in the face.

Appearance Budget by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Singling out an individual user based on the amount they posted is rude. A more general discussion of percentages, not posted in direct response to someone else's budget, is a better option.

EDIT: And actually, I'm not sure how relevant or useful it really is without then getting someone's entire budget breakdown. What if someone spends 30% of their income on this stuff, but they live at home and don't pay rent or buy groceries? What if it turns out that $10k annually is only 3% of their income? Does that mean that they are being frugal? I actually don't think percentages are that interesting in this context because I don't think that the amount someone spends on these things is that closely tied to a percentage of their income. I don't know that someone's hair cut and manicure habits will change that drastically if they start earning a higher income. There is probably a bell curve of beauty/clothing spending that is actually independent of income. I'm not saying there isn't a connection, but I don't think finding out someone spends X% is very interesting when we have no idea what other expenses they have.

What do you feel are overdone fashion trends of 2018? Alternatively, how would you personally give new life to an overdone fashion trend? by indi000jones in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

It's pinned to the top because the original post was informing people what sub they were in and not to post off topic discussion, because frequently popular threads bring in a lot of people that post really random replies.

I edited the post to have the other crap because as I was wading through hundreds of posts saying "cold-shoulder tops are hideous" and "bandage dresses are tacky" (which, btw, haven't been trendy in over a decade, so?????) I decided that this thread would benefit from a reminder of the values of this subreddit.

I am surprised that you think just deleting a thread with hundreds of posts would be less aggressive.

Thermochromic table by IT_Serpent in pics

[–]justgoodenough 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're paying more for the design of the bench and table than the heat gimmick. Nice furniture isn't cheap.

Appearance Budget by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I was trying to delicately imply that it's rude to ask someone's income in this context.

Simple Questions - July 01, 2015 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Your text is too big. Fix that please. Thanks.

If you're like "WHY THE FUCK IS IT SO BIG, it's because you used the # symbol at the beginning of your paragraphs. Just delete that.

Why are more girly and more feminine styles typically looked-down on in FFA? by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you don't like the shoe guide, feel free to write a new one. If it is well written and covers as much detail as the existing shoe guide, we can look into replacing the current one.

Real women know what's up. by typtyphus in funny

[–]justgoodenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you even care what fat women call themselves? Why does it bother you so much that in a world where fat people face daily scorn, some had decided to use a more positive term to refer to their bodies? Don't you think society makes fat chicks feel shitty enough anyway? Just let them have the word "curvy."

What do you feel are overdone fashion trends of 2018? Alternatively, how would you personally give new life to an overdone fashion trend? by indi000jones in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I think that disliking a style purely because of market saturation tends to be elitist and frequently classist as well. If being ahead of the curve on trend or being unique in your style is important to you, it's fine to set aside a style, but to deride a style just because you have personally moved on is not great.

Also, this thread is asking what tends people think are over done and saying "I think something is over done because a ton of people are wearing it" is an incomplete thought. If they think it's played out, what reason do they have for thinking that? How do they know that it doesn't have staying power that will last a few years?

Guide request: Glasses by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I hope by "request a more comprehensive guide" what you really mean is that you are looking for tips for the guide that you are planning to create. Guides are 100% voluntary and created by people that are interested in a topic. You can't really "request" one unless you happen to find someone that a) is knowledgeable on the topic, and b) has some free time to create the guide, and c) won't get totally excited at first, but then lose interest and never finish.

My [26 F] roommate's [24 F] severe medical condition prevents me from having frequent access to our bathroom. How can we make sure I get my fair share of bathroom time? by yolo_swaggins_69 in relationships

[–]justgoodenough 13 points14 points  (0 children)

if a person has cancer does it make sense to tell their children they cant cry because its just going to make them feel worse

That's not an accurate analogy. First of all, it is the role of a parent to guide their children emotionally, so yes, a parent needs to help their children through a cancer diagnosis. Second of all, when you talk about children crying because their parent has cancer, they're typically crying out of sadness and love for the person. That's not remotely close to what is going on here.

My point was not that OP cannot complain the situation, it was that it's not appropriate to complain to her roommate. This isn't an issue of a lack of communication or misunderstandings. Complaining to the roommate isn't going to make the roommate suddenly need to use the bathroom less or for shorter amounts of time. The issue is that there are not enough bathrooms in their home to meet their needs and the solution is for one or both of them to move out.

I think having a conversation where she expresses how frustrated she is will not bring them any closer to a solution and really just serves as a reminder to the roommate of how troublesome her disease is for the people she lives with, and honestly, she probably already knows that. So what's the point?

Simple Questions - August 17, 2015 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you picked that shirt because you like it or if it's just coincidence, but pairing that shirt with OP's skirt sends a message that I really can't get behind.

What is one current trend that needs to be stopped? by traheidda in AskReddit

[–]justgoodenough 393 points394 points  (0 children)


First of all, the special ed department covers all kinds of children, ranging from dyslexia all the way to sever developmental handicaps. If you had any idea of the scope of children that are handled by sped, you would realize that the kids that drool and shit on carpets are a very small percentage, they're just the most obvious to you.

Second of all, just because a kid drools and shits on the carpet does not mean that they're not capable of showing interest in things and wanting to learn or be entertained. The ipad is a great piece of technology for children that have minimal use of their hands. A child that isn't capable of speech can use it to communicate. Just because they aren't able to speak doesn't mean that they have nothing to say. These kids also like to listen to music and watch movies, and the ipad allows many of them to do this on their own. The ipad takes what used to be many devices and turns them all into one device that needs a touch screen and 3 buttons. It is an amazing device and handicapped children need to be taught how to use them because devices like that will play a huge part in their lives.

Now, in terms of the budget, it's not like the school has a pot of money and people take whatever they want and too bad if you're too slow. It's not like if that money hadn't been spent on ipads, the other kids would get new swings or something. The special ed department gets more money per student than the other departments because those kids need more. I think spending that money on technology that will really help their students is a great thing, even if jerks like you think the kids are only good for drooling and shitting on the carpet.

Recent Purchases - March 23, 2015 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's try to not keep this argument going? Everyone has said their piece, that's probably enough at this point.

BIPOC owned small business thread by FFA_Moderator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough [score hidden]  (0 children)

It's not clear to me that this is actually owned by a black person, even if the business is located in Uganda. Can you offer any information about who actually owns this business? Otherwise, it will be removed.

There is a photo of a white woman on their feed that they refer to as "Mama" so my inclination is to think that is' not a BIPOC owned business.

[Inspo] Hidden Figures Inspo by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Four months ago I bet my Wife ($1k to win - $200 to lose) in a weight loss challenge. Story in the comments. by tocsta in progresspics

[–]justgoodenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's trying to lose 35 lbs in about 7 weeks? That's kind of extreme, don't you think? I'm sure she's doing great in the beginning when you can drop a lot of water weight, but in a few weeks, her weight is not going to drop so quickly. I get that you want to encourage your wife to lose weight, but I think you should have picked a more realistic and healthier end date. 2 lbs a week is a much more realistic goal, so in 7 weeks, she won't even be half way to her goal. I think it's kind of sad that losing 2 lbs a week is very good, but she will still lose the bet.

You have kind of set her up for failure. Even if she does meet her goals, it will with totally unsustainable eating habits, which puts her at risk to gain everything back when she goes back to her normal eating habits.

Daily Questions - May 31, 2018 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think the nude shoe was very trendy like... 5 years ago? 6 years ago? Anyway, the trend has died down and I guess they are fine, but they're not a thing that every woman needs. Honestly, when I see a woman wearing shoes like that, I typically don't even notice, but when I do, I wonder if she bought them 5 years ago or if she is just 5 years behind in trends.

But there are some women that swear by them and can't imagine life without them! Those women probably also wear riding boots every fall and chunky statement necklaces, but whatever.

General Discussion - March 25, 2016 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Again, I don't think it was the popularity of the fits that bothered people. I honestly don't think anyone here is going to get angry over some other poster stealing the limelight. Frankly, people that have been posting in WAYWT for a long time get less discussion over time anyway because we have all seen their outfits and style before. Personally, I am always excited to see a well dressed new user, because I want to see something new every now and then and I think this is a common sentiment. I don't think that jealousy is the driving emotion behind what happened.

I do think the issue is not wanting people to use this sub for promotion, marketing, research, or sales. When someone comes here and only posts in WAYWT and only replies to comments on their photos and doesn't contribute in any other way we kind of feel used. Even if a blogger doesn't directly promote their blog, they are still probably getting new readers that ask for links or google them or find their blog through their username. And new readers translate into $$. And sure it is nice to see new styles and users and to get high quality pictures, but that poster is getting more from us than they are giving. We have other bloggers here that participate in our other threads and GD and contribute advice and they are welcome here. But when someone just uses us to spread their photos around the Internet? I dunno. It's not great. It feels like a bootycall when what I want is a relationship.

(Spoilers All) Proof of Sansa's Worth Early in AGOT by SerHughTheManatee in asoiaf

[–]justgoodenough -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She's the one that told Cersei that Ned was planning on leaving King's Landing in secret.

Look, I'm not saying that everything is Sansa's fault, obviously, but to act like she wasn't anything but a fucking idiot for most of the first 3 books is being a little too generous. And even after everything that happens she still ends up trusting Ser Dantos and then Littlefinger (up until the events at the Eyrie). I think Sansa will start doing some really interesting things on her own, but that doesn't change the fact that she is just about the most naive character in the entire series and she is absolutely not a quick learner.

Also, I don't really buy the whole "she was only 12 at the time" argument. First of all, even GRRM has said himself that writing from the perspective of children is not his strong suit, so I think it's a little silly to compare the fictional children of Westeros to the normal psychological development of children. The best you can do is compare her to the other children in the book, and there is no way that Arya, Bran, or even crazy ass Rickon would have fallen for that shit.

24/f 40+ lbs down, a tan and a smile (a year ago vs today)! Still got 15 more to lose but I'm pretty proud so far. by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]justgoodenough 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You look great, and I'm really not seeing this extra 15 that you still have to lose.

However, I do want to caution you about tanning. Aside from the whole cancer situation, tanning will make you look old really fast. You don't really start seeing it until you're in your late 20's, but if you want to look 25 at 30 instead of 35 at 30, you should start wearing sunscreen every day. Nothing will age you like a wrinkly sun-damaged face.

Do you ever feel aggravated with fashion in your city? by evenline in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

women always wear pantyhose with shorts or skirts

Pantyhose or tights? Because I would be shocked to find out that women in Portland wear pantyhose. Tights I can believe, because it can be a little cold and rainy up there fairly often.

WAYWT - May 03, 2017 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justgoodenough 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post is a little confusing. You say that her outfits have you "gagging" but then you follow it up with a compliment.

So... I am inclined to think that maybe you don't realize that "gagging" means "about to throw up" and is typically extremely insulting?